In search of lost Paradise

This is the side of life that don't tell my daughter over a Cup of tea, and over a glass of something stronger does not share with every friend, this is when your own wedding photo cut eyes, as the midday sun. Secret romance. An affair. Adultery. Black or bright spot on the soul and in the biography?



Time adultery


"Forbidden" digit of the telephone number as the formula of love, perhaps the dim light of the midnight lamp, for sure, trembling hands. Extracurricular buying milk is another myth - making: "... you Know, I lied, that will stay on the job (will spend the night at Natasha, she is now so hard), but in fact... " Revelations from the spirit of the jokes about the lover in the wardrobe. The dose of adrenaline undoubtedly greater than that usually get for the money at ski resorts.




"I don't like the concept of "treason", - says Sergey Agarkov, D. M. H., psychotherapist and sex therapist. It's from the series ideological: "Remember: changing me, you change the country". In fact, the origins of non-marital Affairs is not to be found in the desire to assert themselves or to take revenge on the partner. Rather, it is a search for lost love".




According to European statistics, 70 % of men and 50 % women at least once in this life cheated on his half. Moreover, a significant proportion of the novels - the continuation of employment. There, under the fluorescent lights of the office, the man is seen in the best features, in addition to a plus - especially for men - you can go the "correct" status-official hands.




"The first danger zone adultery occurs in 2-4-year marriage. During this period, erode hormonal Fleur: the level of love hormones, endorphins and phenylethylamine falls, and the marriage turns into a everyday company, where a lot of boiled potatoes, television and children crying and so little romance.




Loss of drive, which many perceived as the loss of love. We want to understand where is the earthly Paradise, and why we don't let him go, and look for repetition of happiness in a new relationship... " - continues Sergey Agarkov.




According to family therapist Inna Khamitova, one of the common causes of early adultero is incorrect "read" sexual signals to each other.




"The fact that perceptions of sexual attractiveness we laid in early childhood: the image of a parent or close relative of the opposite sex, " she said. For example, a man was brought up by mother-homebody: warm, cozy, in Slippers and dressing gown, and the girl drilled dad was a military man, not ustavshii to remind you that the ribbon should be oglasheny, shoes polished. As a result, in the subconscious of this pair laid diametrically opposite patterns of sexual attractiveness. She runs home early to get dressed up to do makeup for the arrival of her husband, and he, seeing her "parade" takes it as a sign of rejection. Because for him, it pomaded kind of signal that we should get out of the house. Eventually went to the club with grief drunk, and the next morning she is in a Bathrobe with a sore head becomes for him incredibly attractive, but this option is not inspired by her".




Inna Khamitova agrees Sergey Agarkov, suggesting that in our culture to discuss sexual problems are not taken so much so that sometimes it is easier to find the entrance to the side. Often secret romance "zerkala" the structure of relations in marriage: "If a man brings home a woman mild behavior and puts her Bathrobe wife, this is a sure sign that the marriage is not enough flirting and sexual liberation. If he prefers to go with someone else's lady to the theater and cinema, this is evidence that the family had, but lately has become very weak socio-cultural communication".




The next time bomb explodes in the years of maturity. When sissy tracks-Bob is a magical metamorphosis: all of a sudden he becomes a respectable Nikolai Ivanovich, Deputy General Director and the object of interest of young beauties. He is looking for on the side if not the puppy's enthusiasm, some of piety, just what legitimate half is not able to provide, because she remembers his student without a penny. At the same time the woman feels that it is not so like men, as before. She is afraid to lose confidence and get into a situation of psychological and physical dependence on a spouse and to ensure that there is a "powder in the tank", is adultery. The last crisis period of marriage has for years "last" youth: "the Children grew up and separated, the nest empty, the social foundations of marriage enterprises exploded. In this situation, the novel is an attempt to jump into the last car of the train," says Agarkov.




Ceremony




We can convince ourselves that man is by nature polygamous, that Anna Karenina is a novel about the tantrum, but the early monster Basilisk, a creature with the head of a cock and the body of the toad, symbolizing in the framework of Jungian direction lust and lust, Yes, no, no and look into the eyes of the lucky ones on two houses.




Frivolous word "adultery" are feeling some serious heat. After which invariably raises the problem of moral choice. To remain silent or to confess, to stay or to leave, just to fool the wife-husband or add to a strong batch of self-esteem bar called "lying".




"Instinctive sphere dictates polygamy, and, of course, monogamy is a choice kulturno-conscious, " says Inna Khamitov. But the original laid polygamy is not a good excuse chronic adulterous. Unlike polygamy, which exists still in some Muslim countries, such novel assumes no responsibility. And if people related by marriage, easily goes on relationships, the development of which is not assumed, it is evidence of his psychological immaturity. Because instead of having to search for resources within the family, he just escapes into a new situation".




From the point of view of psychoanalysis on the side - to some extent-searching, a sublimated desire for individuation. And the first radical attempt to redefine the notion of "treason" did Sigmund Freud, explaining sexuality within the libido, energy, causes a person to action. Jung did not share the views of Freud on the dominant role of sexuality, assuming that there is a universal psychic energy that can be directed into different channels feeding among other things and sexuality. According to Jung, a variety of sexual activities, dreams, fantasies are nothing like the intense experience of the symbols of spiritual development of humanity, the search for identity and individuation. The prerequisite for this is the ability to pluralism, combining psychological antipodes, which can occur in all sorts of ways, consciously and unconsciously, through good and evil. Mysterium conjunctionis, the sacrament of communication and merging of opposites, is implemented in the not too puritanical sexual fantasies and actions. Not necessarily they are associated with warm relations, on the contrary, are often in the form of "animal" liberated sexuality.




"The path to spiritual maturity through collision with shadow, inner destructive beginning. In this context, masochistic experience ' forbidden novel" represent the experience of the phenomenon of shadows, " said the analyst Oleg Kurakin. Masochism, totally unproductive from a biological point of view, the pleasure inflicted upon himself the punishment reflects the acceptance of personality destructive and inevitable human suffering... ".




To the left and back




The novel was ended. It was an obsession, a passion, an attempt of self-knowledge, the fusion of opposites, and perhaps the impulse to self-development? Experts are sure that if something similar happened in your life, equally unproductive to look for someone to blame ("You I have little interest in, your mother is driving me insane, and that's what brought") and infinitely to execute itself ("Now I'm the creature").




In the first case, it's infantile attempt to topple the responsibility of shifting the blame. In the second case - putting the "wrong" foundations for future relationships. After all, guilt, whether we like it or not, pushes us to irritation against whose forgiveness should be looking for.




"Adultery is, of course, an escape, a temporary escape from marriage, but, in my opinion, more intelligent than divorce, " says Sergey Agarkov, - marriage forces us to rethink the situation and to overestimate the value. To some extent this charitable rain on the parched field conjugal life, where everything is safe, but dull".




He recalls that affair - though Vysokomolekulyarnye relationship with a huge release of endorphins, but their novelty and urgency has its own life cycle. Short. On average, one to two years. Further a person the feeling that he was in the second round, only, perhaps, with less recoil. Disappointment gives impulse to self-development. Over time, the passions on the side is devalued, and the runaway (runaway) of the family nest begins to appreciate what gives him (or her) marriage. Remember in the film "Love and doves": "let it be, that it was Rice-SPI yours, razluchnitsa. But look how it showed how much I love you how you love me, what kind of children are we good".




Certainly, the experience in itself is valuable. If only because it identifies errors and provides an opportunity to correct them. Of course, if the error is not the marriage itself...




