Actually this phrase in its consequences will be worse than the famous "you will have a child".Because it means: now you will not be the only and main, parental love and care will have to divide by two, you now become responsible and eternally guilty, because you're senior.
Agree, for this turn of events taken to prepare in advance to be able to explain why the birth of a child is very good, and why the emergence of a brother should be happy.
Preparing your firstborn to the birth of the second baby - the task is not easy.
First, continues this training all nine months, divided into several stages, requires parents special attention and flawless execution of all events.
If you do not do your senior will get a serious psychological trauma for life - and it is in the best case.
At worst you get a constant source of danger in the home and the risk of injury and injury to a helpless baby. You know, that is capable of unbridled jealousy.
Phase the first: the good news.
It will be nice if the first this news from you know it your child - especially if it's a girl.
Share with her his first secret. Discuss your excitement and experience. Think together how and under what sauce you will bring good news to the Pope.
Enjoy a family evening with candles and cake - let the Pope in anticipation of the surprise will povolnuetsya. You can even give the child the opportunity to touch off the news first so he will have a sense of belonging to what is happening in the first minutes.
Stage: large family is well.
From the first months of pregnancy the whole family, consider the interests of the person who is in the stomach, let the eldest child also takes care of the mother and the brother (of course, following my father's example), gives the mother the big Apple (need someone in the tummy), the most delicious ice cream (let a brother try), the most fragrant flower (let him learn to love nature).
Pay attention baby, how people live, have a big family: of course, take only positive examples.
The main advantages for a child will be the joy, the fun, friendly atmosphere that prevails in these families, the usual presence of a companion for games, as well as emerging opportunity for a senior to participate in the upbringing of child.
Children are very fond of such responsibility!
Step three: introduction.
Let it take place before the birth of the child.
Let senior, as mom and dad, too, talking with my mother's belly, touch it, feel the tremors, consider the back heel, which at the last time is already well marked and visible through the stretched skin of my mother's belly.
If the kid will ask how it got there baby and how it will be selected calmly explain that children almost never surprised by these stories and take them for granted.
Stage four: the first few weeks.
Here is the hard part.
You will want to spend more time with the baby - and this is quite understandable, perhaps, only to the second child start to really peculiar shrill love, love these silly crawlers.
But the thing is that the baby your attention now need not to the extent in which it is necessary for the senior. Now who has a hard time it happened, it is no longer the most important, not the center of the world, not autocratic king and God...
When the husband takes you from the hospital - not Lisp over the envelope, give it to my dad and hug the older toddler.
This moment is very important - the eldest child should not be alone for around Milenij adults.
Give the older child as much attention as possible - especially that little brother it would be nice to accustom to the independent games in the crib as soon as possible.
Phase the fifth: the name.
Let the name of the younger child will be given a senior.
If you approach the matter thoroughly, the child will offer quite the name you want.) Give him the opportunity to dream, do not scold for bad options - my older daughter wanted to call the sister Umbrella (English - umbrella), and then somehow came across a great name Luba, which was adopted by the family Council.
Stage six: the helper.
And now - be sure to let the older child some responsibilities (not dirty and heavy! ) to care for a baby.
Remember: never put the blame on the kid too much, in the end it's not his initiative to lead in the second house. He must rejoice in their responsibility.
And that's when your firstborn will truly appear a baby brother or sister, a close and native person with whom he would go through life, tightly holding hands.
Source:
Belarusian women's portal
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