Must be a woman some mystery...

Such women usually say that they have something, a certain "flavor" charm. Men coveted look after them, and women, especially from the category of failures, angry and powerless gnash the teeth: "And what's so they are all in it to find?! ".


Indeed: why one person is able to bring someone strong feelings, and the other a single string in the soul will not be affected? Why do people fall in love? Poets, singing love, trying to find its roots in spirituality, scientists are looking for a chemical rationale, but both are far from the goal. Such uncertainty is quite true to the concept of "sex appeal" of sex appeal - sex appeal, exciting sensuality.




Mysterious vibes




Everything in his life met a sexy women. Talked with them as neighbors, worked in the same team, friends, watched from the side. What can I say? How to describe its difference from others? Views and characteristics will be many, but perhaps most will agree on one thing - this is an extremely attractive woman, she derive some fluids, a special magnetism that attracts men. In short, this past which will not pass. That's it, short and clear and nothing concrete.




Nobody is going to argue that the appeal is necessarily connected with beauty - although the appearance of women is of considerable importance, but only for the initial interest. The interest of this need, rather than something to support. There are women and a large stretch of the imagination can not be called beautiful, but men stick to him like flies to honey. A sexy woman is not necessarily a sex bomb. That's according to feelings, inspired attractive woman, the hero of the story by guy de Maupassant "Hairpin": "Looking at her, I felt frantic need to open arms to squeeze and strangle her. In the depths of her eyes there was something treacherous and elusive, suggesting to me the disgust, and for this, maybe I loved her. Feminine, repulsive and maddening, it was stronger than any other woman. She was full, crowded with them, and it came from her intoxicating and poisonous fluid. She was a Woman more than anyone ever and ever."




The appeal is not synonymous with sexuality, which characterizes the woman, her need for sex. Often these qualities are combined, but not necessarily. Psychologists still argue: to classify whether these rock enslaver to the category of psychological vampires or, conversely, the number of donors? But because of the mention of them can remember the terrible stories about how men tormented themselves and their loved ones, "dry", Chah, fought a duel, make rash actions, even die because of unrequited love for these women with a flair! All it seems to be clear about their vampiric entity, no wonder they look and find "hell", and "devilish gleam in his eyes", and "fatal attraction". But on the other hand, the presence of nearby sexy women always makes men to shake things up, to deploy the shoulders, to feel the surge of strength and energy. Moreover rash acts in honor of the beautiful ladies are very beautiful! And the years of "suffering" spent with such a bright woman, men remembered as the most happy and fulfilling years of his whole life and thankful for these sweet pangs of love.





All beauties for the belt!


It is naive to assume that sexy women master the tricks of female coquetry or years to hone technique gait, seductive habits, ability to wearing things, to wear makeup and stuff. Such women do not really need all these women tricks and stuff. They are perfectly happy without the whole set of ladies ' charms and virtues. Moreover, there are examples of confident in his dazzling ladies with a flair deliberately ignore attention to their appearance. They can be short and frankly ugly, with a complete lack of good shape, with thick legs, besides tasteless dressed.




But these women one known to them the way inspire a fierce passion many men. Where here does not believe that there is some kind of "devilry"! Unattractive in appearance, they can possess analytical mind, therefore, to seize the attention of men costs them nothing - those listening to them for hours with bated breath. The lack of external data seductress fully compensate for other beneficial qualities, and very successful. And sometimes treacherous rock ladies your appearance and improve don't think intentionally choose an image of complete inattention to their data, they say, let love what is...




The game by their rules




Still, many similarities can be found in these eye-catching from the General mass of women. First of all, protruding all of them noticeable appeal is their natural state all day. They like, when they are caring for many men admire them irresistible, charm. They are extremely flattering, when the beauties of nature pales before their merits. On the other hand, relations with the opposite sex they see as the game is very addictive and extremely fun. In her they are ready to play all my life, however, by their rules.




