Prominent sexologists dedicated to recruitment poses a significant part of their works - in particular, a great contribution in this area has made a Polish doctor Mikhailin Vislocky. And first of all they were talking about how to find the optimal position for mutual satisfaction depending on the anatomical features of the partners.
However, the fact of the matter is that it should take into consideration the psychological component of this aspect! Many cases, when from the point of view of the anatomy of the defined posture seems to cater for both, it is either he or she has "something is wrong". Such feelings can arise because for each pose, perhaps... his "reading" from the point of view of psychological perception. And the special difficulties (and even conflicts arise where each partner in the same posture, his eyes, his perception and its evaluation.
Group POS "face to face"
We can say that all of these poses satisfy human sex, primarily communicative function - the need to communicate. Because, as you know, in animals such POS no. And people often need in the intimate process is not so much a physiological pleasure as the feeling of a merger, unity...
The man on top
And just this need best meets the famous pose from the group face to face, man on top. For many women, this position is a symbol of a kind of security - when the male body closes it almost completely...
This position is usually called the missionary - at the same time, telling the story of how the savages on the island, used to "communicate" in the postures of the animals, they watched in amazement as a couple of missionaries is love.... However, it is still not quite right. Variants of this position have been found in rock carvings of primitive people! That is, it indirectly confirms what we said above: the social function of sex appeared a long time ago. And if you want, this position can not be called a missionary, and human. And those people who have it not popular, and in the rest of its development still experienced some setbacks in the development of its population...
But the problem in using this group poses right there and start experiencing its different "social interpretation". It may be, on the one hand, the merger and the merger, and on the other hand - suppression (from the point of view of a man): well, that's how I pressed her, she does not move! Generally for men seeking sex to satisfy primarily the sense of personal power, especially the power from a position of strength, this position is so attractive that it can be the woman literally "crush".
And has no values for them that almost motionless partner loses the ability to help his frictions and thus weakens its purely physiological pleasure! But that is just the point that physiological discharge for such a dork secondary, the main thing is to crush... But from the point of view of women, this position may be also a symbol... of contempt and indifference. Supposedly, my business is sorry, to lie down and legs spread. And then let's he doing what he wants, I don't care!..
Just at this position (data reading) sex wife, literally hating their husbands - and in particular closeness with them. That's another reason why this position is so popular - often in couples sex is marital duties. And it is in this position, the wife can not afford to bother during the execution of these duties...
It turns out that if your partner is experiencing in this position, the feeling of unity and partner - indifference, or partner craves with this posture to satisfy the sense of power, and the girl - a sense of security, when such opposite order someone will certainly remain unmet (how well this position is neither approached their anatomy). And Vice versa: if this is the location of the bodies are not too good to stimulate the main erogenous zones, but it is a coincidence of views - this position will be regarded with a Bang!
Woman on top
The next most common posture of this group is woman on top. In principle it is more physiologic because as a rule, a woman is easier for men. However, if such contact tel tight pressure on each other much smaller, and of course, the main activity provided by the partner. That is why in most sexological works this position is recommended for active women and the tired men. However, it is from the point of view of physiological feasibility. But when it comes to psychology - the conflicts of the specific plan.
We're going to talk about it, but it's worth mentioning now that some of our men (especially those who consider themselves, as it is called today, too "steep"), as if the day neither had enough of work, can't let the wife or girlfriend "sit on top"! Supposedly, it demeans his manhood.
The only person he can to prevent this is with a prostitute, which he allegedly initially humiliated by the fact that bought it, and while it no longer "trampled man", and the customer-the customer who can afford to lie quietly until bought by a lady working.... See how the perception changes depending on the psychological and social accents! And in the technical provisions, in fact, nothing has changed. And with such a distorted perception of difficulties in both men (who resolve their sexual problems with their wives, but through the power of moving themselves, or left without the necessary discharge), and the wives who understand that the husband is tired, and gladly would have taken things into their own hands, but he does not allow them to use this pose...
Distortion of perception comes to the fact that once in one popular newspaper reputable scientist (that's a pity, didn't remember the name! ), being a supporter of "male superiority", spoke, saying, "pose horsewoman leads to the degeneration of the nation - if from the moment of conception will be the woman, you are born ugly children... As they say - no comment.
Interestingly, and different women that pose different. Some women love this pose - but not so much for what they themselves can choose the desired angle of contact of bodies and the rhythm of the movement, namely for the fact that psychologically want to feel like a top, over a man. Especially if in the social life they excessively crushed the opposite sex and they don't like it. And here's another group of women, despite their activity, this pose is quite cold. This is because, in this situation, "the man lies and kicks, and you obslugiwal... "
Of course, in all positions implied reciprocal activity partners. Albeit in varying degrees: in the position "man on top" woman, as you know, can promote mutual (and especially your own) enjoyment. Similarly, as a partner in the pose of "woman on top" is also not deprived of the opportunity to move, to press it to his partner. But again, when you begin a major role to play not physiological sensations and psychological, and in particular, the principal becomes the great opposition of the sexes - that's when conflicts arise.
Sitting pose
This group poses standing a little apart - because actually for sexual needs they barely long not the most uncomfortable. Why not practiced as often, and mostly for the refined, sophisticated sex. These poses allow us to guarantee the equality of partners - primarily in growth. And at least give the minimum freedom of movement in the pelvis for both partners, but you totally pull in the chest and full freedom to communicate at eye level. And thus confirm that the human sex begins with the head.
Yes, some men are trying, and in this position to move the woman as an artificial vagina. But when she sits on top of a seated man, that's hard. Therefore, when there is no desire in the process proximity to emphasize equality and unity, and the need to suppress or emphasize their superiority in such cases sitting pose are particularly unpopular...