The bigotry




in sexual matters is often accusing the leaders of the reformation, because they not only have advanced significant limitations in sexuality, but also acted as a role model. However, even they did not always succeed. For example, strict pastor Ulrich Zwingli of Zurich had to answer numerous accusations of profligacy, which was exposed in his youth, as follows: "I do not deny that it has entered into a relationship with so many women, but I never attempted to honor virgin and had not defiled the bed of a married person".





Lovers-recidivists


When adultery becomes habitual form of existence, is a serious cause for introspection. In fact, donganmen is fear of intimacy or intimofobiya. Usually the inability to build and develop relationships associated with deprivation - lack of love that people have experienced in childhood. You should not justify similar style searches "his man", a perfect partner - the ideal is unattainable. In a series of numerous links lost depth, and as a result, all relationships become superficial.





One night stand


Adventure for one night - a kind of adultery in the format of light. According to international research conducted in the United States and several European countries participated 5000 women and 3,000 men), two-thirds of respondents at least once in their life ventured on such experiments. The result is not impressed by the vast majority of women. But more than half of the men said that it is much more exciting than sex with regular partners. Most women one night stand happened once or twice in my life. Only 30 % of practicing this attitude every two months, and 5% once a month, and only 1 % - regularly on weekends. And yet a third of men (28 %) very low opinion of women who agree to one night stand. Women have similar feelings towards members of their own sex have 48 %. While 29 % of them say they would change for the worst attitude to her friend if she knew that she was capable of such an adventure.

Author:

Ephraim D.


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Psychology in every day

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7 signs of male infidelity

Although we prefer to trust my intuition and to think that she will never let us down, whether or not in such a delicate issue is to rely on feelings and instincts? Is it true that women with a birth have a strong intuition that you can trust with absolute certainty?


Our grandmothers were entrusted to the material evidence and material evidence: the trail of lipstick on the collar of his shirt, found in his jacket pocket the letter from his mistress. Sometimes the cause of accusations of infidelity became irrepressible working zeal that makes men spend too much time outside the home... But the days when men's infidelity could go unnoticed, left far in the past! In fact, men have reached such heights in the art of deception that women had to "adjust" at the biological level and to cultivate the sixth sense, as the radar sensing of male infidelity. But I'll repeat: if there is enough intuition to a guilty verdict? If only there were real evidence of adultery, supporting our conjecture... it's a Pity that they do not exist. Or is it not so?





1. Missing


If the beloved is so often lost at work or in a friendly companies that you want to declare it in search, do you really have a cause for concern. He had no home, or he constantly hangs in the company of old (or new) friends with whom categorically does not want you to introduce. He needs more time to "men's entertainment", he had a new hobby, for example, the fascination with exotic sport, to which he devotes all his spare time instead of coming home, to fall into a chair with a beer and watch TV. He does not respond to your calls and calls back a few minutes later, work it all the time "at the meeting". Holidays (Day of St. Valentine, Christmas, New year and his birthday) he disappears with a skill that would envy himself David Copperfield. The most common excuses: visiting relatives and jobs involving all hands at work.





2. No sex in your city


Infidelity men certainly affect your sex life: as your wish, he meets another woman and in another place, to perform the marriage of forces does not remain. Sexual attraction between the couple is weakened, the husband reluctantly gives wife oral fun or trying to reduce the prelude to a minimum, so sex becomes routine and takes no more than ten minutes. Many women notice a cooling in the relationship and the loss of intimacy - husband (partner) hesitate to show tenderness to the people, serve the public hugs and kisses. On the other hand, if a loved suddenly became very gentle, attentive and caring, it also should alert you. Perhaps he feels guilty and tries to make amends for it. Another reason for suspicion - better sexual techniques, new techniques and poses that you had not tried. In short, if your favorite shows miracles of ingenuity in bed to look at it more closely.





3. Cold as ice


In the beginning of a relationship you do everything together, so why is one day everything changes, and Saturday night you spend in the cocktail bar with friends or on the last session with them? If you loved is still, how and with whom you spend time in his absence, perhaps he is too busy with their own plans. He was not interested in your stories, never shares his thoughts and impressions, indifferent, refused to discuss your relationship and all your attempts to discuss the crisis is responsible hostile "I don't Have time for this nonsense." Sound familiar? Perhaps his detachment can be attributed to the solution of global problems, but it is possible that his mind is another woman.





4. Spyware passion


Not have you ever noticed that the last time favorite behaves somewhat strange and even suspicious? His phone calls are so secretive, as if it were a matter of national security? Well, men are making a lot of effort to maintain the confidentiality of the information contained in the memory of the mobile phone, in order to hide from you the phone numbers of other women and obscene text messages. Women often notice that men are very wary with your phone, go to talk in another room, or even bathroom, to include water in order to drown out the conversation, vibrating, or set the phone password.




If you suspect a loved one of infidelity, pay special attention to text messages. For example, he receives an SMS at any time of the day, as to your question, what happens responds innocent phrase: "Honey, I just brought the phone service". By the way, passwords, men love to set not only in phones, but also in computers. If he has anything to hide, he won't let you even get close to his computer, so his betrayal, perhaps manifested in virtual reality. Other signs of possible infidelity: he hastily turns or close the Internet window when your presence in the room, quickly and concisely answers the telephone, as if wanting to end the conversation. Of course, this is not direct evidence, but only about a better look at her beloved.




5. The new version, improved and expanded




You have been together for a long time, and your relationship has long passed the stage of courtship and efforts to impress in the second half, and now, all of a sudden, he again spends in front of a mirror and a wardrobe for hours! He was so concerned with caring for themselves, so courteous, so stylishly dressed - it's a pity that he was trying so hard not for you! "Well, the man is inherent. dress. Smart. Sometimes, perhaps, will think you're right. Think it should be, when you notice in his wardrobe new underwear! Know this: men are buying new underwear ONLY when hope is that they will have to undress and linen will be appreciated and will make the right impression. Agree, for you to try so would not - we all know that men can wear shorts up until you finally get bored, and you don't buy them a new pair. And now, he not only updates the closet (including intimate), but spending more time in the bathroom, often taking a shower, especially when coming home after a long absence. If he has not returned to training, he has only one reason to flee immediately to the shower - he needs to get rid of the evidence of treason!




6. Only friends




Know the difference between friends and "friends"? Your bad boyfriend or husband knows that if his affair will take a long time, he needs a good and convincing cover - to convince you that he has friends and a girlfriend, with whom he sometimes spends time. Well, in case your girlfriend will see him in a cafe with another woman. So he uses the card of the "female friend". Get ready for what he will tell you about a colleague at work - you hear about it almost every day, but to acquaint you he does not hurry up. He can talk about it as a work colleague or friend, or to convince you that can't stand her, but in fact the opposite is true. In any case, listen carefully and try to learn about this woman as much as possible - perhaps we are talking about your opponent! By the way, once on its corporate party, try to explore as much as possible from the local gossips - no doubt, they will gladly share with you any facts and suspicions.




7. Sleeping toys




A man comes home from work tired is normal, but not every day?! If he is always tired and all your comments, actions, and even silence cause irritation, perhaps he is working on a "fusion" of a different kind than what he told you. In addition, he quickly loses his temper over trifles, looking for a pretext for a quarrel, which never wants to settle immediately, explaining that he needs to "think". This and any other excuse he uses to leave home. All that before him you liked him and arouse desire, now its just annoying. It used to be entertained by your shortcomings, and now he puts them you blame. Maybe it's because now it entertains another woman. As you know, the best defense - attack, so get ready for that favorite will blame you. of infidelity! If he starts to examine the entries in your phone, email and in detail asks you about how you spent the day, so he tries to distract your attention and to pacify his conscience. And maybe own betrayal caused him to suspect infidelity you.