Sexy woman, despite their ability to circle the head men, are not always successful in his personal life - alas, success secrets of a happy fate, and she sometimes fail to disclose. Like other ladies, it can be difficult to quickly find the "tools" impact on the only man to become a master in his life. Not always tricks and all sorts of things can have such an effect on men that they are willing to commit follies in honor of the original in the actions, the feelings of women. It's all about luck...

Source:

Sister.Roux

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Love addiction. How can that be? Pass the test!

If we are not alone and we have a partner in life, even if we are loved and love with all our heart whether we can say that they are satisfied and that brings us suffering? Are we always remain a person? Do not dissolve if we loved one so that we no longer devote time to its development, to think about their desires, to pursue their goals?

If you love to bring suffering from failure to take their shooting, such relations are called dependent.

What can you do? To live their lives or to live someone else's? First of all, you need to avoid extremes.

Two extremes that spoil us a taste of love

First - when in fear of losing themselves and their freedom, girls or women refuse to relationships in General. They understand that it is so easy to become "dependent" on another person, with the result that, because of the fear to disappear, choose loneliness.

Second - this is when relationships seem to be the only thing in life. As if nothing but them does not exist. This is when the man next to you owns your life completely, when in his hands all the way up to your mood. When you are worse than death itself is the idea that we can leave.

Comes even before that some women are willing to make a scandal if a man pays them little attention. And if it comes to blows from men - they are happy about this, because he "noticed".

Where does the desire to addiction?

This may seem strange, but this is a fairly common problem. The roots then grow from social traditions of society, where relationships are built on domination, unlike a partnership, in confrontation, in contrast to compromise on the opposition, in contrast to the values of individuality.

Society not interesting that you were independent. Think about it: we are from childhood "accustom" to the fact that everywhere has its own hierarchy. School, social institutions, the army and the work is often built on domination and hierarchy. Family is no exception.

Also the reason that you're dependent relationship, hidden in the history of your birth and development from infancy to adulthood.

The law of development is that the person needs to go through all stages of their psychological birth. Each of us gives life a certain time step, we have to go and work out in the end, a certain quality. For example, independence. If something happened a certain stage in time failed to pass, it will be in all ways seek to end, life will always throw up the situation so that the phase is completed, you this as yet developed. Train problem will be to reach out for you, requiring its completion, and the next step will fail as it should, so everything is interrelated, it is difficult and requires coherence.

So, dependent relationship is inevitable, if immediately after birth you did not take on his hands, did not provide full comfort and safety, there was no direct contact not only with parents but also with their families, who were later your education. Touch contact first 12-24 hours is particularly important. Contact skin to skin. Negatively on the mental health of the child, if the time is wasted, and it will have to make up for much longer and harder. And so full of comfort (physical and psychological) and the safety, maximum sensory satisfaction from birth and up to 2-3 years, gives the opportunity to pass the stage of dependence, and go to the office. Then the world is safe, it is possible not to be afraid and to actively explore. Not having this full of warmth and security, we unconsciously seek dependent relationship in adult relationships, only to be born as a person, as an individual.

After phase separation much more needs to happen in order to become independent, however, without passing through the first stage, it is impossible to move on to the next. So we remain dependent.

Unfortunately, self-help in this case do not work. The good news is that the problem is solved as in individual work with a psychologist and group lessons on this topic. It is also useful to solve the problem together with your partner, but only when he also realizes that the problem really is. Why you were searching for such a relationship? Then, to finish and to compensate. Remember, the most important thing is the awareness that the problem exists and that it should not be so.

That gives independence?

Award for long-term work on yourself will become your inner freedom, independence, feeling of fullness of life.The independent person is able to define and defend their psychological boundaries. Such a person is easy to be myself. He has no desire to control the listener's opinion, no painful need and desire to be desired. He is not afraid to give a bad impression - he prefers to trust their own views, perceptions, feelings and beliefs.

Become an independent person is not easy, but to be truly worth it.

Test for independence of the object of love

Put the numbers 1 to 4 in brackets before each question:

1 - never

2 - sometimes

3 - often

4 - almost always

( ) I am inclined (inclined) to take responsibility for feelings and/or behavior of other people.

