Sex with the boss: 5 illusions

Illusion No. 1: "He is no worse than others! "


Actually, even better, once you have managed in love with him. But better than that? Its beautiful human qualities, incredible beauty, wild sexuality, or the fact that he is your boss? Many women are attracted to high-ranking men, not because they can be a great princes themselves, but because through these relationships a woman can experience a touch of power and to satisfy their ambitions. And in this case it attracts not the man himself, and his status. Not referring to the moral and ethical implications of such a choice, we note only that the relationship with the partner will develop differently. Therefore, before deciding on the proximity with the head, it is better to think in advance what kind of relationship you can expect to then not be disappointed.





Illusion No. 2: "we Have so much in common! "


Exactly. Your 14 hours of work per day, is your Cup of tea in the office kitchen, your job responsibilities, colleagues, clients, appointments, and meetings. Is there something else? Will you have something to discuss, if one of you will change the work place, way of life? I wonder whether you with his friends? (No, it's better to ask, do you know his friends? )




With those with whom we spend most of the time for the General case, we always have something to talk about. Sometimes the abundance of common themes creates an illusion of intimacy and understanding. But, if you look, all this understanding applies only to operational units, and ends with them. No, it does not mean that your boss is sure to be a soulless bastard. But think about the fact that, in addition to the work that makes this person interesting, yet does not interfere.





Illusion No. 3: "It's nobody's business! "


Unfortunately, this is not the case. Even if you are both alone, and none of you have family around you there are lots of people who do care about your relationship. Take at least your colleagues. Yes, it should not be, Yes, the couple relationship is a personal matter, but it is a reality that is difficult to ignore. Or rather, no. To ignore it is possible, but only as long as she doesn't fall on your head in the form of gossip, jealousy and damaged business reputation.




There are even studies on this issue. British scientist Harry Powell (Oh, these British scientists! in his book "Gender differences at work," says, "hierarchical novels" (those in which one of the participants is subordinate to the other), if this is not an isolated case, significantly reduce the effectiveness of the company, because have a negative impact on the climate in the team. So the relationship with the boss better not to advertise.





Illusion No. 4: "We will live happily ever after! "


Here we come to the aid of statistics. Remember how many times in life have you had a romantic encounter, and how many of them ended a serious relationship? Your personal statistics will help you to make far-reaching conclusions. And, of course, nothing prevents her to testify in favor of a long relationship.





Illusion No. 5 "And we will succeed! "


And why not, on the other hand. According to the Times newspaper, conducted a survey among office ladies, 28% of respondents admitted that they were wrong to have sex with a colleague at work; 10% confessed to the affair with the boss, and of these ten 12% as a result received a promotion at work, and only 11% safely combined with his boss marriage! Let's try?

Source:

Modern family magazine

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