No matter how skilled men in this game, they still sometimes make mistakes. And although this is only circumstantial evidence (every year men are becoming more careful and inventive, smart woman enough.

Source:

Women's Club

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Sex panacea...

It is difficult to say that you can register the local doctor to treat any sores average scall. However, the leading physicians of the world have found a unique remedy: sex! Its side effects have magical properties. And the best part is that you even with doctor consult no need! Found that sexually active people are much less likely to get sick, enjoying life more, much friendlier and more sociable behave. Thus, a favorite in your bed might save you the way to the nearest pharmacy, visit to a beauty salon and a sleepless night due to the lack of inspiration. Because sex...



... Relieves pain


The reason is that when the orgasm significantly blunted the sharpness of pain. Vybrasyvaetsya in blood endorphins act like morphine, is that not so long. Thus, in the pain centers is switching. Migraines or headaches may not appear, and premenstrual pain in the lower abdomen almost disappear.





... Improves immunity


American scientists have found that sex prevents colds. People who have sex once or twice a week, in the blood more antibodies of the immunoglobulin group A. They protect against colds and other infections, with their help quickly heal wounds. But remember: bigger is not always better. Those who indulges in the pleasures of love more than two times a week, much less a Taurus And than those who are more moderate, but regular sex.




... Does not get better




Love games - the most beautiful sport. During 30 minutes of active sex burns about 350 calories, which is relevant to the duty to regulate 40 minutes Jogging. As well as during sex constantly straining the abdominal muscles, it replaces the 15 minutes of special exercises to burn fat in the gym.





... Makes you beautiful


This is facilitated by the release into the blood of the female hormone estrogen. It improves the ability of cells to regeneration, and promotes collagen formation. The skin longer remains elastic, without wrinkles. Studies of American scientists has shown that women who have sex at least once a week, much higher levels of estrogen in their blood than abstaining. By the way, high blood levels of estrogen prevents the appearance of cellulite and cramps, as it stimulates the smooth operation lymph nodes.





... Stimulates creativity


People who have sex a lot and with pleasure, often circulate in the blood stimulating hormones coristol and adrenaline. The energy produced by the sexual organs, stimulates the pituitary and pineal gland of the brain, greatly improving circulation. German scientists believe that sex not only increases the attention and ability to concentrate, but also increases creativity, enriching the minds of star bulk fresh ideas.




... Uplifting




When orgasm is released into the blood substances conducive to good health: endorphins and serotonin. Natural psycho-cocktail, giver of bliss. Women who live active, full sexual life, is much more tolerant to others, less depressed, almost don't feel unjustified fear. It is useful to know that sex is the perfect way to relieve fatigue and stress.

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The theory of sex including 2

Why do men only one on my mind"


Men want sex; women love. Known for thousands of years, but why this is so and that should be done rarely discussed. This difference represents the main source of controversy, complaints and quarrels between man and woman. Ask a woman what she wants to see the man. Most of them usually will not be slow to list: with broad shoulders, slim waist, strong arms and legs, that is, it must have all what a man needs for a successful hunt wild beast. In addition, he must be attentive, tender, understanding it, and a good talker, which means: to have and all the features, peculiar to women. Unfortunately, the combination of the male body and female features usually found only in "blue" or feminine men. Men need to learn and practice the art to please a woman, it is not given over. He was a hunter - he is programmed to solve problems, obtaining food, and the battle with the enemy. At the end of the day he just wants to sit, staring into the fire, and make some forward-return movements to support the number of people in the tribe to par. To the woman felt the need for sex, she needs to feel loved, adored and needed. And here comes into effect the fact that most people do not pay attention. The male sex right before he will understand women's feelings. And the woman, unfortunately, it is necessary that he first understood it, and only then she will want sex. Male configured hunting. His body is arranged so that he could pursue prey, despite the cold, heat, pain. His skin because it is insensitive to burn, scrape or cold does not distract him from execution of the main task. Historically, that man lived in a world of battles and death, in which there is no place for sentimentality, there is no way to understand someone else's feelings and needs. If a man will spend time in conversation or begin to comfort someone, then it will distract him from his main task: to defend the tribe. Women need to realize that this approach is biological determinism men, and to develop a strategy and tactics that take into account this factor.




Women mother from childhood that men "one mind" - the sex but they are not quite right. The man also wants love, but can only perceive it through sex. Sexual priorities of men and women so different that torment because of that each other makes no sense. None of them unable to cope with the nature: so we arranged. However, opposites drawn to each other. Only two homosexuals, whether men or women, sexual desire have the same nature: that is why the homosexuals are no disagreements on this occasion, in contrast to heterosexual men and women.




Why suddenly stop sex




First, who said the catch phrase that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach, took a sight too high. After good sex man manifests his different, softer, more feminine side. It can finally hear the birds sing, wonder what beautiful trees around, retrogames, listening to the song. To sex a bird he could see only if she gets on his shiny car. But the man must realize that this is only after sex manifested side of his nature, the woman he loves and finds ravishingly attractive. If he could change the order of the manifestations of the different sides of his nature, then he could bring a woman to have sex. At the same time, the woman must understand the physical importance of sex to men to see then another, gentler side of his nature and to explain to him how she was attractive.




At the beginning of the ensuing relationship, the sex is always great, and the fire is burning on both sides. She generously gives herself to him physically, and he pays her great emotional love, and one feeds the other. However, after a few years the man completely covered by the process of obtaining food, and the woman - the maintenance of order in the nest: because of that sex and love can evaporate. Man and woman are equally responsible for their good or bad sex life, but in reality, if things go no matter each of them blames the other. Man must understand that a woman needs attention, praise, comfort, and a lot of time to properly warm up your electric stove. A woman must remember that all this man will show most likely after generous helpings of sex, and men should remember what his feelings after the hot arms, and to show their feelings to a woman next time he will want. The woman should be ready to help him. The key to everything in this case sex. When a good sexual relationship, followed by the improvement in the rest of the.





What men want in sex


Very small to defuse the sexual tension orgasm. After sex a man weighs less (some say because he had deserted brains), he lost part of his body and needs rest to recover. That is why a man often falls asleep after loving act. A woman that can get angry, she may think that he is simalube and inattentive to her needs.




In addition, men use sex as a physical manifestation of what they can't Express emotionally. If a man is concerned, for example, he can't find a job to pay the bills, to settle the differences, in order to relieve stress it is likely to resort to sex. The woman usually does not understand this and is outraged that her "use", not noticing that the man has trouble with which he cannot cope. There are few problems that a man could not cope after a successful sex. Tests show that the man who wants to have sex, hard of hearing, bad thinking, bad driving, bad manages complex technique. In addition, he shows a distorted perception of time, when three minutes subjectively stretch as fifteen. If a woman wants to get the good advice, it would be better for her to ask my question after sex, when in his mind he clarified.





What they want from sex women


To feel satisfaction from sex, the man should defuse the tension. In women, the situation is the opposite: it is necessary to accumulate a voltage for a long period of time with pre-game, which must be the attention and uttered many words. He wants to empty itself, it is to fill. An understanding of these factors makes men and women more attentive lovers. Usually, women need not less than thirty minutes prior to the game before it Matures for sex. Man enough for that thirty seconds, and as a pre-game, he usually counts and the road to her home.