( ) I find it difficult to identify their feelings, such as happiness, anger, embarrassment, sadness, or excitement.

( ) It's hard to Express their feelings.

( ) I feel fear or anxiety at the thought of how others would react to my feelings or behavior.

( ) I take to minimize problems and deny or modify the truth about the feelings or behavior of people with whom you communicate.

( ) It's hard for me to install or to maintain a close relationship.

( ) I'm afraid to be rejected (rejected).

( ) I'm trying to achieve the perfection and judge themselves harshly.

( ) It's hard for me to decide.

( ) I tend (tend) to rely on the opinions of others, and not to act at their own discretion.

( ) I tend (tend) to put the wants and needs of other people first.

( ) I tend (tend) to appreciate the opinions of others above our own.

( ) My sense of self-worth comes from outside, depending on the opinions or actions of other people who, I think, more versed in this.

( ) I find that hard to be vulnerable (vulnerable) and to ask for help.

( ) I always subjected to control or seek to control, and Vice versa, always watching, never to be responsible (responsibility).

( ) I'm too loyal (loyal) to the other, even in the case when this loyalty is not justified.

( ) I have the habit to consider the situation on the principle of “all or nothing”.

( ) I am very sensitive (sensitive) to inconsistency and mixed orders.

( ) In my life are emotional crises and chaos.

( ) I am trying to find a relationship where you feel “right” (“right”), and then try to save them.

Counting points: to get a General result, add the numbers.

To interpret your personal level of emotional maturity, use the following scale:

60-80 points - a very high degree dependent models, which is expressed in the sense of their dependence on the people stay trapped in a humiliating you, controlling relationships, low self-esteem, the need for constant approval and support from others in order to feel that you everything goes well, the feeling of powerlessness to change anything in the relationship, the need for alcohol, food, work, sex or any other external stimulants for distraction from their worries, uncertainty, psychological boundaries, feeling himself in the role of Martyr or the jester, the inability to feel a sense of true intimacy and love.

40-59 - high degree codependent patterns.

30-39 - medium codependent and/or contravening models.

20-29 - very little codependent and/or a high degree of contravening models. Independence is expressed in the ability to determine their psychological boundaries, you don't only produce a favorable impression, you can easily be yourself, don't try to control the listener's opinion, not trying to be necessary, trust their own views, perceptions, feelings, or beliefs, have good contact with his spiritual essence, confident, successful, and easily cope with the difficulties predict the situation, use intuition, live in harmony with the outer and their inner world.

Resources:

- willingness and ability to work on yourself, with your partner, psychologist or support group;

groups, classes and workshops, where you can get support from other people who are really ready to change their immature models.

trust, conscious relationship of cooperation;

psychologist who understands the essence of personal maturity and the path to the development of individuality.

According to the foreign MEDIA

Author:

Overlook

women's web magazine

Transparent relations in the price of both sexes

Girls have always been very demanding of men. Ladies are dreaming, the dream will dream about love, and this love without deceit, which is built on honesty, trust and understanding.


But sometimes men and women are not able and can't even understand each other. That is why they build their relationship is not as I want, and in accordance with a known pattern. All this in any case causes frustration on the part of both sexes. Harmony never comes. In order to achieve the understanding needed love without deceit. Women still continue to think that young people need only one. Often this is the cause of resentment at the whole male gender. In this case, about romantic partnership may not be out of the question. This is very sad.





Honest communication


Love without deceit is that it is important not only for the ladies. Men also want honesty in a relationship. They expect in most cases that the girl spoke directly about what she wants, and did not hide their grins and all sorts of hints. Young people need specifics. They are not going to spend much time trying to figure out what the girl them want, and that means all of her hints. Sometimes ladies resent the fact that men can't understand them, while at the same time, about anything not ask and do not explain anything. Representatives of the stronger sex are sometimes not even aware that there is some kind of problem. So you should be honest.





