Once settles the emotions and in the doctor's office will be dispelled the last doubts, the question arises to whom and how to talk about this news. Of course, the future Pope, his and your parents and close relatives, friends and colleagues to tell you have.
The future Pope.
That's who you should tell about this news first. It's not very good, if he learns about it from relatives or friends. Besides, he has the right to know about her new status. If he is already your legal spouse, the situation is simpler. After all, at least not need to fear that after this news he disappear in an unknown direction.
Many women naively believe that it must be done in a romantic atmosphere with candles. And then a happy future father will pick you up in his arms, will rasclaat, and you will be together to plan for the future. Unfortunately, the reality is, as a rule, does not justify such expectations. The first reaction to the words: "we will Have a child" is very often a pregnant pause. But what do you want? Remember your reaction. You, too, were at first stunned by this news. Give the man time to recover. And even better prepare him for the news in advance. No need to give information directly to the forehead. Start talking about it in General, use hints and omissions. He mentally begin to understand what you're getting, and be used to the possible news that he is the future father.
But, as if you are not prepared, you must remember that men are selfish. Therefore, his first thoughts will be about how it will affect his life, and then he will remember you. And this does not mean that he is a bad father. Just men that way.
If you are with the future father of the child are not legally married, in any case, don't use your delicate position to get him down the aisle. The result can be quite the opposite. Men need to get used to this idea and make a decision. If it is not exactly as you would like, it also has its positive aspect. At least you'll know what to prepare for. Better to let it go away from you now, than nine months. In any case, the final decision to accept you.
Are your parents.
If you live with them, then your mom will most likely realize everything before you let her. Now, she's a woman and was in position at least once. If your parents and your husband have a good relationship, then everything will be fine and all will be happy. If not, you may initially have to listen to not-so-nice comments about your husband again. Don't argue and don't fuss, just let my mom talk and listen. In any case you have had enough of an adult to make decisions independently and take responsibility. But, in any case, mom will be happy for your pregnancy, even if not immediately. Dad harder. He is also the man. Perhaps it would be better if the news of your pregnancy it will tell mom. But now you will no longer be treated as a girl and take for equal - because soon you will become a mother.
His parents are.
Whatever your relationship with his parents, you still have to tell them the news about your pregnancy. They will also become grandparents as yours. If the relationship is not the best, then leave this mission to their son, that is your husband. By the way, it doesn't hurt to watch your svcname. Every person carries a model of behavior in the parent family in his own. You can learn many interesting things. Sometimes the mother-in-law wants to take a much greater part in your life than you want. Be prepared to hear a lot of "useful" advice and counsel. No one makes you that's exactly what to do. But pretend that took note of the information - this will help to maintain or even to establish a tolerable relationship.
Other relatives.
They should also inform about your new position as a future mother. Perhaps later, for example, after three months, when will be the most dangerous period for maintaining pregnancy. It has its advantages. Relatives probably would react kindly to the news of your pregnancy. Because they look at everything from the outside, without delving into your problems. If parents are not the smoothest relationship, then other family members can help to build relationships and to smooth out the edges. Besides, then they will be happy from time to time to sit with your baby that will be very useful.
Friends.
Here is my caveat. You must decide when to tell friends about your pregnancy. As soon as you decide, tell all, because if you tell one or two friends, that soon I will know everything and secretly you to look at. It would not be very pleasant. Most likely, the news that you are expecting, would spread with lightning speed. The talk will be all the time to hang around your pregnancy. You will sleep issues still not pregnant girlfriend, and to give advice to those who already went through it. By the way, when my husband will get used to the fact that you will have a baby and will cease to thrill you to see, that friends will always remind him of your situation.
Colleagues.
The job is to hide as long as possible in your pregnancy. Except for the boss, maybe. It is unlikely to be happy with the fact that soon you will be gone on maternity leave, but it depends on your position at work. You will not upload my urgent work and won't have to come up with excuses to go to the doctor. But colleagues better as late as possible to know about your upcoming motherhood. You don't want to be treated as a patient and avoided per meter, and treated as a person, which all have to endure because of the delicate situation. Besides, it is not the most pleasant will always listen to someone else pregnancy and childbirth.
Extraneous people.
Of course, not necessary to tell everyone you meet about your position. But sometimes it can be used for selfish purposes. For example, to get replaced in transport or missed without Queuing. And, you can inform about your interesting position you stopped the cops not to pay the fine for illegal Parking.
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