"I'm not afraid of affection, I just have to be sure"
As it turned out, the fact that men are afraid of a serious relationship is just a myth. A recent study by American journalists showed that men prefer to live in marriage, and not to remain a lifelong bachelor. They are interested in a long serious relationship, like women. Men are ready and willing to create a family. In the study participated 12000 men and women who were asked one question: "In your opinion, is it better to live life in the family or being one? ". The results showed that 66% of men want to create strong family, whereas among women there were just 51%. Thus, men dispelled the myth that they don't want to marry. But, according to psychologists, a man need only a few meetings to understand: to marry it to a new friend or not. So if you're still not married, then your man to marry you doesn't want to.
"I have feelings, but it's hard for me to Express them"
Women often accuse men of insensitivity, selfishness and lack of emotion. Perhaps for some men this may be true, but not for all. In fact, modern society (and too primitive) causes men to suppress their emotions, try not to show feelings and to survive all the problems in silence. Men don't cry - these are the words most parents say to boys. And the boys learn. Don't cry and don't always understand those who weep. However, all this does not mean that men are insensitive crackers. As practice shows, it is the representatives of a strong half of mankind are more likely to suffer heart attacks, and it happens in part because the constant suppression of emotions leads to chronic stress, the destruction of nerve cells and heart problems. A wise woman should understand that for a man to begin to Express the emotions you need a lot of time and patience.
"Of course, in my blood have testosterone, but this does not mean that I'm a sex maniac"
The image of the modern man in the eyes of women resembles a caricature - a sort of Neanderthal man, driven by primitive instincts, which are unable to control their animal urges. But, much to the surprise of many women - men are not as primitive as it seems at first glance. Actually most men think sex is not a routine activity, but something that should happen at the right time, in the right place and certainly with the right woman. Modern society is completely normal perceives sexual fantasies of both men and women, and they (these fantasies) all have different. So if a man wants to have sex... well, for example, in the Elevator, and you think that love games possible only in the dark and under the covers, it does not mean that your partner Perv. Most men do not hide the fact that sex plays a role in their relationship with a woman, but almost all of them are ready to make sacrifices for the sake of the beloved. Within reasonable limits, of course...
"Everything you've heard about the male ego is true..."
Many psychologists recommend to imagine that the male ego is an inflatable ball. It can be inflated to epic proportions, you can gently blow away, and it is possible, through the needle, crashing burst. The first two options are acceptable, but the third could be fatal, at least for a relationship. If a woman wants to win the heart of men, it would have to be pretty to sing his praises. To tell the truth is also need to carefully first praise, then to scold, then again to praise. And remember - ripped the ball is not inflated.
"I need a certain degree of freedom and independence, and I am afraid that you will become my burden"
Sadly, of course, is to realize, but it's true. Men are very afraid that the woman will become fetters on their legs. This applies to various aspects of life - someone needs to be able to flirt with other women, someone thinks that the family will prevent career, someone important Hobbies and friends. After meeting with the woman man for a long time preparing escape routes, until that moment, until you realize that it is the same with which he wants to spend the rest of life. All that is required from the smart women in this situation is to give your partner a little space. If he is ambitious - don't make it into whatever was spending a weekend at the cottage at your mother: let him work! If he dreams about the title of master of sports of water skiing, no need to scold him for taking on new mounts and a half months ' wages. Well, if he flirts with other... make him jealous.
"I want to be able to tell you about their desires, fears and dreams, without fear that I will fall in a flurry of indignation"
Men have something to say to women. But they rarely do it. Why? Because of the fear of the atomic explosion of emotions in response to their words. It seems that you're too openly dress; it does not suit your disorganization; or he would not mind, if you've lost those extra five pounds that he collected during the cold season. However, it is silent. Because, most likely in response to the criticism he will hear a lot of bad words in her address, will be guilty, then he will have to ask you to forgive me, and you were not forgive, will pretty frayed his nerves, and then when he finally deserve leniency, you will long to say as it is unjust and cruel. This is such a long chain of thoughts is born in the mind of man, when he thinks about the fact that your mini skirt is not too relevant to look at the official lunch with a potential employer. Of course, many men would not hurt to learn how to tactfully Express their thoughts, but if you don't give him to understand that she was ready to hear his opinion, sooner or later he will no longer tolerate short skirts, bright makeup and extra pounds and go to the one that already has made a mistake, all understood and readily accepts criticism.
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