As expected friends, we divide in half

But to explain this to a child is Oh so easy - why it should be. What started? Why in half - and anyway, I don't want to share! My - all here! Let me nobody is divided, not really necessary, but I'll stay with her.


Selfishness and a heightened sense of ownership, which underlie the inability and reluctance to share is a necessary stage in the development of the human personality.




Psychologists believe that without awareness of their rights to own something completely and totally impossible to grow a truly generous person.




And truth to share may be the only one who already has their own use.




One-year-old kid feels their property mom - and share it with my dad and other candidates because he clearly shows: have you, and there are other people, and the mother does not belong to you without limits.




Two-year-old child, who in his mind has already been separated from adults and begins to feel an individual through "my" and "myself".




It's hard to part with the Teddy bear as it was difficult to part with his mother, and he will begin to share only when it will teach you to do it.




Learn to share with my childhood, though on his own ardent desire of the child will start to do it no earlier than six years - approximately at this age, children have the ability to see the world through the eyes of another person, to take into account other people's desires and to understand someone else's needs.




To this understanding, children will share because you will advise.




How to do it:




Never force your child to share. Instead, create an environment around the baby, in which the desire to share his joyful: other kids will be friends with him, he will be able to play with the boys and their toys, it would gladly accept any game, other people's mothers will not make his remarks.




The kid should understand: the ability to share brings him joy (as opposed to popular principle "not to share - will be punished").




- To respect his sense of ownership. What to you is just an old ragged doll for a child is a part of life, expensive thing, beloved companion. You don't want to share what very expensive - put yourself in the place of the kid and think, are you willing to share with your neighbor by your own car or, God forbid, a good husband.


Always share themselves. Mom and dad, parents with children, grandparents and neighbors. Tell the kid about how you have shared with friends and girlfriends with you. Say, why this way of communication brings you joy. Necessarily share in equity wealth and especially his free time between several children: let Vanya will sit down on one knee, and Masha on the other, the sweet Mache, and this van, Masha girl, so the only Apple would separate her. And she will share with Vanya.


- Teach your child to Express his desires. If he wants to be with him, someone had done something to share, let them ask. Sometimes, the kid desperately wants to play someone else's toy, but too embarrassed to ask, stand-stand, in the expectation that the children will guess to invite him to the game, and imbued with dislike and resentment to the world.






And most important: always reward him for what he shares his property with others. After all, generosity and, indeed, worthy of praise!

Source:

Belarusian women's portal

women's web magazine