After sex blood woman full of hormones, and it is ready to embrace the whole world. She wants to be caressed, touched it, nursed her and talked to her. Man, if he by that time I fell asleep, "withdraws into himself, or begins to do something: to change a light bulb or coffee. These actions help him to recover.





Why men are silent, having sex


At one time a man can engage in only one case. When he has an erection, it's hard to tell, listen to, or driving - that's why men rarely speak during copulation. Sometimes the woman has to listen to his breathing, to understand what he stage. A man loves when a woman says obscenity, about what it can do and how shall call him blessed - but only before sex, not during. A man can lose passion (and erection), when a woman says something to him during sex. During sex men actively functioning right hemisphere, and a brain scan shows this obsession with his job that he is practically deaf.




For women, the conversation is an essential part of the preliminary games, because words are important in themselves. If during sex the man pauses, and she could imagine that he was not very interested in it. Man I must say a lot of love words during pre-game, to meet the needs of women in them. However, during the actual act of love, a woman should keep silent and to use only monosyllabic sounds, to keep a man interested - a lot of "Oh! Ah!" and "erotic" is good enough for men to satisfy the need to continue the process the need for information about what the reaction to his actions. If the woman speaks during the process, the man who feels compelled to respond, you may notice agitation, and the moment will be forever missed. The female brain does not react to chemicals associated with sexual desire so badly as men. During sex a woman does not lose sight of the changes in the environment, and the man completely removed. In this case, we see an ancient biological nature of women in action: it continuously monitors the environment, hears all sounds. She needs to be sure that no one sneaks into the slot, do not attack her children, not steal them. Many men know how difficult it is to persuade a woman to have sex outdoors or in a room with thin walls or unlocked doors. Explains the origin of one of the most secret of female fantasies - sex in humans is associated with its innate fears.





Goal - orgasm


"She just uses me whenever it wanted, and then forgets about me. I hate this role of a sexual object! " - these words, the man did not say never. The satisfaction rate for men is an orgasm, and he mistakenly believes that this is true for women. "As you can feel the satisfaction, if not had an orgasm? " - he does not understand. Man himself in such a situation can even imagine it, and therefore uses the female orgasm as a measure of his success as a lover. The desire of men is sure to achieve this success puts pressure on the woman and in reality significantly reduces its chances of achieving orgasm.




A woman needs a sense of intimacy, emotional warmth, in the sense that sexual tension grows, and actually orgasm considers a nice addition, but not in order. The male orgasm is always needed, and the woman does not. Man, considering the woman of his mirror, clock works, thinking that she wants this. Look at the chart below and note the peaks and troughs of female sexual desire during the year. The peaks correspond to times when the woman is likely to want orgasm - this is the time of ovulation and failure means that she needs hugs and touch not necessarily of a sexual nature.




There is a typical male fantasy: sensual unknown woman comes to him and realizes that he is irresistible. He meets her in all that she wants - all absolutely. The criterion of self-worth as a lover a man is the degree of satisfaction of women, so it continuously monitors its reactions, determining how good it is. Most men do not have the ability to understand the inner feelings and emotions of the woman in the love act. This is another reason why her orgasms are so important to him. Orgasm is proof of a job well done, a result indicator. Most men in his life and may not realize that the obligatory orgasm is a purely male success criterion, but not necessarily female. For female orgasm - an extra, not the main fun.





What excites us?


Here is a list of the main factors, which is associated with the excitation of both sexes. After reading it, you'll see why men and women do not understand the sexual needs of each other. The preference list is a direct reflection of the program that is inherent in the brain of men and women. Men are excited through the eyes and want sex. Women get excited by the spoken words and expressed feelings and want gentle touch and romance. Biological challenge men to find probably more healthy women and to help them to conceive a child. The biological task of women is to bear children and to find a partner for a period long enough to bring the child up to the age of independence. These ancient incentives still determine the behavior of men and women-tires, although they live in this century, which does not require for survival enhanced reproduction. That's why commitment is so exciting woman and romantic approach contains an implicit reference to the willingness of men to help to grow the training of children. That's why a woman needs monogamy, and we will discuss this question in the next Chapter.





Where do men reputation as a lecher


What a man excites, sometimes referred to as dirty, disgusting, gross or perverted, most often you can hear from women. Women, as a rule, the factors listed in the list for men, stimulate, as well as female factors - men. Society in films, books and articles usually celebrates the factors stimulating women, brands and the factors that incite men as pornographic and rough. However, from a biological point of view, everyone needs these factors, in order to feel the excitement. Public opinion prevailing in respect of moments that excite the man, forcing them to hide the magazine "Playboy" and deny that they have a certain kind of fantasy. Many of the needs of men remain because of this unmet, in some there is a feeling of disgust or guilt. When both the man and woman understand the history and evolution of their desires, it is easier for them to understand each other, it is easier to come to terms with reality, without anger, disgust, or guilt. People should not do something that causes his rejection, but open discussion of each other's needs helps to build a deeper relationship, based not only on love but also on understanding the actions of partner. Men need to realize that romantic evening or outing require not so great moral effort, which takes the woman to perform an erotic dance or wear provocative stimulating immodest underwear.





The myth about the tools that enhance libido


Hundreds of popular publications advocated funds, stimulating libido, but their scientific impact never proved it was not. They operate on the principle of the placebo effect, if you believe that they are acting, their use probably will help you. Some of these tools even suppress or limit the desire for sexual contact, in particular, in cases where these substances irritate the kidneys, cause itching and a rash. The only really exciting means you can call the factors listed in the above lists.





Men and pornography


Men like pornography, and women no. Pornography appeals to biological stimuli men, showing clear images and forms, displaying the actual embodiment of passion and sexual desire, but many women see it as only a picture of the suppression of women unfeeling man. Evidence of a relationship between pornography and sexual crimes no. However, it can cause psychological harm and man and woman, showing how man is like a donkey that can clock to make meaningless forward-backward movement. Such a spectacle can injure the man, forcing him to question his abilities. In pornography incentives for women to serve the same visual and physical factors, and that for men, as axioms there is a statement that her sexual attraction to the same or even stronger than the men. Because of this, pornography can have a harmful impact on women. Showing women as only sexual tool, and have absolutely unimaginable thirst physical intercourse, can lead to changes in self-evaluation women. Surveys among the age group 18-23 years showed that men think their sex life is not as good as in the movies, on television and in magazines. Among women, 62% believed that their sex life is as good or even better demonstrated in the media. Apparently, the mood of the men expected level of performance impact to a greater extent than women.





Are there any among women nymphomaniac


If aliens from another planet landed on Earth and read our books, magazines for men and women, looking at movies, they will quickly come to the conclusion that our women are extremely sexy, strive to multiple orgasms and totally insatiable. If the aliens will then read porno magazines or watch porn, manufactured by us in large quantities, then decide that women have a monstrous sexual appetite and tend to be stacked with almost any counter man at any time under any circumstances. The modern woman is forced to live on the background of this image, generated media. In practice, the insatiable nymphomaniac are a figment of the male imagination and is very rare, accounting for less than one percent of women. Modern woman nowadays hard to believe a man who says he is impressed by the beauty of her naked body. Established in society is a fantastic way harmful affects men and women, because their parents and more distant ancestors were never taught that women force sex drive is as high as in men. Many women feel their weakness, and even consider themselves to be frigid because of its inconsistencies, baked media. Men are led to believe gluttony modern women. He feels cheated when the woman is not so often initiates sex, as it seems natural. It is not surprising that men and women the impression that women are only sex on his mind: because they read in a magazine article entitled: "five days to learn multiple orgasm! , How to put to bed the European lover! Sex, like the thirst of Tantalus - hours without a break! ", "For three years I changed 300 lovers" and t. d. Libido women is likely to remain unchanged for thousands of years, and the modern world has brought only one thing: now you can discuss it openly. Sexual aspirations of women, probably no different from those of the aspirations of their mothers and grandmothers, but in previous generations they were suppressed, and, in any case, not discussed. Before the advent of the Contraceptive Pill sexual frustration (internal psychological ban) was much stronger than the. But, of course, not as strong as now seek to present media.