Male resentment


The reason why sometimes love without deceit cannot be in a relationship, is based on the shyness and fear of girls all to say. Sometimes women just are afraid to Express their discontent, because they can hurt a man. Others just leave it as it is, because they believe that the young man did not understand, and there is no sense to him to explain something. Silence will not help to solve problems. They will be accumulated, and in consequence will result in a big scandal, which can have very beneficial effects for the development of relations. Men also have feelings and are sensitive. They just need to explain that there is a problem. He is only grateful for the truth.




Women's confidence




Representatives of the stronger sex I want to love without deceit was present in their relationship. They do not want the girl was with them from despair, and no matter what, whether material or emotional. It is very strongly hurts. They want an equal partner. The girl must be active and independent, have my own opinion and judgment regarding a particular issue. Women often think that they should need in a man. However, it is not so. In this issue you must remember one important rule - you need to be self-sufficient and confident personality.





Manipulation in relationships


No one will endure to manipulate. Men do not want to be forced to do something. They set out to choose the pace of development of relations. Representatives of the stronger sex will not be tolerated, if the lady fraudulently will force them to take the blame. They will not be a long period of time to be under the heel, bending from manipulation. To build long-term relationships, you need to learn how to directly ask what the lady wants to know.





Emotional experience


Men near need a girl who can laugh at themselves and boldly to face the difficulties of life. The woman should be stable emotionally, and to have the internal strength. Girls think that young people need to just have fun and have a good time. However, it is not so. Very rarely, when a young man needs a supermodel with long legs and a perfect figure. They choose ladies who know how to manage their emotions and control, and it does not depend on their appearance.

Source:

here

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Women's desires or Well, what do they want?!..

Men say that women never know what they want. And I'm starting to believe them. I know for myself - I only had to make some more or less logical generalization about their sexual preference, as after some time I found that I like quite another...



Do women negotiate?



Agreed. What I find most annoying is the "negotiations" about the time and place for sex. I sincerely believe that talking about it does not need.


When the lover asks me about a specific day and time (something like "let's do this in a production environment you tonight"), I always find it difficult to answer this question. And not only because I don't know what I will do on Wednesday night. But because I don't know what my mood will be " would I have sex at all?!




About current arrangements (such as "Can we go have sex? "I can say only one thing. Talking about it does not need. First, a man must see whether you've set a woman to sexual intercourse. Secondly, if her reluctance is not satisfied, he has "something to do with it" - man must "make" a woman so that she attacked him, and not to ask stupid questions.




Spontaneity

. Of course, spontaneity in sex more preferable planning. However, spontaneity is often accompanied by haste. Feelings shade due to the lack of emotional readiness. In this case, would not hurt a bit the "sweet expectations", but without falling into extremes - no entries in the diary "Wednesday, 20.00 - sex".



Questions-repeating



The silence of the lambs. Sex can be attributed to the so-called "non-verbal" communication. How to make communication mutually enjoyable? How to "read" the willingness of the partner to guess the appropriateness or otherwise of their actions? How to adjust the frequency, the depth, strength and tenderness, to choose a pose? Here, it is essential reaction partner.


When I do blow job, always watching the breath of a lover. On it I understand how to do it faster or slower, what movement of the tongue and hands him more like. Yes, in fact, how else?




Alas, some men are so silent in bed, which inevitably forget their native language. I had such a man - he almost never moaned. A light groan was heard only during orgasm. I will say more when I can not hold back, screamed, he told me: "Hush" - and had to cover his mouth. And this despite the fact that he had his own apartment and to prevent we could do what his neighbors. To say that I had a hard time with this man, is to say nothing. I could never draw conclusions - that he liked more and which less. The understanding of this very suffered...





Good or bad? Sometimes a completely different mouth when men are just not closed. The question is, "Honey, you okay? "always baffles me. "What is not seen? " - I always want to ask me. This question is so irrelevant! Especially when I'm on top struggling to get an orgasm.


Strength or tenderness?





