Always a shame to be denied. But the most unpleasant thing in unrequited love is its consequences. Once having experienced failure, a man can spoil life is not one pretty girl...That is done...
Personally my first unrequited love was the name of Tanya. She sat at the Desk in front of me, and Tannin hair with curls near the neck for me was the most beautiful that can be in the world.
When I tired to enjoy them just so, I wrote a note: "Tanya, let's be friends! " - and gave her the address. After a minute, the parting in front of me blushed and swirls angrily shook. "What are you, stupid? "said Tanya, and I realized that hope there is no reciprocity. I knew how to play the violin, and knew by heart the names of the capitals of all countries of the world. But I was not too sporty, cheek boy and had the same stupid nickname Chest. Since I received my first lesson in the harsh school of life: no matter good or smart you, the main thing is to be able to please.
I know many men can say a big thank you for being rejected. Personally, my unrequited love for Tanya did what they could not achieve the physical education teacher, in spite of all their efforts. I told my parents that want to join the sports section.
After a day or dad, specially beg off from work for the occasion, led me to a chess club. I was initially confused: it was not quite right. But then got carried away, forgetting why it all started. I threw chess, even when my cheeks suddenly disappeared, and I turned into the usual lanky teenager. In the future many acquaintances with interesting and wonderful people happened in my life thanks to chess. In General, thank you, Tanya!
Of course, with age, the refusal to experience heavier. But the wider horizon. One of my friends on LiveJournal correspondence name is Egor. In response to his Declaration of love he had heard from the girls sacramental "will Remain just friends! ". And then it seemed to him that his life is over.
That can feel a man in a moment of love fiasco? It intolerably painful to admit defeat. And even more painful to know that his failure there are witnesses. So he tries to hide in some hole - to lull there wounded pride. But, on the other hand, it instinctively torn apart desire to be their revenge. And so the man believes that one day he will take revenge.
My friend Yegor went much. Realizing that I need to run, until he broke and we are not done stupid things, he went to another city and in a sort of frenzy quickly did an excellent career. "It is funny already, " he admits, " but then I was constantly thinking about how to meet with her, cool and successful... Until one day before I realized how small my main goal in life! "
Today Egor quite successful, it has everything you need: your own apartment, car, professional reputation, friends. He lives alone and says that he is very glad of that. Egor is constantly traveling, he sees things of great beauty and power, makes the person a purer and wiser. Do not refuse him sweetheart, he stay at home and go life on a traditional wedding-family-plan - would be all that he now? Himself Egor says no, would not exist.
By the way, they met with the girl accidentally during one of his visit. She married into a cosy hen, plump mother of the family. And Egor realized how he really was lucky. He was saved from having to maintain a steady, year after year, repeating the same details life in Slippers at the TV and talk about the potatoes on the market. And making sure that ex-beloved happy, he easily parted, barely managing not to kiss her hand, for he did not want to share with him such happiness.
In all serious
Their relationship must be able to present how the theatre. The theatre in miniature, in which the main characters were just two little funny man. And if this does not work, if it looks like a giant magnifying glass hypertrophic bloated, you ought to see the doctor until it is too late. In the sense of the passion until finally grew into paranoia...
Dima we met in Adler train, being in one compartment. He seemed a man who was in a hurry to burn your legitimate three weeks on the beaches. But I was wrong. Dima was the purpose, almost as Shaolin monk is to stay away from civilization and tempering the spirit specially in the existing place. He planned actually Tibet, but to go to the South was much cheaper, and besides it's a better climate. Something like that.
On diminui history you can shoot a series. It was rejected by the girl, choosing between him and other fans (not his, of course, favor). Dima incredibly suffered. Well, it happens. Girls, not bothering especially, can have multiple relations of various complexity. Nothing to do, one of the strongest instincts of the weaker sex - mother. It was he encourages women not to stop there, you've got not one admirer, and a whole retinue. So they have the opportunity to choose who will be the best father, count - earner. But whether they are really the right one, doesn't matter, it's their own business.
After the failure of Dima started peddling. At first he tried to be comforted in the arms of one girl. And then the other. On the girls flashed, as if hastily flipping through the magazine. So much so, that in diminui bed was the girlfriend of former lover. Then the younger sister. "I have just the roof off, " he said. I physically could not stand alone, but after sex I wanted to get rid of the girl as quickly as possible. I threw it out, and immediately began to search for a new..."
The dependency relations are not so rarely occurs in such situations. This is a kind of reaction of the psyche, such an unconscious way of dealing with traumatic circumstances. Dima, fortunately, I was smart enough to stop, to restrain his mad libido. And well, if possible. Many are unable to return to the usual normal. Trying to get out of the crazy mess fleeting novels and promiscuity, but begins to break no worse than drug addicts, and can't stand it. Characteristically, it is in men, it usually happens.
Why do you girls...
Aggravated unrequited love may go into a state of siege. The love object is taken out through phone calls, text messages increased and slogans such as "Kitten, I'll still love you." And, you can mooch pale from anxiety shadow at his house, so that each time it occurs to rush screaming: "Look, we urgently need to talk! "
In these stories I like to get girls from unrequited feelings takes in a deep inadequate. They can spend hours convincing that Vadik, Serge or Maxim Petrovich - fatal chasers and cynics. That girls they shamelessly lie and not feel shy to borrow money from them. And what if they are someone you really love, it is only ourselves, and all the other sneeze wanted. But all is useless.
I have ever spent on friendship session is similar to psychotherapy. And since then I vowed never to set brains inconsolably loving ladies. You're her, "Lena, find a man who will appreciate you, and live happily! " And Lena, as Polushkina stepmother, whines that the Prince looked at her three times and two times smiled.
I have seen that girls confuse men flirt with real interest. To be honest, most of us flirting only to impress your partner. Demonstrating her interest in other women, the male raises its own rating in the eyes of his lady - that's the logic, so does the male consciousness. So as many can smile so stunning brunette on a nearby lounger. But get in the habit of thinking in such moments about what you actually want in life.
Unless, of course, unrequited love is not in your plans.
Author:
Borisov-Bitter About.
Source:
Леди@mail.ru
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