Why do girls not want to get married. What are the statistics?
Thirty years ago, only 6, 2% of women from 30 to 34 years never crossed the coveted threshold of the Registrar. These women are considered inferior (no one has married, then something's wrong), they were spared and were called old maids.
Today, the rate of unmarried women has increased to 20% in Ukraine, and up to 50% in America.
Gradually formed a layer of the women financially independent and successful, who do not want to get married. And contrary to popular belief this is not a misfit and not gray mouse. On the contrary, it is a beautiful, bright, successful, ambitious and know their worth ladies.
But two centuries ago marriage for women was almost the only opportunity to arrange his life (to find the house, prosperity and financial stability).
So why are our contemporaries (worthy of all the parameters of women) do not want to get married?
Convinced of kareristki
For them career above all else, and career UPS and achievements sweeter than any family happiness. They rightly believe that a marriage with all the ensuing consequences (husband, children, responsibilities, chores, etc. will distract them from the main goal and not give in fully to realize their ambitions. Because the family is not a wolf in the forest will not escape.
So they or even reject marriage as an atavism and a relic of the past, or tolerate it indefinitely (get married after 30, and even better after 40).
Divorced women
This category of women with previous negative experience (breakup, divorce, division of property, tears, disappointment, pain, resentment). This very experience prevents them again "to spread our wings and rush to light another "candle". They don't want to get married, because they don't want to divorce. They prefer to live in the past, again and again experiencing separation, to savor their pain and nurture self-pity. It's much better (and suddenly it will come to their senses, realize what you have lost, will repent and return) than to relive such.
Women waiting
Yes, they don't want to get married, because "the way" and because of all the friends of their age have firmly married, have a strong family and at least one rosy-cheeked toddler. They don't care about the tears and reproaches native mothers (I am ashamed for my neighbors for you, I have to lie that you have a prospective boyfriend! ), they do not affect the questions of friends and collaborators (You married yet to be released? None married and not calling? ). They're just waiting for the one, who wants to grow old and who want to give their whole life without balance. And they will play for him for love, not because I want parents, chief and aunt Zina.
Women with complex
Not his own, and parent. Having a clear example of unhappy and dysfunctional family life of parents, many girls are not in a hurry to marry because of unwillingness to repeat their fate.
For example, the father all my life I offended the mother did not work and in addition took the family budget. It is quite natural that a little girl has developed a negative image of the husband and father. That is why she is afraid to start a family, that is why she does not want to marry.
It is therefore important to some mothers think, and not whether they carry their negative experience on daughters. Yes, I agree, on the part visible. But let daughter managed their own their destiny. Not necessary from childhood to convince them that all men are at least the goats, and the maximum is not worthy of even their little finger. Do not think that time was not lucky you, be sure of luck to her, your krowinski.
Women buntarka
No, they are not against marriage as such. They are against prejudice, which everywhere meet single ladies. The need to keep the blow (hardly a day passes without issues, exhortations, advice, proposals to introduce " a very good guy). But they should just respect, acceptance and respect as the most normal, NORMAL woman.
Women loving
Freedom for them all. They not only appreciate it, they live in it mode. Surrounded by attention and desire from the fans, they crave again and again to hear compliments in his address, to receive expensive gifts and be the center of everyone's admiration. They are a valuable prize in the struggle for supremacy and the right to possess among their many fans. They revel in their independence, irresistible and inaccessibility. For them to marry death. How to leave all my wonderful friends and to devote my life to the only one? No, never and never!
Women fear
And they fear losing a loved one and all that they have now, romance, Dating, flowers, restaurants). Typically, this ardent admirer civil or guest marriages.
It's much better than to live in the treacherous conditions of life (let's have dinner at home; flowers are a waste of money; how much is how much does this rag, which you proudly call a dress? in anticipation of the break and tears.
Women not wanting children
It is no secret that fewer and fewer women voluntarily agree to have a baby. It's not just for childfree in our country is gaining such momentum. Unwillingness to get pregnant and spoil the figure, enough sleep and to devote his time to the child to run around in search of a nanny before going on vacation or going to a bachelorette party - that's why these ladies are inclined to fancy children relations.
Women who have no one to marry
Lack of time, mega-fast pace of life, the inability to change anything, make a search for love for these girls practically impossible. Office-home-office. Hostage vicious circle, they eventually get used to this arrangement of things and cease to believe in the possibility of happiness. Not everybody is destined to marry, have a baby and be happy.
Women disappointed in men
Everywhere you look around some snobs, chasers, drunkards and Gigolos. It is better to be alone than with just anyone. Yes and to give birth to such a lack of respect. Rotten genes - who needs them?
Women living for yourself
All the childhood and adolescence of these women were in the care of someone (seriously ill mother, little brother, a clutch of large families). And now, freed from the burden of family obligations, they realize that their life has just begun. It's time to live for yourself beloved and in his pleasure.
Afterword
As you can see not all single women lonely and unhappy. Moreover, some of them live quite comfortable and fulfilling life.
So, maybe I should not blame women who don't want to get married? Because there is no single standard of happiness. And that brings joy to one that does not fit another. And the presence of her husband and printing in the passport has not yet made truly happy no woman (euphoria of the first honeymooners does not count).
Look around, how many accidents, disappointed and tired of married ladies around? Ladies who rushed out to get married, after listening to the mother or "good" friends, ladies who got married just for the sake of marriage and because it is necessary.
Personally, I think that all the time. Will meet another girl 30 years his faithful, but the lady already been THERE, dare and give yourself another chance. Yes and the record in club Childfree unable to secure from sudden and unplanned pregnancy.
The main thing is to be happy, regardless of social status, financial stability, and the presence of her husband. Happiness, it is so stable and fragile. So let us live peacefully and will cease to specify all around on their little weaknesses.
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