Tenderness. Remember my 19 year old boyfriend Lesha. That's really where it was more tender tender! From this bliss then I just fell asleep. Then counted stars on the ceiling. In short, any explosion of emotion, nothing, what would have captured the spirit knocked the breath, butterflies in the stomach... Then I wanted it showed force grabbed me, squeezed in his arms and "walked" me on...



Power. Let's be honest, there were times where I wanted to be the man clutched my chest to bruises, spanked with a belt on the ass was arched as he wants, and pulled her hair. But I always wanted under a certain mood, when such manifestations of power were appropriate. But it often happens that a man absolutely does not feel your mood - you want the alternation of power and tenderness, and he roughly throws you in different sides of the sofa and treats you like a rubber doll, not responding to your cries.



The uniformity or diversity?


Missionaries again in honor? You won't believe, but still there are men who use only the missionary position. Moreover, these men are not inexperienced youngsters (long 30), not degrading individuals (and intellectuals), not dense provincials from the Russian heartland (and residents of the capital). When I saw this for the first time, to my surprise there was no limit. I didn't know what to think: whether it is so convenient, whether this is the result, and the process is indifferent?..




Tedious diversity. Strangely enough, but when one "receiving" changing 10-12 POS, it can also be tedious. Will not have time to properly enjoy one, as after a few minutes, you turn on your back, on your belly, on your left side, then right, then arches, then lift up on the back of the sofa...





Underestimation or overestimation?


Sex is probably one of the few areas in which their "power" we are unable to assess adequately. And there is a logical explanation. First, sex is a lesson for two", where the assessment gives you a partner. Secondly, you can't objectively compare themselves with their competitors (this can be done easily in business) because of sex other people we only know from their words (subjective and not always reliable). So about their abilities in sex (good or bad I was in bed), it is best not to speak. But even if a person does believe it's still not worth it.





Underestimation. Roma in his 23 years was a virgin. Of course, when I started to meet him, didn't even know about this. Only one phrase was confused and bothered me. When I was on the phone (we lived in different cities) began to fantasize about our future sex, Roma said, "Marina, I beg you - don't flatter yourself! " I didn't know what to think...


I did not understand what he meant, and when we played Roma were in the same bed. Yes and how can we guess? Confident steps, perfect technique, ability and desire to deliver a woman pleasure... It really made me so called "cosmopolitan". With him in bed I felt an orgasm every time.




One day (at that time we slept in the same bed for several months) Roma told me that before me was a virgin. Frankly, I was shocked. First, I don't believe that taking a joke. Then long wondered. Finally told him that ability he is gorgeous, and there was nothing to frighten me with the phrase "don't flatter yourself".





Reassessment. Once we were all three sitting at my house: I, Roma and his friend Sergei. Watched some romance. Watching a movie with some erotic scenes segued into a conversation about sex.


- How can you make love just a few minutes? - began to resent the movie, accusing one of the heroes of the film "impotency". What do you think, Serge?


- The main thing is not quantity but quality, " said Sergei and smiled mysteriously.


This phrase inspired me. Now, I thought, this man certainly knows a lot about sex.




...It so happened that after some time I stopped to meet with the movie, turned out to be in one bed with Sergei. I can't say that sex with him was not pleasant to me, because I was in love with him (when you love, as you know, the technique takes the last place; the main thing is to sleep and Wake up with a loved one). But the "quality" that I so hoped, was not. Active prelude (Blowjob) only from my side, only two poses, 8-10 minutes and... bainki.




Once at leisure (when I have not met nor Roman, nor with Sergei) I analyzed the sexual abilities of their former lovers. Especially was asking for a comparison of the movie (the virgin with gorgeous Arsenal of ways to meet women) and Sergey (opinionated 29-year-old man with their low quality standards). How uncertain was the one and how arrogant the other! And it was Vice versa. I know - tried for yourself!




So, what did women want? I would say that women want appropriateness. And in order to be relevant, you need to be attentive and flexible. This is often not enough men...