When the light or without


As we now know, men are stimulated through visual images, when it comes to sex. They want to see shapes, curves, nudity, pornography. Kinsey found that 76% of men want intercourse took place in the light, but only 36% of women said the same.




In General women nudity does not excite, and if it excites, not actual nudity, and romantic scene, alluding. The man, seeing a naked woman, is excited, and the woman at the sight of a naked man starts to giggle. Women love words and feelings. They prefer to have sex with subdued light or in the dark or with your eyes closed, because this situation corresponds more sensitive to the touch apparatus women. Soft stroking, sensual touching and sweet meaningless whisper will lead to an excited state, most of the women. Spreads with photos of naked men appear and immediately disappear when women's magazines try to convince us that the ratio of female to naked male body was now the same as the male to female. It turned out that the appearance of such reversals leads to an increase in the number of subscribers among... homosexuals. All attempts to stimulate the female consumer demand for pornography failed, although it is known that in the late nineties saw a surge of interest in calendars of half-naked men, which exceeded the demand for the same calendars with Nude female nature. Buyers of such calendars are divided into three categories: teenage girls who want to have a photo of his idol of pop culture or personality, women who want to make fun of a friend; and homosexuals.




Men, women and sex


The theory of sex including 1




Based on the book "the Language of relationship (Man and Woman)"

Author:

Pease B., Pease. A.

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Time X, or can I schedule a passion?

You are in a happy strong marriage is already not the first year. Know your mate "before the cracks" and only one sometimes wonder what you do are different and sometimes do not match your desires! The fact that sexuality is very difficult and depends on many factors. Consider some of them.

Critical days for men and women

Today my wife fluttering like a moth. She is generous and seductive. Flirty and fun. Slyly looks spouse in the eye and smiling happily. And although the husband knows that even five days he can not count on that, but he's still happy: you don't need to be afraid that his wife accidentally "pricebut", no one will walk surly his favorite will be a sweet and gentle - because her PMS is over!

Expert commentary

Moreover, that they are endowed with the beautiful half of humanity known monthly troubles and put them in dependence libido. After menstruation sexy women increases. It is easier to relax and achieve orgasm. The closer to ovulation (mid-cycle), the more a woman wants to make love. However, the manifestation of remarkable temperament can nullify the fear of getting pregnant. For this reason the woman calmly to make love immediately after and immediately before menstruation, although in the last week before the critical days of premenstrual syndrome many spoils not only the character, but also the pleasure of intimacy. And this despite the fact that sex at this time may be the best cure for bad health and bad mood: deep relaxation plus hormonal injection" - exactly what you need during this period the female body.

Male sexuality is also dependent on hormonal levels, which, like the women, is subject to periodic changes relevant 20-22-day cycle of testosterone. The symptoms of a decrease in the level of this hormone in men replicate the effects of women's critical days. Representatives of the stronger sex become Moody, aggressive and quickly get tired of life. So if your husband isn't in the spirit - it is quite possible that his testosterone output today. Exists and the annual cycle of testosterone depending on the time of year and individual activity of men: in the late summer and autumn of male hormone in the blood is a huge number. Maybe that's why the number of children born increases in late spring and falls in the winter?

Experience, thought

"Time to go, to throw children in kindergarten (again to hear from the teacher for being late), to catch a meeting, meet with contractors (shake out Ivanova soul), to prepare documents, to achieve timely delivery of parts to convert documents to accept the goods, to congratulate the accountant happy birthday, send cargo, to lecture Petrova, and now running the meeting. And then again the documents, and calls from branches, and all necessary, and don't forget... Remember even in the evening, I have sex... "

Expert commentary

Periods of Park at work, creative impulse, ambitious professional accomplishments are not the best moments of passion. Yes, people are very excited, his eyes burning, rapid movement - and it seems that this impulse is appropriate to move in bed. But there it was - libido at this time, almost asleep. And it will Wake up only when the responsible area will be behind and the signal: "I Want love" will cease to glushitsa more powerful: "If not me, then who? " So please be patient and try to be your second half "balancing factor", after all, to relax, too, need - to "roof" do not go!

Prolonged stress suppresses all romantic desires

Attention! Doctors emphasize that sexual abstinence during the depression even more oppressing the body. But such is the impact of chronic stress. And here is an easy stress Vice versa mobilizes all organs and systems, causing increased sexual activity. Because the nervous system is not depressed, and in the excited state.

Morning. Day. Evening...

"Well, here again. Again, the husband is all messed up. In the morning everything so well begun... But then prevented children, and now, when they stayed the night at his parents, he, you know, fell asleep watching TV! When I leave for half an hour in the bathroom... And this one is in the afternoon clearly hinted, and before dinner blatantly molested! Well, let him only in the morning will try!.."

Expert commentary

The level of sexual activity is very (almost most of all) depends on the time of day. At dawn, as men would not love to sleep, erections, makes itself felt (they are about this wonderful phenomenon even novel fold). But experts say that the time of day affects not only men, but women's sexuality. German sexologist and chronobiology Peter PLATZ was the schedule of the male and female sensuality during sleep. So...

At 7 a.m. the activity of male sex hormones above the norm by 20% to 9.00 up to 50%. So, waking up (especially after erotic dreams), men are fully committed to having sex. But women's libido, and like the rest of her body, still asleep. Excited state a few quenched to 10 a.m. and again ignited to 11.00. The woman sexual activity has not yet woke up only at noon, female hormones begin to flow into the blood in large quantities. And about 12.00, when the men all efforts to work, their halves wakes up sexual activity (and as Housewives and working).

13.00-14.00 - peace of mind.

Closer to 15.00 men start playing hormones, reaching peak to 16.00. And best of all, in this time the woman also want to close, not only that, she wants passion, impetuosity, even sharpness. From the point of view of sexologists, 4 hours a day is the right time for love. (And for procreation, too - just at this time, the man the best quality sperm).

At 18.00 all mankind about sex almost not thinking all my thoughts are focused on to get home from work and flop at least for a moment in their native sofa.

In the most romantic time of day - evening (after 19.00) - is a total mess: a woman wants tenderness and warmth, but doesn't want sex. The man does not mind to give her tenderness and warmth, but with a logical continuation. And the woman pulls time away is a continuation. In the period 19.00-22.00 - the biggest mismatch of sexual desires: hormones women are silent (even if it is a day of rest), and a man actively configured to sex. Under the influence of male sex female sensuality awakens, and to 22 hours (unless the woman was asleep) it finally covers the passion. It would seem that the best time (children laid, the dishes washed, the bed spread), but the male body is ready to go the land of Morpheus! And you have to put a lot of effort not to give loved to sleep. Of course, the woman succeeds, but already after a few minutes of passionate hugs partner under the influence of endorphins received during orgasm in the brain falls asleep. And his partner in these minutes is still active and will be cause for resentment: did the deed, kissed on the cheek, turned on his side and began to snore. And who is he then?!

