What is the "unlucky", and how to deal with it

Chronic loser. Of course, you met such people. Or maybe even yourself is one of them.


Chronic losers, it seems, specially conceived the universe in order to comfort of ordinary people in their disposable turmoil and unstable affliction.




Why: when your friend troubles literally fall on the head, as from the devil's horn of plenty, funny and awkward to complain about their more favorable destiny.




So observers well. The loser is bad.




He even thinks he has become the victim of some mysterious conspiracy, because to explain using the usual logical operations number and quality failures simply does not work.




Actually no mystery: chronic losers see the light of logical and easily understandable way.




They are legkovnushaemy people, trapped in a situation of accidental repetition of two negative events, in the presence of appropriate behaviour by competent persons.





So the doctors say-psychotherapists.


If the authority (mother, father, teacher, best friend, boss) will tell legkovnushaemy man: "Well, dear friend, we are different and I didn't expect this, of course, you are not lucky, you're a loser! " - can you believe that another "newtoys" was born. Happy birthday!




Now the little loser will notice in my life only "a great success" because I am sure that he is always unlucky.




His life will turn into an endless series of bizarre coincidences: sometimes funny, sometimes dramatic, sometimes even tragic.




Starting any new business, it will be trouble - and trouble is sure to come (where did it go, if it continually call! ).




Sooner or later newtoys will become discouraged and cease to fight and what to fight, if all one: no luck.





And then you find that loser to be very good.



First, it is easy to justify laziness and apathy: I could do that, Yes I'm still not luck.



Secondly, sometimes it turns out to arrange their lives around a strong and successful: one wants to be pitied, ironed on the back, hold the fate...



Thirdly, to do nothing is not necessary: you still will not work. Naturally, reflecting thus the individual and life is not going well and the family is not built, and the apartment is not displayed and the machine, if there is, always in repair.



Here are the results of chronic loser.


How to deal with it? If the loser is not you, then nothing. There will only therapist - because the problem is complex and serious and rooted in childhood.




And if chronic loser is you, then start to think: and what is it you don't like? Why not believe? Why afraid? Well could you be excellent with chronic Newtonian?




So, sure will be a winner.

Source:

Belarusian women's portal

women's web magazine