Author:

Tomovska M


Source:

MyJane

women's web magazine

Sex in marriage

Sex in marriage the first year - the madness of passion


All tales end with a wedding, but for some reason none of the wedding doesn't start. Coincidence or a subtle hint to the wise ancestors that marriage may not be anything fabulous? Everything from day to day and from year to year becomes more and more everyday and less fabulous. Especially sex. Well, unless you can eat the same dish, two, five or even worse, 20 years?




When people begin to live together in a sexual relationship excite them, probably the last thing in the world. Because they occur, that is, on the machine. The secret here is no no special. The majority of Russians are married at a very young age: hormones raging, life abounds. People have not yet had time to climb the social ladder, not overgrown wealth and, in the presence of a constant potency and natural charm, nothing special to brag cannot. As a rule, sexual relationships of young people after the stamp in the passport develop exactly the same as before, only in a more comfortable environment. Leave the notorious problem of the place and time. Parents are not outraged that sometimes it would be nice to sleep at home, there are living space (which is in the first year is not very important). Now here he is, loved and desired man, please, next from morning till night. Or rather, from night to morning. And you have the legal right to behave as you wish, even if in the next seat dad grimly pretends to be watching football, but does not conduct surveillance of your hands.




Speaking in simple language, the first year - this time engineering-mechanics. Experiments, attempts to find an erotic space, fitting to the needs of each other and so on take all sexual space.





And three years later...


The second year is called the year of tenderness. People have a lot of things about one another understood, and that in itself is liberating. Actually this time could be called the Golden age of sex in marriage. Because he stands at the junction of mad passion and quieter, but no less wonderful feelings of love. And at the same time full emancipation is not always in favor of sex. Because freedom of behavior appears not only in bed. Come out to the light of God's most beautiful human habits, not the most erotic moments of life and so on.




After three years of "crazy feeling" becomes much quieter, and more often than you'd like, you catch yourself thinking that that's a pain - forever now. All is clear, love the script beaten, as read before the holes Shocker, you know, how he would see what he will say... And horrified to think about what will happen next. The question "is there sexual lives of people who have lived together for 20 years? " in the mind is equated with the question "is there life on Mars?..". And what does the emergence of such thoughts? Love dies?




Dies. Not only love and passion. Scientists have come to the conclusion that the age of short-lived passion, and if to be more exact, she, my child, do not live longer than three years. That is how much the human body can survive elevated levels of dopamine, noradrenaline, prolactin, luliberin and oxytocin. These hormonal ingredients with strange names is the feeling that makes your knees fold over, heart attacks, and heart beat racing thoughts.




Sociologists have also estimated that two out of three marriages do not pass the three-year threshold and people leave. And really unpleasant divorce is inevitable, if people will not associate anything except passion.





Five years later,...


Five sex - the best indicator of the quality of your life together. Sex do not exist in itself: it is an important, but still part of the relationship between two people. And if a pair is not only remained common topics for conversation, but once again throw a glance on the spouse becomes lazy, hardly spouses will thrive in bed.




Usually at this time point, the man behaves like a joke: "what do You eyebrows were wysopal? "that is stubbornly refuses to see new fragrances, shoes, and generally behaves not the best way. Yes and the woman are increasingly drawn to spend time outside the home. No, not in the sense of escape left. Most women for this step we need a serious reason. We usually go for the new experience, a different atmosphere. Not for nothing do they say that a man loves his eyes, and the woman ears. We like to read novels, rendering the characters. And they (men that is) love to watch erotica - there's nothing to report do not and very clear, how many times and in what position someone who loved. By the way, at this stage is particularly evident textbook and global difference between the sexes.




The woman, filled with the freshness of the outside the house, having received confirmation of its appeal, runs home in the marital bed. And man, receiving a generous advances outside the home, most likely, will run back to where these advances came. And maybe he'd like it. Because it is new, tempting, and in the rapture... Sociological studies of couples who have lived together for more than five years, show that the vast majority of spouses having Affairs with the sole and in General good purpose - to develop and diversify their sexual relationships. They're not going to throw my half, do not fall under the fatal charm, not trying to turn life 180 degrees. They treat their bedding problems.