Standing pose
Also a very specific group - from a psychological point of view. Yes of course, this is a serious burden for partners, especially for men, who is forced to keep the woman in her arms, but just men (especially sporting, dramatic, edgy) these postures like out of a sense of full control of the partner. They can move as inanimate, to keep it all "in their hands". By the way, women this attitude is like for similar reasons: they say, that's what I fine with me even in this position to have sex... As you can see, the main selection criteria - again, not physiological.
And another feature. In fact, even the technique of these poses emphasizes one thing: they do not require any Lodge. They can be used for quick sex on the run. That is perfect for partners who somehow want to emphasize the ease and rapidity of their intentions. (Of course, these postures are sometimes used and regular partners, but usually as a cameo ornaments of their sex) Because usually a couple planning an intimate, somehow figuring out where they will lie or to rely on - from a hotel room to the railing in the stairwell. And in the case of "standing pose" even this is not necessary - as the saying goes, freedom!..
The pose of "the man behind"
This position is derived from animals, requires a separate discussion. Too many around her accumulated psychological problems and possible conflicts.
In principle, it is one of the brightest examples of recourse to animal poses. Man, most likely, this position was initially used very little, and even in the early promiscuity is unlikely she had a great popularity. But when the sexual function of the man began to feel the social perception (and thereby to cause problems), people involuntarily began to occur such Association, saying that as the animals all easy! Maybe we could try, as they?...
It is now clear why we all just animals. And even if you borrow their positions, all can be just as difficult, as shows the case with this example.
Man differs from the animal including powerful developed gluteal muscles, which is caused by premontane. And "technically" because of these muscles during posture back penetration in General even slightly difficult. However, this position has become very popular with many people (again, more men) precisely because of its social symbolism. In particular, the partners do not see the faces of each other, and the girl may not know who she mates... by the Way, this is such a popular pose for group contacts.
The man in this position also does not see the face of your partner. And this brings him in certain cases, primarily psychological pleasure: he seemed to feel that they are free from responsibility for the quality of sex. He inconspicuous small mimic the reactions of women, and how would you not think, when she was pleased, and when it hurts. That's when she will moan or scream, there, they say, will understand. And is silent - so about anything and not have to worry...
But of course, the most important "social stratification" of this position is the subjection of the female partner and then and the now kneeling. Some men like a woman's head down to the bend at the same time... this pose appears in cases of rape often (especially in cases when the perpetrator is not so much important is sex with the victim, as the fact of her humiliation). This position is generally symbolizes the humiliation in monkey pod (so-called stand posture), and often in addition to sex: in this position may be weak male in the presence of strong. So first, as it recognizes the superiority of the latter (and without concomitant sexual intercourse! )
So many ladies this position and don't like, even if it gives them a physiological pleasure. Serious issues in this case arise for those women whose main erogenous zones are back and the back wall of the vagina. In this case, some possible partners, "woman on his lap, the man behind" are almost perfect. But the pleasure derived from physical effects, can sometimes completely blocked unconscious unisexually perception - the woman feels humiliated, she was ashamed, "uncomfortable", and thus of no pleasure from stimulation of erogenous zones often think is not necessary.
And choosing a different position that is not emphasized so clearly secondary role of women, she does not receive required for discharge of physiological sensations. Here is a possible cause of disharmony in bed. No less complicated case occurs when the partner insists on the attitude of "the man behind" it is as self-esteem...
In General this is one of my favorite poses men and sex-it is primarily for self-assertion - first of all in their eyes. Often they are the womanizers and seducers, but actually it is not so much to gather a collection or to obtain more erotic pleasure; sex for them is the main way to humiliate a woman and thus to exalt himself. By the way, they would be happy "to have" partner and standing, but the trouble is - as a rule, neither the growth nor the power does not come out...
But it is the other way: this position may be regarded as posture demonstration of trust. I have already written that one of the most vulnerable (and also shameful) places of our body - the area of the buttocks. Moreover, on the butt hit the child's parents...
Therefore, such a blatant demonstration of this field partner, especially when a woman is denied the opportunity to defend themselves (hands are used as a support), is often an expression of boundless confidence. In this case, the position of "the man behind" used with success in a harmonious married couples exactly as the diversity of sex and a kind of confirmation of a trust relationship.
Under such circumstances, a woman may receive additional benefits. As another feature of this posture is that it is not stimulated by the body of the partner area of the clitoris of the woman and the scope of her Breasts - though this many ladies basic erogenous zones! So again it all depends on perception: in one case this position is specifically selected because the partner will still receive his lady's pleasure or not (and even better, if you don't get (like, not for what I got, so she enjoyed it, her reaction generally can't care), but in other circumstances, when between spouses is harmony and trust, this position may allow the man to caress his lady Breasts or clitoris, bringing her more pleasure (and very nice as the actual sex).
A few words can be said about the fact that this position is practically only possible for anal sex. And here again much depends on what pair is happening psychologically. Either this is the final humiliation of women, or the decoration already harmonious sex loving people!
... It turns out that often in pairs the main selection criteria favorite poses - non-sexual. Of course, each situation requires an individual detailed analysis, especially the problematic situation. But it's just that it is not necessary in some cases to blame it all on technique and offer the partner who does not get fun new positions. Just all the dissatisfaction may come from the fact that man wants in the bed to get in addition to physiology certain psychological Association - say, to feel secure, and gets he(she) is quite another - for example, the same feeling of suppression...
And if a person has persistent sexual disorder, before you feed him(her) some exciting means or recommend another partner, it makes sense to delve into his own unconscious perception of sex. Because as it turns out, people people to feel, first of all, no head, and a head.
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