The idea to conduct this experiment came to us after reading one of the letters received by the editorial Board. "We with Sergey already 2 years together - shared Alina from Odessa. - In bed we always everything was fine. But lately I feel like I don't have enough sex. Can not understand what is happening: we have not ceased to love each other, we have not lost our desire.
But something is wrong. What do I do? " We offered Alina simple thing: within just one week to record everything that happens in her private life. Not only events, but also thoughts, feelings... Then we showed these records psychologist and sexologist. The diary has proven to be a unique document: he has allowed to establish, what is the problem with this pair, and, accordingly, to find a solution! Another character, a 32-year-old Hope, at our request, was also very erotic diary. And she managed to make some discoveries! Read revelation these women: you may also decide to take up the pen!
Why do I need a diary?
Erotic writing will help you understand your intimate life. After reviewing and analyzing them, you will be able to develop specific strategies to improve your intimacy and share it with your partner. Most importantly, keep a diary regularly.
Whether to allow read my notes to her husband? If there is no revelation, which can warp, to shock, to develop an inferiority complex - then Yes. Many things are easier to write than to speak. The diary will help the partner to better understand you.
We have ceased to dream and grow lazy
Alina, 27 years old, the seller-consultant
Sergey, 27 years old, Manager
Diary Alina
Monday.
Today I begin to keep a diary about her sex life! Something to me it is clearly not satisfied. Yesterday, for example, was waiting all night for that will Seryozha I will owu. He also was not against it, but the first movie was watching, then reached into the Internet. In General, I fell asleep, so it was not so. And he crawled in bed two nights and began doing the same to me, demanding that I portrayed the rider. I said that two years of joint life he ought to understand that in two hours the night I can describe only a log. Sergey replied that log to make love to him uninteresting. I was offended. Fell asleep, turning to each other backs. That was the beginning weeks.
Tuesday
. The night and in the evening rapidly reconciled. When he returned from work, I just cooked dinner and chatted with a friend on the phone. He came up from behind and without a word started me to undress. A friend asked why I was out of breath. Had to quickly say goodbye to her. Sergey CE as silently drew me into the bedroom. Barely had time to turn off the burner... Have something to ask Sergei, why is it so excite my phone conversations.
Environment. Sergey warned that today will be late for work, and I decided to make an evening wash. Then the soap box. His return was just getting crushed. And he came cheery, with a bottle of wine. Demanded that I quit your nonsense has got to me with tenderness. I got angry and said Sergei what you think. Insensitive oaf! I refuse bachelorette party, after work, rush home, to create him home. And it's all my efforts calls nonsense. Still love requires instead to help!
Thursday. Yesterday was not right. In the morning admitted that Serezha. Reconciled. I brought him coffee in bed and playfully kissed his stomach. He gently pulled me by the ear and sleepily said, "Baby, you know, in the morning I'm not able". With a sigh, she went to get a job. Still a shame that we never had sex in the morning. Sometimes I dream about how my favorite Wake me with kisses...
Fri.
My friend decided after work to persuade our favorite to go on nature. It was a Sunny day. Razomlev from the wine and smell of an autumn forest, whisper suggested Serezha to walk in the woods: it would be great to love each other on the carpet of fallen leaves, even after heat! He proposed to postpone sex until the return: on the bed to do this easier than on earth.
Once we grow lazy. For some reason ceased to dream and experiment. We should organize something unusual. Sergey tomorrow was going to work a little. And I for his return will arrange a romantic evening!
Saturday. The whole day we spent in the kitchen. Prepared salad with avocado. Lit the candles. Wearing an elegant dress, new underwear. The village wait a loved one.
Sergey came late and drunk. Explained that drinking beer with friends. Tried the salad. Said potatoes with meat he likes. Kissed me on the head and went to sleep. I cried with pain and went to watch the telly.
Sunday
. Sergei woke me with a kiss on the nose. Said that he is thankful for yesterday's dinner and wanted to surprise me. We drove out of town, to the equestrian facilities and horse riding! Then had lunch at a Japanese restaurant. Came home, pointedly glancing at each other. Kiss started in the hallway. But when I got to bed, there was a problem: after the Supreme oops drive terribly aching feet. Tried a dozen poses, but never found convenient. Arm in arm, pachaikili over the comical situations. Still it is good that I have my Earring...
Advises sexologist
The main problem of this pair is the inability to talk about sex. The guys clearly do not match the biorhythms: Sergey - owl, Alina lark. The only way to sexual harmony discussing plans for the evening. Let the man and Alina shall agree on the timing of sex: everyone will have to prepare for it. But this does not mean that you should abandon spontaneous sex.