Most often unsuccessful. Because the diagnosis is wrong. To begin to establish relationships need out of bed, and she is given a positive outcome will include the mode smoothedge. At this stage of life together experts, sexologists advise to have a common hobby, to give himself a shake, often to leave the city, region, country. After all, making love on the background of the same Wallpaper get tired of even the rabbit!





And ten years later...


Sex as a separate unit for ten years suffers significant changes. Scientists have found that for such a significant period of time in a person significantly change and the boundaries of erogenous zones, and forms of actuation of an organism to sexual stimuli. Changes in the shape of the figure, even to say no.




So ten years can be called the second stage of the conquest. And how you will win your half and will, in principle, depends on the quality and quantity of sex.





And in twenty years...


Of course, this experience of family life in itself suggests that sex and if not expired on the tenth plan in a relationship, you obviously came close to this position. Experts say about the care of testosterone from the male blood of the female menopause, and it seemed in the light of these changes should be not to sex. However, not all fall under the General results of the research. There are individuals, whose testosterone levels have remained at until the present age, and feelings are not in a hurry to die. As a rule, these people are active, conscious about their physical form. Otherwise how would this number was taken late fathers and mothers? Why children are born, it seems, everyone knows. Yes and folk wisdom about the fact that "forty-five Baba berry again, it finds confirmation in life.




The main thing to remember is that not all sexual relationships is limited by time. There is a rare breed of people who are able to cheat time and periodically to fall in love with your own wife. These can cause short term passion several times throughout their life together. Therefore, to run the entire route again, and as if for the first time.





Expert comments



Maria Fedorova, a psychologist at the Institute of group and family psychology and psychotherapy: "In the first year of marriage the couple experience the joy of discovery of each other, waiting for something new - both frightening and attractive. However, they shouldn't get online very common myth: that if people love each other, their sexual relationship will emerge by themselves, without extra effort, and if you come cooling means, and the love is over. This misconception often becomes a stumbling block for many families.


In marriage, the need for intimacy and intensity change over time. For example, the birth of a child, especially the first, have a significant effect on sexual relations between spouses: they spend less time together, the woman a lot of time and effort pays child, the man feels abandoned. The couple a few away from each other. Perhaps this is the hardest thing for five years of marriage.




The complexity of the second and third "five" will likely be addictive: affection become monotonous, "bed scenario known from the beginning to the end, which greatly reduces the desire and pleasure.




However, the biggest challenges spouses who have lived together for 18-25 years: rose and left the children, not caring, and then disappeared that keeps many in the family. Spouses are tete-a-tete, as long ago, in the beginning of their relationship. But the era of pleasant discoveries behind. For both this is the period of the approaching climax. My husband he is manifested in the gradual decrease of testosterone in the blood, which leads to decreased libido. Usually it's hard enough experienced men. A new hobby can they regain his old form. And if the spouses no real understanding, intimacy, mutual Hobbies and interests, an affair can lead to family disintegration. The fact that marriage is not forever a prisoner of the Union, and the process is changeable, contradictory, lively, demanding attention and care. What's interesting. Sexual relations can act as an indicator of this process, tooltip: "something is wrong, pay attention! "




Alexander Poleev, psychotherapist, sexologist, candidate of medical Sciences, Professor of the Institute of psychoanalysis: "a few months after the man and woman began to live together, there comes the so-called secondary merger (the primary was for most people in the period when the mother nursed their chest). This means that the body of the partner is perceived as a continuation of his. There goes modesty and intimate relationships become more relaxed. This result is crowned year of marriage. After five years of marriage in men usually occurs marital boredom. Forgotten intoxication honeymoon, the desire for the wife fell. It's all about the physiology. The thing is that during intercourse the woman's skin produces a hormone that increases male potency. Over the years, the husband gets used to this hormone passion, he excites him less and less. My wife is a very different situation. The woman is well adapted to the constant partner and experiencing him more pleasure than, for example, during a random connections. This is not the last role is played by the fact that she sleeps with her husband in his apartment, in his bed, on his own ironed linen.