Owls and larks

Alena and Victor had to sleep in different rooms. That is, Alain slept in the nursery next to the child, and Victor on a double couch under the TV. No, they didn't swear, were not divorced, did not follow the original spiritual teachings. Just Alena - lark, and went to bed almost nine in the evening. And the owl Victor before three nights just couldn't calm down. Well what sex life, you say?

Expert commentary

The answer is complicated, but interesting. Since the middle of the night, just when Victor turned off the TV, Alena was able to Wake up and come, finally, in the marital bed...

Well, if both spouses in a couple owls or larks - it's easier for them to find time to be alone. In other embodiments, the inevitable complexity. However, difficulties can be overcome. A more optimistic situation in a couple where the wife - the lark and the husband - owl. For best morning sex. At this time the wife is full of energy, and owly nature of man fights his own morning burst of hormones.

Harder for the couple, where the husband - lark, and loves to sleep in the morning mate. But here you can find a compromise. The main thing is not to prevent the devaluation of sex information to his quick household contacts, in which only the biological desire, but too little soul and tenderness.

Love is also cyclical

"The husband is annoying. Sex is not interesting. A pity. Is this the love gone? "

Expert commentary

Do not rush frantically to sort things out themselves hoarse or to find ways of saving the marriage. Very often this condition is temporary and runs by itself. Even in the happiest marriages periods of full mental and physical unity alternate with periods of a certain distancing and alienating. In fact, it turns out, love also lives on the sine wave.

Researchers conducted an interesting study. The subjects, the young couple, daily, in the evening, he said, what place in their minds occupied the image of your spouse how much time and what emotions evoked), and make the appropriate entries. And husbands (wives) were not supposed to see these records, so as not to affect their halves.

Now these graphs showed that already in the first year of family life in many periods of stable tender relationship to his wife (her husband) were followed by periods of cooling and even short bursts of negative emotions. Scientists believe that the frequency shift of outbreaks depends on the characteristics of the human nervous system, temperament, his endurance. Usually it is more or less constant for each. It even can be accurately measured in the laboratory!

It remains to add that all of the above must be treated with a degree of healthy skepticism. After all, if you collect the "don'ts" of all sorts of manuals and treatises, we find that love is impossible to do in a storm, when the wind is blowing, the rain, in the days of the lunar Eclipse, immediately after bathing, when the hair and the skin is still damp, cold and extreme heat, drunk, tired from work, messy feelings... almost never. So the important thing is not what the weather is and what time of day my parents finally took the children to himself. Important - carefully and be sensitive to each other. And more to compromise.

Interesting

- Each person there are periods of decline and rise of physical activity. The rhythm of States is 23 days from the day of birth. Consistency of physical biorhythms of the spouses is health and good sex. Note that the discrepancy between people usually feel intuitively, making relationships begin to take a bad turn immediately after meeting, and the problem is solved by itself.

- For most healthy people, sexual activity occurs at intervals of 48 hours. Sexual attraction every third day feel 21% of people. And 10%, this happens every seventh day.

Most women who take the contraceptive pill, become much chuvstvennie and excited faster. However, there is a minority which these pills are exactly the opposite: you receive some phlegmatically and lack of interest in sex. The researchers noticed that when hormonal means of a woman's changing the set of her lovely heart of Paramonov - substances which, on a chemical level is what attracts us to the opposite sex. So remember: a course of tablets can end, and my husband and you to live and live!

- High physical activity without training causes the body's healthy reaction: immediately restore power by a deep long sleep. And abuse your body, trying to awaken sexual desire, at this point, not worth it. And exercises you need to practice regularly.

Author:

Smereka M


Source:

Likar Info

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How to land a man on his neck

Have you ever noticed what a strange metamorphosis happen to our men in the process of living together? Specially for girls who want to spoil your mate and written these recommendations.


1. Free it from all trouble at home. You still have not learned to screw the faucet and repair faulty wiring? The best time to start. Men - you know, they are such gentle creatures. Even the current fluttering.




2. The cleaning women and only women! In any case, do not strain it by wiping the window sill. And what is "cleaner", and he should not. If you already know, make every effort to quickly forgot.




3. If a man showed excessive initiative and fiddled with the cloth in the hallway, start scolding him. Non-parliamentary expressions are allowed. Forbid you to praise him for the work done.




4. The man had nothing to do in grocery stores. Remember: a Russian woman created for running around burning houses and stopping horses at full gallop. There some twenty kilos of food for the week. Ugh, the little things. And, by the way, since you went to the store, bring a couple of Beers. No, better yet, the two pairs. Suddenly not enough.




5. Love football. With beer.




6. Often invite their home the most beautiful girlfriend. Ask her to dress in mini and low-necked t-shirts. It is better without a shirt, but here how it goes.




7. Tell him that I love his dirty socks on my pillow. And there is no sweeter sight than her husband, coverage nose.




8. Cook only his favorite dishes. If you are not sure that he wants to taste pasta Bolognese or Penne with eggplant, do not hesitate to ask.




9. The serve Breakfast in bed.




10. Be courteous in all that relates to his little weaknesses. Daily in the evening on the sofa it must wait for a warm blanket, "Soviet sport", the TV is on a sports channel, beer in the fridge, you in Nude in bed. Something from this list he will appreciate. What? Are you tired? Forget this word.




11. Be prepared. Always and for everything. From sex marathon to hike in the Alps with a temperature of 38 and a broken leg.




12. Keep on the nose: you never hurt and ache can't. The man should be put to bed, wrapped in warm blankets and stuff tea with honey/raspberry/mint at the first sneeze. And for him to be a caring mother up until he gets it.




13. Remember: the mind of man is a fragile and delicate matter. In any case, don't make him nervous and worry. Call every hour, ten times a day when you do not call, write SMS. In the end don't forget to add how much you love him, how cool it was and that no better than him in the world of phenomena.




14. In any case, do not load its own problems. Forget that you have them. On the background of the loss of his favorite team, and scratched in the Parking lot bumper your leaky boots, dismissal and falling from a ladder - nonsense and trivia.




15. Less talk about yourself. Better not say it to you and so sees and knows everything about you. Should be talking only about him. The inner world of men spiritually rich and multifaceted. Life is not enough to know and tenth share, so don't be distracted by stories about his childhood. Better look that told him yesterday nick, this is interesting! Ask if something is not understood. In General, show a genuine interest in the conversation.




16. If he doesn't want anyone to see and nothing to say - become small, invisible mouse. Walk on tiptoe. Better lose yourself in the air.




17. Take care of his finances. Don't let to pay for you. And better pay for two.




18. Buy him more often gifts. The more expensive the better. Let is used to good. To bad he still had time to get used to, when the limit of your patience runs out.




Following these recommendations, remember: the process of transforming men into the ideal on the basis of these tips irreversible. And transforming the received instance is not subject. More precisely, cannot be.

Source:

melochi-jizni.ru

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A man and a Woman. We are so different!

If we try to analyze our differences, we will better understand the essence of each other, which inevitably will lead to improved understanding and reducing stress factors in families?

In modern society has been persuaded that the potential men and women are equal, they are equally talented and can learn any professional skill. She made up this belief that is the point, as science - what irony! - gathered enough evidence that men and women differ sharply from each other. They are not worse, not better each other - they are different.

