Counter offer
Last year my friends Maria and Alex (let us call them) parted as many as 4 times in the month of December. They could not agree on where and with whom to celebrate the New year. Masha wanted to spend the holiday night at home, alone with Alex, in the best traditions of romantic Christmas movies - it was their first holiday. Alex tried to convince her that they have ahead will be another 364 romantic evening and the same number of hot nights. And the New year to meet fun and noisy, with friends, it is better in the restaurant. By that time, when she finally agreed to Leshin option in all decent restaurants places were already booked, and friends have planned a holiday without regard to our couples. In the end, they still "fit" somewhere, but violent showdown so exhausted both that pleasure from the party, they still have not received.
Disagreements over the script of the New year most likely to occur in the "young" couples, when General tradition has not yet been formed, and each is guided only personal views about the holiday. If these views strongly do not match, you will have to compromise. For example, to see off the old year together, and to meet new already in the company of. Or Vice versa, in the evening go to the people, closer to midnight to go home, and at night again to go for a walk. Agree in advance that will share pleasure in the ratio of one to one: that is, each of you must make the same number of concessions that no one was hurt. If you have sifted through all the options, but to come to a common opinion still does not work, try to celebrate as yet none of you have never met on the roof of the house, admiring the fireworks, or ordered a limousine. Let this be the first step to establish their own tradition, which there is still none.
Gift shortfall
Igor had long been convinced Anna that she is less work and more time to spend with the family. In the course of walking the arguments I make more money?! "you completely abandoned house", "woman must work only for their own enjoyment." But Anna did not want that to work part-time, and even the ranks of the Housewives. In the end, the husband seems to have accepted, and even gave her a New year's organizer. For the next three hours around the house flew everything that is not bolted to the walls and floor, because she was mortally offended: she was hoping for some women the gift. "All men give jewelry, lingerie, perfume. And my organizer. Do you think he is making fun of? " - she was bemoaning to me on the phone. "Or maybe he just wanted to make you happy? You're so fond of... " - had the temerity to ask me, which caused my friend's new torrents outpourings on the subject of male attention and ingenuity.
Of course, men - master to give, to put it mildly, strange gifts. Screwdrivers, blocks of memory for a computer, enamel buckets. The list can be continued indefinitely. But it's not the gifts themselves, right? Any gift may be not to the court, if the donor does not take into account your tastes and interests. One of my friends husband proudly presented on the feast of the ring, decided at once to make his wife a solid gift. Many women in her place would be thrilled, but this girl is quite indifferent to the decorations, so a wide gesture loved her only upset: it would be better if gave something useful.
Output in this situation, two
- to accept. Think about what your man is tried and chose this gift for you. And no matter what you do in life, not spun single screw, main, screwdriver was chosen with love. And "female" gifts it is possible to obtain other holidays - Valentine's Day around the corner, for example. The 23rd of February, when you will have to choose a gift with love.
- to warn the man that you want to receive as a gift. Preferably, specifically, with indication, where to buy and how much. Want a surprise? Make a list of desirable things and ask a loved one to choose just one - and you will be intrigued and you will not be disappointed.
In working order
A separate item on new year's troubles many girls endure corporate. Not in my office, of course, and the work of the man she loved.
"No means no! "grimly informs me friend Mila. "How can you not put somewhere an adult? "truly I wonder. "And that's it! No means no and that's it. Either I, or corporate event! " - stubbornly purses his lips Mila. After a long battle, her husband still goes to have fun in the company of colleagues, and then his wife three days with him not talking. And after reconciliation few months tormented by the suspicion was there something immoral, if anyone laid eyes on her lawful husband, and he is now in all her changes under the guise of important meetings and negotiations with cranky customers? The situation is repeated from year to year and has already become something of a joke in our company.
"Horror stories" about the events that can be read on any of the women's forum for the new year, really reminds me of the story about the red hand or a coffin on wheels. "And a year later the Faith of sales brought forth from Vasi from the purchasing Department. And Vasya's wife found out about it, divorced him and went to the monastery! " You scared? Not for me. Nobody argues, Vasya from the purchasing Department can theoretically match with treacherous Faith of sales, it can even fall in love, to leave the family and live happily ever after, even stricken by remorse. But the party has nothing to do with it. Equally well it could happen any day. Or not to happen. So do not panic in advance and aggress, let the husband calmly dispatched on a "working" the New year. You're probably in a couple of days will also be corporate...
Well, for the New year!
Last year's holiday Marina and Misha has already turn into a funny family stories, although at first Marina was not fun. It was December 31, Misha came to work only in the tenth hour. He barely took a breath and put themselves in order, as started receiving guests, in General, in advance to eat the young man did not have time, and alcohol on the table were many. As a result, no scheduled activities of the company was not required, Misha over the next five hours performed a solo program - poisoned dirty jokes, tried to launch the fireworks from the balcony, was eager to find out relations with neighbors, and in the final, honing in on the wire, knocked the Christmas tree and happily fell asleep right next to her. The rest of the night Marina, escorting the guests who had not fled at the stage of fireworks, he sobbed over the lifeless body of her spouse, wondering how true sign about "how to meet and spend".
If your pet suddenly find yourself in the role of Misha, you may unwittingly come to the conclusion that in life it's time to change something, for example, a man. But, hand on heart, say, everyone at least once in your life out on the tiles so that the next morning I wanted urgently to change the name, passport, place of residence and the planet in General. It is very hard to judge your man (unless, of course, such behavior is not the norm, otherwise, life is really time to change something). Try to treat the situation with humor and switch to communicate with other people and with Christmas tree and loved ones you will understand the first number when you sleep.
There are many reasons to begin to sort things out directly under the chiming clock, and not to stop until the tenth of January. Here are three correct ways to save your holidays and to avoid quarrels:
- Try to eat more protein and less simple carbs for the holiday table. The latter, according to a member of the Royal medical society Paul Clayton, the chief cause of quarrels, because sharply raise blood sugar levels, which in combination with alcohol can provoke aggression even a calm person.
- Respect the person next to liberty to celebrate the way he likes. Do not try to take the whole process under control. You want everything to be perfect, but your loved ones need not fit into your idea of the ideal. It is better to relax and also enjoy just what is happening, even if things are not going the way you planned - you get a new experience, and it can be much nicer than you'd expect.
- Use the old proven method known literary heroine: "I'll think about it tomorrow! " If you are dissatisfied with something, do not rush immediately to inform your other half, give yourself time to "digest" the information, perhaps in a couple of hours everything will not seem catastrophe, and an hour later you will agree that this is something there.
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