After 10 years of marriage, both spouses may come a period called "sexual desert". They have sex at most once or twice a month, because cold to each other. A week or two helps change the image - for example, the wife will lose weight, you paint the hair in a different color. Sometimes intimate life enlivened only during a joint holiday - on holiday people relax. To spice up married sex can and love the game.




20 years later after the wedding the couple already perceive each other as relatives. Sexual relations with his wife away on the twenty-second plan. Man looking for a young partner. And if he can get the so-called supergarden (i.e. one that has a strong pleasure and powerful orgasmic discharge), then the marriage may burst at the seams".




According to the magazine "Atmosphere", "Sex in marriage"

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Fruit diet as a detoxication

Currently, there is a General increase in interest in maintaining a healthy lifestyle. This entails regular exercise and a healthy diet. Both these facts are of great importance in reducing the chances of getting the disease, such as coronary heart disease, arterial hypertension, diabetes, obesity and cancer. A healthy diet should consist of four food groups, carbohydrates, proteins, fats and vitamins. Fruits are a good source of all essential nutrients, and they are tasty to boot. This means that all must eat a lot of fruit and have some good recipes for fruit diet.

Changes in lifestyle for health reasons may require some detoxification and weight loss. Applying for detox diet almost always cause some weight loss. Eat a lot of fruit is a great way to detoxify. Fruits are low in calories and full of many nutrients needed by the body. They also have fiber, which are necessary for good digestion. Fruits are a good choice for detoxification because they are very effective in flushing out toxins that accumulate in the body in everyday life when we eat junk food, carbonated drinks, highly processed foods and foods with high sodium content. Recipes Fruit diet can be a great help when it comes to detoxification.

Zosterin ultra to cleanse the body and blood is a good alternative diets and faster to improve health.

Starting fruit diet will require some planning. There are several fruit diets, which are expected to last only 3 days, and others, expected to last up to 30 days. To fruit diet has not seemed long and endless, you will need several different types of recipes for fruit diet

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The right pillow for sleep: a guarantee of energy for the morning

Sleep is essential for good health

The human body is a multi - level and multi-function mechanism in which all systems are interconnected, so the deterioration of one of them causes a chain reaction of the whole organism.

The operation of the continuous body at any time of the day. In the afternoon, watch the vigor and health, the person receives the maximum load, which bodes well for the need for recovery and relaxation. Most often, this stage takes place at night during sleep.

How complete and comfortable to sleep depends on the level of health. For maximum comfort during sleep should be carefully and competently organize sleeper bed and related items (mattress, pillow).

Pillow - essential "friend" for the night

The pillow is responsible for the condition of the body in the morning. Its main function is to create the most correct orthopedic support for the head, creating maximum comfort and the constraint violations of the internal systems of the body.

The scope of the impact cushion is the cervical spine, as well as blood streams that feed the brain. People with improper cushion can experience a reduction in blood supply to the brain can lead to stroke, oxygen deficiency in certain areas of the brain and, as a result, deterioration of health after sleep, the presence of vascular spasm, etc.

We are talking about the pillow large size, which is also called the "merchant". Lying down on them, the head of the man is in a high position, and the neck bends, creating a large angle of elevation, which leads to compression of the blood stream.

Orthopedic pillows: secret

A good night's sleep it is better to buy orthopedic pillows that are created on the principle of maximum repetition physiological characteristics of the organism. These pillows do not create obstacles to the circulation while sleeping in any positions, as they are provided with appropriate levels of height and degrees of rigidity from several sides.

Health is also affected by the material of the pillow. Confirmed that the filler for pillows should not be materials of natural origin (flock of birds). Such materials are distributors of infectious diseases, the sources of allergic reactions that are associated with the development of micro-organisms (mites, bacteria, etc). The most secure are synthetic materials that are hypoallergenic and neutral.

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