That male communication style differs from the female, "guilty" biology - and, first of all, different structures of the brain (our language centers of different patterns and different amounts of hormones. In addition, vocabulary influences and upbringing - as a rule, boys are allowed to be more aggressive in their dictionary more expressions associated with such concepts as "power" and "status".
The main difference between "female" language from the "male" is the way of presenting information. Men say is right. Women, on the contrary, speak to the other person had to be smart and guess what they had in mind. The phrase "do you want to drink? " often means "I want to drink, really hard to think of? "or "the Sun shines too brightly" translated as "will " Think anyone close blinds? ". These workarounds and maneuvers are terribly irritated men. In addition, their stock of words on the day that men and women spend on various topics. Men aged 17 to 68 usually discuss sports, news, music. Women in this same age category are interested in relationships, family, health, weight, food and clothing. The General trend is when meeting with people of their own sex men say about public and women personal.
Female manner to speak softly, not giving direct orders, should not be regarded as subordinate to men often she manages to make it so that its requirements are met despite the fact that they have not been announced. Women often ask questions, to feel a commonality with someone. In addition, women differently than men intonirujut suggestions. At the end of phrases they usually raise my voice, so it seems some uncertainty, increased caution, reluctance to "push" to the interlocutor. In the women's dictionary - compared to men - much more words with which to describe emotions, feelings and States. Women get pleasure from the process of communication.
But men's language is much stronger focused on status and hierarchy. Often in conversation men provoke the other person, but don't do it because of the natural bitterness, but rather to call him a verbal duel and see who is better. Actually, all men talk one way or another revolve around competition and victory, strength and weakness. Unlike women, men ask questions only in order to get the information they need.
"Yur not understand" or most frequent problems in the communication of the sexes
- If a woman begins his sentence with the words "Let us" or "We want" or "We need" a man sees the phrase as an attack on the most precious thing he has freedom. From his point of view - that's an order, not a suggestion. And the woman did not understand why he "got" spoiled the mood.
Women love to talk about their experiences, about their personal experience. Men often consider these revelations as unnecessary pouring from the empty into the void.
Women are too often left men the right to "veto". Even if a woman believes in something 100%, it still would prefer to start your thought with the words "I think", and the man will be a long time to reflect on the theme "it only seems or she knows what he's talking about? ".
- In order to experience intimacy with a man, a woman needs to talk to him. From the male point of view, it is "us". The man is quite satisfied with the fact that the woman next.
The feminine manner "to start from a distance, gradually getting closer to the essence of the conversation" veiled hints, unwillingness to speak directly and essentially men often consider only some strange incomprehensible game - so there are frustrations and dissatisfaction with each other.
The woman, in order to solve the problem, you must pronounce its decision aloud. Man longs to act immediately - he didn't understand why instead of starting to do something, he should sit and listen to women's complaints. Actually the woman you want her only, only listened to is usually that is enough.
Men can easily interrupt the interlocutor, if they think that they understand what is the issue. Women this way a dialogue is not because they are offended, because it is an important process of communicating and men result.
A woman really wants in a conversation with the man behaved like... another female friend. That is, keep the conversation going as long as possible, listened attentively, asked questions, asked about her feelings and experiences. Men (if they are not practicing psychologists) do not know how to behave - firstly, they are not very interesting, and secondly, as we remember their vocabulary to describe emotions poorer.
The most popular phrase
In fairness, note that sometimes men say not what you think.
"I'll call! "
Translation: a real man should always be "alternate aerodrome". Maybe you and I will call if I don't find anyone decently. Most importantly, you own me don't call me!
"I'll call tomorrow, after lunch, at 17-00"
Translation: whatever happens, I'll call you tomorrow.
"I'm not worthy"
Translation: When you get that you don't need? Not like "showdown" and the tantrums, I hope you will leave me first.
"No, I won't ask for directions"
Translation: You don't trust me and think I'm not able to cope even with such nonsense.
"Honey, you niskolechko not recovered! "
Translation: Who needs this truth, if it is short and without sex to stay.
"I'm not ready for a serious relationship"
Translation: You're just not the girl of my dreams, but I need me someone to sleep until I find her? And don't say later that you were not warned.
"I and my ex - just good friends"
Translation: no one will forbid me to hope that you can still start from the beginning.
"Let's remain friends! "
Translation: I've got! Well, I have something to say!
"I'm sorry, but now I have absolutely no time for personal life! "
Translation: I Hope you will disappear from my life.
"I need to be alone"
Translation: I'm tired of relationships, but not yet ready to say this phrase out loud.
"As I don't listen to you? Of course, I listen! "
Translation: When you finally change the subject?
"I love you! "
(in the beginning of a relationship)
Translation: I want you.
"I love you! " (after several years of marriage)
Translation: I'm too tired to have sex. Let's go to sleep.
"Nothing, I have everything in perfect order
Translation: I have a problem I try to solve it. But I don't need your help, I am not a wimp! Can I understand? "
"This stamp in the passport does not change the"
Translation: Pretty girls a lot, and one passport. And actually I'm not sure I want to live with you all my life. So once again strain will not, I am still so bad.
"I don't know! "
Translation: this question has no single answer that would not put me in a difficult position. And do not torture me!
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Yes, I can take out the trash, wash the dishes and even to drive a nail."
Translation: You're lucky I actually have the necessary capacity to fulfill all these tasks. I can and will wait patiently for when you will be asked to do it.
"What's that happened? "
Translation: I don't want any of the details and emotions, move on already to the nature of the problem, I will try to help you. Who needs this compassion? It is foolish to just sit and spend hours listening to your whining. I will prove my love by our actions.
"Yes, I know how to iron their shirts, I'm adult and independent"
Translation: no one loves me, no I do not appreciate, it really is time to divorce?
"Friday night: I come for a couple of hours to each other, and then we will meet again."
Translation: Well, if I will remember about you on Tuesday!
"I'm on a diet, nothing will! "
Translation: Drink butterbrodt of half a loaf of bread with sausage yogurt. Kefir is a very even diet product.
"Great dress! "
Translation: Ah, what buffer! "Oh, what a chest! "
"Today I'm busy, and tomorrow is also very busy. The day after tomorrow. Then the business will return no earlier than six months".
Translation: As you say, you are not my taste?
"I don't want children! "
Translation: I'm scared, I'm afraid I can't support a family.
"I want to eat! "
Translation: "I want to eat! "
Source:
Woman.ru
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