Woman as the radar detector

The woman instantly understands that the other woman is alarmed or offended; the man to understand this requires a solid physical evidence: the flow of tears, banging dishes or slap. This is due to the fact that the woman, like most female mammals, armed with sensual perception with much more marshy setting than in men. This ability is necessary for the woman - the Keeper of the children and the home to capture subtle changes in mood and other people's relationships. What is known under the name of "women's intuition", there are actually sharpened ability to notice the smallest of details and changes in appearance and behavior of others. One man said that the sight of his wife is not comprehensible sharp when he has something to hide, but if you want to drive the car in reverse, it somehow becomes nearsighted. Evaluation of the distance between the bumper cars and the wall of the garage in the process of movement relates to the field of spatial orientation, which most women are weak.

The woman as a homemaker, should notice a slight change in the behavior of their offspring, which may indicate pain, hunger, injury, aggression or depression. The neuropsychologist Professor Ruben Gur conducted research using brain scans. He found that in a resting male electrical activity decreases by at least 70%. Brain scans of women in the same state of rest showed only a 10% drop in activity, which confirms the important fact: a woman receives and analyzes the information received from the environment. The woman knows who is friends with her child, aware of his hopes, dreams, novels, hidden fears, guess what he thinks, what he feels and what chicanery plotting. A man is vaguely aware that in the house besides him, there are still some small men.

Eyes arranged differently

The eye is a continuation of the brain, located on the surface of the head. Men and women eye is arranged is not the same in terms of the number of cone cells responsible for color perception. Source bevel color cells is X chromosome and women have two. Men usually talk about the basic elements of the spectrum: red, blue, green colors. Women generally use terms such as ivory, Aqua, mauve, Apple green.

Does it have eyes on the back?

May be, in the truest sense, no, but something close to there. Women not only have more cone cells in the lining of the eyes, but also a wider peripheral vision than men. Effective peripheral vision many women reaches full 180 degrees. The eyes of men more than the women, and his brain gives him tunnel vision, which means the ability to see clearly straight ahead, but at a great distance, and his eyes are like the binoculars. This is why modern man can easily find a distant pub, located "somewhere out there", but can't find the thing in the closet, chest or refrigerator.

Dubious case of the missing oil

The following conversation with a man who is standing in front of an open refrigerator door may once have held every woman in the world.

He: Where is the oil?

It In the refrigerator.

He: I'm looking in the fridge, but no oil there.

She: It's there - I put in there ten minutes ago.

He: No, you must put it somewhere else. No oil in the refrigerator no. This clearly.

After these words She enters the kitchen, puts her hand in the fridge and, like a magician, she appears in her hand a bundle of oil.

Inexperienced man sometimes feels as if above it was a joke, and he accuses the woman that she's always hiding things from him in cabinets and drawers. Socks, shoes, underwear, jam, oil, car keys, wallets - they're all there, the man simply cannot see the. Having a large field of view, a woman can cover more of the space of the refrigerator, not while moving her head. The man leads the eyes to the right-left and up-down, as if scanning the area in search for the "disappeared"@object@@. Biological features of men and women have important consequences in our life. Statistics of insurance companies demonstrated, for example, that the woman driver less in comparison with men is adjudged to be in an accident, associated with a side kick to the road interchanges. Much higher probability that it will hook machine obstacle when parallel Parking because it is poorly developed sense of space. A woman will spend much less nerves, if you understand the problems men associated with its characteristics. For men will be less reason to be nervous, if after the woman said "This thing in the closet! "he would believe her and will continue to search.

A man and a lustful look

Thanks to the best peripheral vision women rarely catch on what they consider a man. Almost every man at one time or another been accused of he <���������> looked at a person of the opposite sex, but women almost never accuse. Scientists working on issues of gender, unanimously claim that women look at men as often as men, women, and even more often, but rarely get on this excellent peripheral vision.

Why do women have a sixth sense?

Several centuries women have been burned at the stake for "supernatural powers". To him was attributed the ability to predict the outcome of the ensuing relationships, to identify a liar, to talk to animals and to guess what had really happened. At all times women were able to recognize the information transmitted only facial expressions. The mother of only the facial expression of the baby is able to accurately predict the full range manifested emotions: hunger and pain to discomfort and fatigue. Fathers, watching the facial expressions of a crying child, happily reported: "the Child wants to mother".

In the room where fifty couples, the woman quite ten minutes to analyze the relationship in each pair. When a woman enters the room, her psychic abilities allow her to instantly identify the participants which pairs are in complete harmony with each other, who quarrel with anyone who wants to get closer, and where women are rivals or women-friendly it configured. When the room is a man, hidden cameras show a completely different. The man scans the room, registering the inputs and outputs: his atavistic thinking assesses the possible threats and ways of leaving. Then he looks for familiar faces and faces potential enemies, and then scans the General geography of the place. His logical mind registers that here it is necessary to correct or repair, for example, broken glass or blown bulb. And the woman, meanwhile, have already walked all persons and knows who is who, what is what and how everyone feel.

Why men do not know how to lie to women

Barbara and Allan Pease argue that when communicating face to face, the perception of the message goes through wordless signals 60-80%, at the expense of tone - by 20-30%. The remaining 7-10% of the information perceived from the words themselves. Great susceptibility of women gives her the opportunity to collect and analyze information, and the ability of the brain to quickly exchange information between the hemispheres allows you to instantly compare and decipher the verbal, visual and other signals. This is why men are very hard to lie to a woman, standing face to face, But to lie to the man, looking him in the face, it is fairly easy (and it is known to most women, because he does not have sufficient sensitivity to detect a discrepancy between the information contained in oral speech and other signals. For most men, going to lie, this is best done by phone, letter or in a dark room, pulling the blanket over his head.

It is also better to hear

Women hear better than men and superbly distinguish sounds in the high frequencies. A woman's brain is programmed to the cry of a child, and the man might night not to hear him and to sleep as if nothing had happened. If in the distance starts to meow kitten will hear his woman. However, it is the man with his excellent orientation in space will tell you where he is. The female brain has the ability to separate sounds, to carry them to different categories and decide in respect of each of them. The result is that the woman can maintain a conversation face to face, not missing a word of the conversation of people standing together. Accordingly, it becomes clear why the man can't follow the conversation with the TV set or on the background rattle of dishes in the sink. When the phone rings, a man requires to have toned down the music, turned off the TV and paused while he's talking on the phone. The woman is talking, not paying attention to the noise.

The woman knows how to read between the lines

Women have a high sensitivity in detecting changes in the tone and volume of voice, allowing them to immediately notice the change of emotions in children and adults. As a consequence, for each man who, echoing, to take the right tone, we have eight women who are not mistaken in such cases. Famous female phrase "don't you dare talk to me in that tone! " in a dispute with men and boys is partly connected with this feature women. Most men have no idea what she wants to say. Acute hearing women makes a significant contribution to what is called "women's intuition". Her hearing is one of the reasons why women guess the hidden meaning of spoken phrases (read between the lines). However, men should not despair. They are perfectly distinguish and recognize the sounds made by animals, which in ancient times served them a good help in hunting. Unfortunately, in the modern world from this ability a little confusing.

But a man is able to hear the direction of sound

Women are better recognize sounds, but men can determine where they come from. In combination with the ability to identify and imitate the sounds of animals, this art makes men great hunters. Thus, the sound turns into a brain of a man in a geographical map.

Men do not pay attention to details

After the party the wife gives her husband his claims: "This slut all night glued to you, showed that all ready immediately, and you didn't sew it, you encouraged her advances! " My husband is in complete bewilderment: what is the harlot? what advances? as shown? He could see nothing.

