Don't be a doormat, stay like a star, if you want to get an ideal man, and no matter what people write about it in the gloss!
"A man dreams of a strong, confident woman. For him there is nothing more attractive than a woman who has dignity and pride. He marries the one that will never SAG under it," says sherry Argob, the author of the bestselling "I Want to be a bitch" in his new book A Woman's Guide To Getting And Keeping Her Man's Heart and dispel the principal myths of good girls on the pages of the Daily Mail.
"I interviewed hundreds of men - and they all say they want a strong, self-sufficient woman who will not encroach on the personal space of men, because he appreciates her, " she continues. - At the slightest hint of disrespect, she will not be silent and I will give everything he thinks. This makes it more interesting".
Men complain that these women are extremely rare. Is it any wonder? Take any glossy fashion magazine and look at the titles. Readers are taught to behave as if they were servants: "this recipe is to melt his heart, "Ten ways to beat him in the bedroom" and so on, When women follow these tips, they seem to scream "Pick me! Choose me! "but this cry instantly disables male desire. "Good girls" always push their own needs on the back burner and suffer from it.
The myth of the "good girls" No. 1. You must be blameless
Remember, when was the last time you were madly in love. Most likely, this guy was not a millionaire and not a neurosurgeon, but surely something was pulling you to him like a magnet. Men need the same magic. Women think that if they are perfect, rich and beautiful, they will respect and love. But the man marries Perfectly, he will choose a woman that he is interested in.
When a man meets a woman who seems too good, too sweet, or too nice, he quickly loses interest and starts to miss. Almost all men with whom I spoke said that it does not pay attention to the shortcomings of women up until it is about them will not tell you. "Nothing makes a woman more beautiful than the belief in its beauty," said Sophia Loren and she was right.
Myth # 2. You must be his sex toy
We are constantly told that sex will help to win the heart of men. This is not true. The man sleeps with you, does not mean that he cares about you. Good sex also does not guarantee that a man will be with you forever. If people put you in the category of "sex", it is unlikely he will see in you something else.
35 percent of men said they prefer the so-called "bad girls".
Men meet women on clothes. Yes, they will turn head, looking after the one that shows more of the body than clothing, but is unlikely to be ready for a long term relationship with this person.
If you blouse, buttoned to all buttons, or a long skirt with a slit, the man thinks: "Have to work hard in order to get it," and then your stock will rise. And Vice versa - if he sees you poorly dressed, his head will surely come the thought of the men who had already visited in your bed. Gently, you take on shaky ground. This painful area for the male ego. Some men even admitted that in their minds there is a magic number. When they ask how much you had partners, the fingers of one hand should be enough to count them. Everything else is too.
Myth # 3: You need under it to adjust
Girl meets guy and does everything to make him an idol. For example, in answering the question "What do you like or what would you like", he shrugs and says "I'll agree to anything". When a man loves you, he's really interesting, what you like and what you want. If it makes you happy, so feel more secure. Men created in order to impress women. The Taj Mahal was built for women!
What actually want men
1. Don't be too nice and not poddakivat constantly: the man rarely sees such a sweet demeanor as a compliment to himself. He believes that you would agree with any.
2. Be yourself: tell the man what you like to do and what you would like to eat. It will be more to trust you, if you see that you say what you have in mind.
3. In no case do not show their desire to "tie down" the man. As soon as he realizes that the marriage you are not too interested, he'll start to take the initiative.
4. Do not jump into bed! Sift candidates by assessing their readiness to wait with sex. Nothing is valued as highly as those things of which a person is forced to wait.
5. Do not force it. When you start asking questions like "What is the place I occupy in your life? ", "Is there a future for our relationship" or "do You want children? "man feels that he was in the trap and immediately begins to plan his escape.
6. Make him chase you: all you need to do is to be feminine, charming and pleasant. Don't say the word "obligations". The less you talk about it, the closer you are to achieving the goal.
7. Keep your distance! Men should not feel that you are too available and you can contact any time. Every phone call should be thrilling and exciting event.
8. Show that you have other options: when a man thinks that you can fly away at any moment, he starts stronger cherish your relationship.
9. Not a fan of his money. Men like women who are able to support themselves. It is unlikely that they will look into your wallet to convert it to cash, but a good impression from your financial independence will surely remain.
10. Demonstrate your gratitude, if it is something you gave: people need appreciation. Say "thank you" is not the thing, but for the kindness behind that gesture. So the man will feel that you value him, and not material things.
11. If necessary, take a time-out. You set the terms and limitations go away, if you feel that it's time.
12. Love life as it is: enjoy every day. Be positive. There is nothing more attractive to men!
Source:
Woman.ru
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