Educate a boy

The question of how to raise a boy, are often faced with an acute problem in many families.
If you are a mother will make every effort to embrace the interests of his son, to experience the features of his hard boyhood life.




Parents, as a rule, rarely hug and kiss their sons than daughters, fearing excessive to spoil and pamper. This is not entirely correct: psychologists noticed that boys need more warm attention of both parents. So they develop the ability to free expression of feelings, empathy, desire to help. But if you feel that your affection annoying child becomes burdensome to him or he is shy - do not insist. Find a different way to Express their love, respect his wishes.




If you dad - find an opportunity to spend more time with his boy. Tell him about his childhood, about my friends, about the problems they had to overcome in his age. The parent of the opposite sex holds the key to the development of self-esteem in the growing child - that's a basic tenet of psychology education. The role of the father in that he helps his son to overcome the dependence on the mother.


The most valuable compliment for a boy is the address, like "well done, that's it's a man! " What we put in the term "real man"?





Warrior, hero, defender.

These concepts boy masters, playing soldiers, warriors, knights. Encourage son, using such epithets as "strong", "skilful", "bold", "hardy". Please refrain from derogatory comments like "small, "the new guy", do not go somewhere you don't". Such a humiliating expressions killed in the boy a sense of dignity, deprived of his confidence in their abilities. But for men it is very important to feel able to act.


Also an important and integral part of education - reading. Read and talk to your kids about "the heroes of yore". Feats of arms Russian knights and the conquest of the North pole, the nobility of king Arthur and the pioneers, heroes, Robin hood and the battle of Borodino. If the boy has no concept of true heroism, he begins to look for other ways for its expression in the doorways, in computer games, stupid American action films.






The owner, provider, assistant.

Avoid matriarchy. Do not force your son. Do not get used to make all the decisions - what to wear, where to go. Give him the right to choose. Give it some popita until it dragged his backpack to school. The main thing - that you were there and cheered him "what are you I already adult, won a large portfolio of pulling just the hero! " The boy is very important praise. Almost more than the girl. Such a thing as "male pride" is not an empty sound. Just don't overdo it. Do not give long ovation, if the child made garbage. Suffice it to say, "thank you that you helped".


It is important that the mother never forgot that she was a woman. Take care of yourself and nurture respect for the woman at his son. Don't be afraid to be weak. If you do not resist, fell to the scream - ask for forgiveness, honestly explaining the state of the child by his language. The boy will learn to listen, to understand and to forgive. Understand that the woman, as being emotional and sensitive, needs the support and protection of men. And in some condescension to their weakness.




Remember that it is not necessary to raise the boy of the future border guards, the fireman or the policeman. Your son can become a doctor, an archaeologist, engineer. Not so important strength, heroism, profession. It is important that your child became a man, ready to take responsibility, understand their responsibilities and are able to assert and defend their rights and the rights of their relatives and friends.

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