Advises psychologist
Alina and Sergey - the relationship of lovers. They are quite attentive to each other. But their aspirations are often not the same. Alina speaks not with Sergei their desires. She had planned the evening by candlelight, but loved knows nothing about it, but he should plan the day. This is a mistake many women. Their desire to be spoken!
The Reaction Sergey
"I am very surprised! Didn't know that Alina dreams about morning sex: she hasn't told. And always wondered why the night she's so passive. I, too, was something not to miss in an intim! For some reason did not think that the problem may lie in our biorhythms... the Idea with the schedule I don't really like, but I'll try " it out".
For 10 years, the passion has evaporated
Hope, 32, specialist PR
Dmitry, 35 years old, programmer
Diary Of Hope
Monday. Don't know what to write. The day flew by, as one minute. At work again dead line, returned home late, had dinner, then read Vanushka. He washed the dishes and went to watch TV. Then the usual rigmarole: to redeem small, put him to sleep, take a shower. The result is on the clock 23.20. I am tired, beloved, too. Erotica and does not smell, especially on the weekend we had sex. In my opinion.
Tuesday.
Riding the subway with a cute blonde, who from time to time I looked. Become dirty pictures with his part - bred... Decided whatever it was in the evening to seduce Dima. But until you put Vanisko, forces have nothing on the left. Went to get blessed. He reacted somehow - too tired from work. Complained that today feels very similar, pressure). Could not tune in the desired fashion and up to the mark". As a result, the sex turned out to be sluggish and not sincere: ordinary discharge.
Environment. Asked about the intimate life of the married friends. Someone giggled, someone joked about young lovers, But the most of the situation, like me: life eats all the time and the desire. Besides, I and Dima have been together for 10 years - the stormy passions we are not talking. If we are twice a week, have sex, this is a huge achievement!
...I read on the Internet about the average frequency of sex in different Nations. Twice a week is not enough! The evening will stack son early...
Thursday. Yesterday, of course, nothing came of it. The child fell asleep in our bed at eleven, and with it I am. Today intend still to make a loved erotic brawl. To work specifically wore lace thongs under jeans uncomfortable, but excites. The whole day are muscular male body (I must say Dimke to finished beer - his belly is not very starts). And most would do well to do some shaping.
...Funny thing! Came to work early, managed the economy, put her son, went to stick to a loved one. He kept staring at the screen, planted a kiss on my cheek and pleadingly ask l: "Another 15 minutes! " Okay, has left to read, angry and disgruntled. Dima came in half an hour. When we finally got to it, was that ran out of condoms. He suggested that without them, but I dangerous days. As a result, he sniffs in three holes. And I think there are other ways to meet! Why don't we tried the 69 pose?
Friday. Today, not up to sex. I'll be honest: sometimes I really want passionate, gentle, long love. But somehow it seems that we have with Dima such already can not be: we know each other all cracks". There are things that I want to try, but not solved: for example, role-playing games. Imagine how the husband will laugh if I in the tenth year of life will offer him to be a Wolf, and myself on wearing a red Hood. Completely ridiculous.
Saturday
. Yesterday my husband brought from work disk with the "Kama Sutra". The presenter described how to enrich your sex life with new poses and a couple of all it showed. I such naturalism is not particularly exciting, but Dima is just the opposite. Finished in missionary pose. Fresh.
Sunday.
The day went great! Only without sex. You need to talk to Dima: it's time to change something. When we got married, thinking only about sex. Way to bring it back? By the way, we did not finish the drive with the "Kama Sutra". What if after an evening fairy tale for children to arrange a session for adults? Importantly, early to put the child...
Advises sexologist
It seems that there is Hope hidden depression: she's always tired, always wants to sleep. Dmitry clearly diminished libido, appeared a beer belly, spring pressure is already the symptoms of metabolic syndrome, the consequence of which is erectile dysfunction. Pair does not prevent to be checked to measure the level of hormones, Hope to visit a gynecologist, and Dmitry - andrologist. To raise the tone will help regimen, diet and sports.
Advises psychologist
I Hope a lot of energy is spent on baby (this is working), so it is not surprising that sex no strength remains. The perfect Board for this pair - holiday trip together! In addition, it is necessary to speak more openly about their fantasies. That gets you? What new things would you like to try? Compare the answers and choose your way of dealing with boredom in the bedroom!
The Reaction Dmitry
"Didn't even know that we can be so serious problems! Yes, I noticed that I don't want to have sex, as before, but he blamed everything on fatigue. Do sports and diet can correct the situation? Will give it a try. Regarding monotony: I have already booked a hotel out of town for the weekend. My dream is to be a Wolf! "
Source:
TvoiSex.ru
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