Century by century is confirmed by the old folk wisdom: "Love of evil - will love and kids". Although, it would seem that wisdom must warn. But, alas, it warns. Can it all be so hopeless?!
"Goat" image collectively
First of all, let's, as they say, decide in terms of, let's see what's what and who's who. If you listen to women, from their point of view "the goat" - a collective way, with different meanings, connotations, nuances. Life shows that women consider men to the category "goat" for my lot. Well, for example. "Raw ham", "Redneck", "Crazy jealous", "Womanizer", "Typical Mama's boy," "Just rag", "he Has the job in the first place", "With him to talk about! "That "doesn't understand me". This list can continue and continue... to sum it all "goat" that causes dissatisfaction of women, you might say, "goat" is this the man that did not meet women's expectations, any, or all together.
And the result is one: from the "goats" go. Sooner or later. And, as a rule, than later go, the more sorry then about uselessly spent years of their life together. And angry after the fact: "Where were my eyes? ", "How cruel I was deceived! ""And the angel pretended to be! ""I gave him the best years of your life! " Sometimes resentment sounds and more radically: "What I have found?! In it there is nothing that I like! " But, that's what's amazing: love that evil may not happen once in your life! Once gone through sad experience, imagine, often completely rescues a woman from subsequent sad experience. And developing folk wisdom, we can say: "Love angrier evil - after the first goat will love and second". Of course, it is reasonable to ask: why? Here go back to where we started: because, apparently, that the image of the "goat" collectively - not immediately obvious who again before you.
Reflections on the reasons
Although the wisdom of "the love of evil, will love and kids" undisputed, however, not all women falls is such an evil love. In this regard, it makes sense to change the emphasis in the question: why not all? The heck with the goats, not in them the essence. They were, are and will be - that's life. But how to bypass their party - that is more important.
Family psychologists identify several reasons that lead to "evil love" in the lives of women. Unfortunately (or maybe fortunately! ), all causes are within women themselves. It turns out, are to blame?! The idea itself is not new, but it is always unpleasant to have to disagree.
The first reason: waiting for love. On the one hand, as without this anxious wait States love to do? On the other side, it is precisely in this agony of waiting, it's easy to make stupid mistakes, to see not what it actually is. Many famous literary quotations proof. In verses Sasha Black hero shouted: "To whom would fall the fuck? " Alexander Pushkin wrote in "Eugene Onegin" about Tatiana Larina: "the soul was waiting for someone." And the same Pushkin in another poem: "Ah, do not deceive me hard, I'm glad to be deceived! " When we are in anticipation of love, it is enough for us any little spark to believe it is Love, the very long-awaited, and about the chosen one to think He is the best. In this state, we are ready to accept love even his illusion, and her surrender recklessly.
The second reason: pity, the desire to help, to educate. These feelings are so characteristic of women that sometimes they replace love. And then there is the well-known paradox: the worse the chosen one, the stronger the attraction to him a woman feels.
Inspired by the great mission to save and exalt the chosen one, the woman goes on sacrificial love, believing in its great power that does not always lead to the expected results. And soon, "poor little lamb", which was taken under the wing of love, becomes increasingly unattractive in the "goat".
Reason the third: thirst of passion. There are types of women are usually beautiful and confident, have a very high need for adrenaline. They subconsciously gravitate towards men who will not give them a harmony of the senses, and will provide the most violent relationship - the UPS and downs of life on the eternal cliff, hell and flour - but it was not boring, monotonous, grey. It is not surprising that these women and "goats" can meet regularly. Life in this sense wise: for that fought for it and ran.
Reason four: too much love. Sometimes women, without realizing it, turn men into "goats". Yes, imagine, and it happens. Excessive female love can spoil a man, to destroy, to ruin and, ultimately, bring to degradation than is actually hypostasis "goat".
Reason five: the Neche in the mirror to blame. Once françois Villon wrote: "the Fox live from the Fox and the cat the cat". So maybe if we take this pattern to avoid meeting with the "goat" should not be sorry, "goat"? Anyway, before you reject with indignation the idea that there is a reason to think over it...
... and about the consequences
Ah, how good it is to talk about any problem and feel smart, knowing, rationally and adequately all of the evaluation. But then plunge into life, and as if the Eclipse some finds their mind, no see, no sobriety, no adequacy assessments. And there is no guarantee that the next love will not end up disappointed in your favorite. And then traps the most terrible danger to be disappointed in love in General. Now this is a real disaster! Not for nothing do they say that it is better a hundred times to love and be wrong, than being afraid to make mistakes, not to love. Otherwise, by analogy with the adage "you are afraid of wolves in the woods not to go, you can be facing a similar choice "goats to be afraid of - never to love". I would not want to weary frustration women have made such a radical conclusion.
Love without goats. The hypothesis.
One Eastern wisdom says:
"The attraction of the mind begets respect;
the attraction of the soul begets friendship;
attraction body produces desire.
The combination of these three drives begets love! "
I would venture to suggest that in this lies the secret of how to avoid disappointment in the men we love.
Do not take for the love of the other's feelings, and then probably won't be in it, no evil, no goat.
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