"Tell me a story! " This is familiar to all from childhood. My favorite fairy tale we remember all my life. And of all the fairy tales in the world for some reason we chose this. "And this is no accident, " say psychologists.Fairy tales are the purest expression of the collective unconscious. Every nation have their own ways and particular experiences of psychic reality. Psychologists have long been engaged in the interpretation of fairy tales, revealing the hidden meaning of symbols, in which the tale "talking" to us.
As an expression of the collective unconscious tales have a great influence on the formation of our consciousness in childhood. The tale helps the child to develop a relationship with the surrounding world. The tales are usually told on the night of your favorite people. Soft, soothing voice reading a tale that immerses the child in the light trance state. In this state, the unconscious child easily accessible for penetration of symbols, signs, help us "tells the tale.
The selection of images, which keeps our minds from childhood depends on what us since childhood surrounds: family relationships of our parents, the interaction of parents with a child), the moral values of the family and, of course, the personality and experience (though still not very big) baby. Symbols as matrix superimposed on the individual characteristics of the child's perception, interact with his unconscious sphere, then in the process of "processing" the brain interprets the received information, which becomes part of the actual experience of the person.
The child listens to the story and identify with her characters live in their fantasy of a magical adventure. The tale is fiction from beginning to end, but for a child the story can be animated in his own fantasies. So for the first time the child perceives the world around, through heroes and princesses he finds the foundations of their own understanding of the interaction of masculine and feminine.
Individual tale and a personal script:
Scenario # 1. The perfect wife
Russian tales often reflect the Patriarchal family values, where the role of the heroine-women passive, often dependent.
Character of Russian fairy tales - a woman, a girl who knows how to work hard, suffer and understand, and most importantly to wait. Female characters in Russian fairy tales - Vasilisa-Primorye, Mary-female approached, Krasicki-havroshechka - work, suffer bad treatment from the evil of Maciej undergo various tests. For their suffering as a bonus, they find happiness in the form of a man of Finist the Falcon. Listening to such tales and sermons mother, the girl learns the following: "If you will be obedient and good, the Prince will appreciate it, and you will get a stable marriage, will live happily ever after". If this behavior and even encouraged in the family, in adulthood we get a certain type of woman, where obedience and passivity is also apparent in the relationship with the man. These women are not able, and very often are afraid to talk about their desires, because in the unconscious firmly entrenched examples of "punishment" for bad behavior (disobedience).
In fairy tales bad girls usually have trouble if you do not behave in accordance with the stereotypical female role, is Baba Yaga or some other no less formidable authority that punishes.
Patriarchal society, upholding values such as "woman-mother", "nice quiet wife" leaves no place for the manifestation of individuality.
Chaste behaviour of women has long been encouraged in our society. Perhaps that is why, despite the fashion for open sexuality, we still have so many women, in the depths of the psyche which have survived restrictions on the manifestation of sexuality and even to discuss issues related to sex. In our country many women unsatisfied with their female role and the quality of their personal life.
Scenario # 2. "The naughty Princess"
This image though, and has opposed first though would be that the love and attention here is focused on herself and not on the man, but the behavior of women, however, and in some ways even more passive than "uncomplaining wife".
Princess from fairy tales often sweet and adorable, but they since the childhood surrounded by the love of your parents, and often this love is like a cocoon, which is so tightly envelops from childhood the girl from all sides, which gives no opportunity to see him "realities of life". Relationships with men can be superficial, not always leading to sex. The goal childish and capricious Princess to get her perfect Prince. Very often it happens that in the pursuit of the ideal Princess-of perfectionists not find desirable. Instead of the perfect husband and eternal pedestal they receive a commoner, as in the pursuit of the perfect partner, you can miss out on all the "ideal suitors" and marry the first person.
Echoes of this scenario was heard in tale, adapted by the brothers Grimm for the European reader, "King-Dragobrat".
Scenario # 3. "Discerning bride"
Some princesses are too picky, so his fairy sexuality can give a man only in exchange for status, social or material welfare. This female image we can see in the tale..Pushkin's "the Tale of Tsar Saltan", when in exchange for the possession of such a woman the hero has to pass different tests associated with risk for life and health. These Princess fleeing from any mention of any kind of basic family values. Before you can create a family with some man, he must demonstrate a variety of skills and abilities. And the Princess laugh, and go "there, don't know where to bring it, do not know what" the enemy to win and the flying ship build. Such a woman marries, starts to increase requirements to the spouse. In fact, it checks its robustness, tractability, and social and physical force. Such a woman requires from her husband's constant attention, high earnings in exchange only for its feminine appeal. Well, if this scenario would be acceptable for both parties. And if one of the parties will be bored?
Scenario # 4. "Sleeping beauty"
The scenario of such tales all have long known. It is found in the following fairy tales: Sleeping beauty", "the Tale of the dead Princess and the seven knights", "Snow white and the seven dwarfs", "Ruslan and Lyudmila". Under this scenario, the woman waiting for her man-Prince in the hope that he will come and save her from the bleak and joyless reality, awaken her sexuality. To get the "Prince of your dreams, you need to wait, just wait, there will begin the "fabulous life". Women affected by this scenario, often live in the illusion that with the coming of the Prince of her life will change in amazing ways. The danger of this scenario is that the woman herself for yourself, your life does nothing, relying on a mythical hero. The result could again be far from ideal.
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