Indeed, until I talked to him this "harlot" (so say the woman, the man would have said "sexy young woman"), he didn't notice that she was standing in a certain posture, thrusting forward his belly and stuck out one foot, pointing at him, plucking the hair and the lobe of the ear, looked at it a long weary eyes, gently stroking the stem of his glass and said shaped, poddelyvali under a schoolgirl.

He's a hunter. He could detect the antelope that has recently appeared on the horizon, and immediately determine the speed with which it moves. He has no women's ability to immediately analyze visual (involuntary facial expressions and gestures) and audible signals that indicate certain intentions. Every woman at the party saw, never moving her head, making a "slut". Telepathic signal "female looking for a partner" was adopted by all the women gathered in the room. Most men did not notice anything. Therefore, the statement of a man that he hadn't suspected, most of all, true. Men's brains are not adapted in order to see or hear the details.

Why men thick-skinned?

Men's skin is thicker, which women, which explains the greater number of wrinkles in women compared with men. Man, absorbed in work or involved in sports that require physical effort may not notice that the wounded. If a man is not focused on the task, his threshold for pain is lower than that of women. When a man moans: "Cook me chicken broth, bring fresh orange juice, bring the bottle with hot water, call the doctor and see, if my will! "it means that he has a slightly aching head.

A man less sensitive to others ' pain or discomfort: the woman bent double in pain, she has a temperature of forty degrees, beats her shivering under three blankets, and he asked: "are You okay, honey? "and you think, "If you don't pay attention to it, maybe we'll go have sex, if she is still lying in bed". However, in moments of empathy at a football game or other competition-related aggression, male sensitivity is not lost. Watching the match boxers on TV and seeing how the boxer struck a painful blow below the belt, the woman will say, "Oh, it must have hurt him, and the man will moan, bent as if he received the blow, and actually feel the pain.

The intuition. A taste for life

The senses of smell and taste in women surpass men. We have about 10,000 taste receptors, to identify at least four basic tastes: sweet and salty receptors on the tongue; sour receptors on the lateral surface of the tongue; and bitter on the back of the tongue. Men more points when determining salty and bitter - that's why they love beer, and women exceed their track sweet - that's why there are so many lovers of chocolate.

The sensitivity of women to smell not only higher than the male, but also acute additionally each month during ovulation. Her nose can detect the presence of pheromone (sex attractant) and musky odors associated with man, and these odors to consciously allocate impossible. Her brain can decipher the immune system of men and, if required, and his own. A woman may declare that a man is attractive or has a strange magnetism". If her immune system is stronger than that of certain men, it most likely will find it less attractive. Scientists studying the brain have found that the female brain can analyze these differences in the immune system within three seconds after meeting. Inherited from his parents a powerful immune system increases the chances of survival.

Why men can only do one thing

All available evidence claim: the brain men specialized. Its configuration helps to concentrate on one single task in a separate period of time, and most men claim to be able to do only one thing at any given time. When a man stops the car to check the road map, what will he do first? Turn off the radio! Most women do not understand why he does it. The answer lies in the fact that the configuration of the brain of man does not allow him to do several things at once because of the small number of neural connections between the left and right hemispheres, due to the fact that the brain of man is divided into sections. Scan his brain, when he reads, and you will see that he is almost deaf.

A woman's brain is programmed for simultaneous control of several things. She can talk on the phone simultaneously with the preparation of dishes at a new recipe, looking at this TV.

When you start a conversation with a man while shaving, increases the likelihood that he will cut themselves. Most women had to listen to the accusations that the man missed a turn on the road because of her chatter. One woman said, angry at her husband, taking revenge on him, starting a conversation in the moment when he scores with a hammer in a nail!

Because women use both sides of the brain, many of them confuse the right and left sides. About 50% of women can't instantly tell which hand is right and which is left, and define it for the ring or the other will accept. Men, in contrast, operate on either the right or left side of the brain, and it is easier for them to distinguish right from left. Why in the world men blamed women for what they were told to turn to the right, referring to the left side.

Why we are there?

Until we educate boys and girls as if they are completely identical, science has proven that they are quite different from each other by the nature of his thinking. Neurologists and scientists dealing with the brain, everywhere came to the conclusion that we are what we are because of hormones.

All the outgoing twentieth century the prevailing view that we are born with a pure mind, and our parents, teachers and the environment dictate our preferences and choices. The latest brain research and development has now revealed the fact that our brain is shaped like a computer in 6-8 weeks after conception. Our underlying operating system is already installed, and it laid several programs, so the moment of birth our brain is already loaded, such as computer, set both basic and supplementary programs.

Scientists have also shown that the underlying operating system and its configuration, leave little space for changes. Our environment and our teachers can only add data and to lay only compatible programs.

The programming of the embryo

Almost all of us are made of 46 chromosomes, which is similar to the genetic building blocks or tracing. Twenty-three of them came from our mother and twenty-three from the father. If twenty-third chromosome of the father is X, it turns out the child is XX - girl. If twenty-third chromosome of the father, it turns out the child - HOO boy. The basic matrix of the human body and mind - womens. We all begin our lives with girls, that's why men are the way women features such as the nipples and mammary glands. In 6-8 weeks after conception, the embryo is still asexual, and potentially he can develop and male and female sexual organs. German scientist Dr. Gunter Dorner, a leading researcher in the field of social Sciences, one of the first advanced the theory that our sexual organs are formed through the six to eight weeks after conception. His research showed that embryo HU, genetic boy, are formed by specialized cells, directing a large amount of male hormones, particularly testosterone, in the body. Hormone forms the testes and the configuration of the brain, corresponding to the behavior and characteristics of men, such as alertness and orientation in space, is necessary to accurately throw, hunt and chase prey. Suppose that the embryo boy (HU) needs at least one unit of the male hormones for the formation of male reproductive organs and a further three units of hormones for the formation of male operating system of the brain, but for unknown reasons, the required quantities of the hormone has not received. Suppose, he received three units, and requires four. The first unit was used for the formation of the genital organs, but on the formation of the operating system of the brain has only two units, which means the brain by two-thirds transformed into male and one third remained womens. Gives birth to a child who will become a man with a predominantly male cast of mind, but it will be peculiar to some of the stereotypes and the ability of women. If the embryo boy will get, say, only two units, one will be used for the formation of the genital organs, and the brain will receive only one unit instead of the required three. Now we have a child whose brain has remained predominantly female on the structure and thinking, but in genetically male body.

When the embryo girl (XX), it is quite low male hormones or they do not arrive at all, and the embryo formed female genitals, and the matrix of the brain remains female. Next, the brain is formed female hormones and becomes programmed to protect nests, including the emergence of centers for deciphering both verbally and other signals. When the baby comes, he will look like a girl and his behavior will be female, because the brain is programmed accordingly. But from time to time, usually due to accidents female embryo receives a significant dose of male hormones, resulting in the birth of a girl to a greater or lesser extent with the male mind.

It is believed that 80 to 85% of men have predominantly male mind, and in 15-20% of the mind in varying degrees feminized. Many of the latter group get the wrong sexual orientation.

Any reference to the female sex described in issledovanij applies to around 90% of the girls and women whose brains are programmed to a mostly female behavior. About 10% of women have a so-called male brain.

There is a simple, but very good test that will show you the extent of your brain is tuned to a masculine or feminine way. In this test there is no right or wrong answers, but it will give you an idea of what determines your preference in this life and what is your way of thinking. Answering the questions, you can calculate the points by the method below.

Based on the book "the Language of relationship (Man and Woman)"

Author:

Pease B., Pease. A.

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