Is there life without sex?

Life without sex... Short-term, long-term or permanent. Why is this happening? What does it do? And can I fight this? And always do? All individually.



Nobody


Such a trivial reason. One company I met a friend who clearly remembered what had sex 8 times in life. What all solemnly and informed. He was then about 30 years... And regular sex life was not good. Fortunately, after a year in the life of this friend is all good.




Of course, temporary "downtime" has happened in the life of each of us. And that's okay. In the end, not everybody is able to have a casual partners. Many live by the principle laid down even Omar Khayyam: "it is better to Be alone than with just anyone". And also you must consider that a significant portion of people are looking for in an intimate relationship consistency, and temporal relations unacceptable for them.




By the way, some sexologists claim that, when the body, relatively speaking, rests, it gives the person a chance to understand their desires - that is, in fact, whom he specifically would like to see next to each other - not only in bed, but in life. However, perhaps the problem is that the person at the time such expectations too high requirements for the hypothetical partner.




While this kind of abstinence often leads to physiological and psychological discomfort... And if it lasts too long, then harder "to return".




There is a method to overcome the difficulties of abstinence - normal Masturbation. But this method is by no means the only one. Let us recall the hero Adriano Celentano in the movie "the taming of the shrew", substituting IT by chopping wood. If to speak seriously, no matter how trivial, temporary simple can brighten up the sport, dancing and similar activities. And, of course, massage, helping, among other things, to maintain sensuality.





Didn't exist


This is when the partner to have sex, but due to various circumstances see him rarely. As, for example, in a situation where the husband is the captain. Or you have a foreign novel. He is there, you are here, meet once in three months or six months. In this case, all applicable same as in the previous one. Plus tender virtual-phone communication with each other. And an impromptu phone sex.





Nowhere


This problem sometimes occurs in young couples. "And if we with you have no place to love each other, then at least let go" - sang rock-n-rol'shchikov Mike Naumenko. By the way, this problem is often prolongs the romantic stage of a relationship. That sometimes is not bad.





Physiological problems


I know two strange stories. Both of them are connected with ladies, which consisted in a formal marriage. One was not engaged in with her husband sex because I experienced pain. In the second case the problem was with my husband. He refused to make love, because after that he had a splitting headache. The most interesting thing that these people did not think to go to the doctors, although they certainly could do to help them...





Trauma


Unsuccessful first experience disappointment in partner, a difficult divorce, and sometimes rape - all of this could discourage sex. And then there is depression. Many of these situations require the intervention of a therapist.




This crazy modern world




It is no secret that chronic workaholics is an integral part of the modern world. And the most zealous of them work sometimes suppresses sexual desire.




And sometimes the fault of "new technologies" for many "Computerman" replaces the virtual world real. The technique is a delicate matter. They say that in poor countries, where there is no TV, fertility more for the people there often have sex.





Pregnancy and childbirth


Doctors recommend not to make love three months in early pregnancy, and two at its end. However, some extremes have sex until the birth... But it also happens that the doctors forbid sexual relations for a long time, if at all nine months of pregnancy. However, the lack of sex can make invisible partner. Because in addition to coitus, you can use oral-genital fondling, etc.




After birth it is impossible to make love for about two months, but some shorten this period. Beautiful half of this prohibition is often easy, because sleepless nights, fatigue and weakening of the body do its thing. However, if a man will share with you the first care of the baby, it will be easier to transfer temporary abstinence.




By the way, for some women return to sex after childbirth can have its problems, changes in sensations, loss of desire, and so on, Here we need to act with care and delicacy.





Principled refusal


All well-known story of the marriage of Alexander Blok and Lubotsky Mendeleevo. In the first wedding night Block explained to the wife that sensual love - diabolical perversion of the true, spiritual love.




Marriage with such a statement of principle - a rarity. But people living alone and being principled "antisexualism" is a widespread phenomenon.





Rarely, but neatly


Some couples make love once every two to three months. And they have enough... In this situation, there is nothing special needs of each individual. Incidentally, in some tribes of South Africa men need three months to recover after the act and regain desire. There you have it!

Author:

Shcheglova E.


Source:

SuperСтиль

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