Family psychologist: to go or not to go?

As you know, in America every second couple finds their relationship by means of a third party. Fashion trips to the psychologist in the United States began in the 90's and today probably will not find an American who would not go to a specialist on a specific issue.


In Ukraine people are mainly reclusive way of life, but because few people like to parade its feelings, and the more someone to devote to their family secrets. But, as we see in the fast-food, clothing, film, sooner or later, we adopted many of the habits of the far continent and neisclucheno that in a short time and trips to the "experts" will become commonplace. When, why, and why people go couples should visit a psychologist and try to find out Women's Magazine.





Different approach to the problem


Everyone knows that if you go to the dentist at the first sign - not even pain, and lung itching - we save through prevention a ton of money, not to bring the teeth to the state when they need to be drilled, remove or put artificial dentures. So why the same logic, the same healthy greed are not overcome in that consulting a psychologist and psychotherapist in time, they will save their couple from suffering, will save time and money, which they certainly not superfluous?




Typically, overseas psychologists are dealing with depression at the initial stage, in our country at the sessions of the people "crawling" when there are already two outputs: or cemetery or ... still to ask for help. And when man has reached such a state, to help him not that difficult, just a shame on human folly, that building inside the prison, people for years not trying to get out.





Why do I need a psychologist?


It is a widely held view that psychologists refer only weak and complaining. Men especially are often told that to go to a psychologist is a weakness, not worthy of them, and that a couple can cope with their problems by itself.




For starters, let's find out why we have no subsistence agriculture? Why we do not grow cotton, spun yarn, sew clothes, raised cattle and wheat? Rarely cuts himself, treats teeth, making a surgical operation, he collects TV, or car. And moreover, it is unlikely that all this could be done by one person, especially at a high professional level.




The amazing thing: hardly anyone without special education is taken to repair the usual appliances, but to repair its own soul or the soul of the neighbor start with ease. But the interesting thing is that the TV you can buy another, but with the soul of such a focus will not work. Then it is logical that the most precious thing we have - our soul - we have entrusted to a professional and get professional help.




When should I go to a family therapist




To the psychologist it is necessary to go, if you have tried all ways that I know, and the situation remains unresolved or worse, you topsites in one place, and the soul all tasklevel.




Of course, many will say "I'm so cool", and we will be very happy if this is true, but think again maybe one of the following signs of "disease" is suitable for your couple:




often changed the mood, and fall on your


there are obsessive fears of losing a loved one or you think you are not worthy to be the next


- you anxious and restless


- you have a bad sleep, bad sleep, bad Wake up, not enough sleep, anxiety, sleep


- there are problems in dealing with the loved one


- if you are closed, and sometimes loved can't you pull and the word


- improved touchy, because of various reasons


- irritable or tearful


- there was some kind of stressful situation (accident, death of a loved one, serious illness, dismissal, separation from a loved one) and you seriously are experiencing it


often headache


- you don't feel happy in marriage.

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