There are two important conditions of success in this matter.
- You are the girl right, the road, she is interested in you. If not, then the reaction to attempts to sow reasonable, good, eternal will end with the phrase: "Not like, do not need to communicate with me". All right, if the young lady my dear, and you are not interested, then get on the health of all it goes: tardiness, tantrums, rudeness. No its interest, you have no leverage.
- She is ready to learn, she was tired of late. If no such intention, then forcibly inculcate the habit of being late is very difficult, although possible, see point 1. In this case, the young lady should be in you are very much interested should fear to lose such a good man.
So, let's begin.
A must - agreed
After another delay, while girls have a sense of guilt, just to justify it, to inform you that you have only themselves to blame, because it does not care that your girlfriend was not too late. Firmly tell that will be corrected, be sure to ask whether it is ready to help you in this difficult task? Interested if it is to cease to be late?
If you get an affirmative answer, get it again, let me repeat. Praise her for her intelligence, beauty, sexuality, determination, can kiss, cementing the agreement, which is useful once again to speak, to make sure that it is correctly understood the agreement.
The specifics
One of the ways to solve the problem with delays is to begin to explore its causes. Their can be many, for example, an interesting program on TV, painted nails, not dried up head, clothes, when ndishishi, the girl realizes that she has nothing to wear, all shoots, ten minutes meditating on scored "latest rage" wardrobe, aware that it already unfashionable, upset... Looking in the mirror, she saw patasala, upset...
Following 10 minutes of quiet hysteria (or loud), life gave a crack, and all men are bastards, and the fool with the work of the costume does not include. After that we need to go to the kitchen and get something to eat, finally, you can get dressed. And now almost at the door to her comes the understanding that we need to go to the toilet, just in case. Came out of the toilet, now clothes should be correct and you need to comb...
Everything I have told you the sequence of actions, which is late most of the girls, not to ask and not to find out. Will be added namely: to water the flowers, iron clothes, to straighten the nails, it is a secret, look at yourself in the mirror before going out, to understand that it is not so, and begin to dress. Any man with a simple procedure simply to walk in a circle to objective reasons, which inevitably lead to delay. The dead-end path.
Another way. No matter what happens, focus should not be on the process and on time. For example, watch clock: dress up to 15 minutes to do makeup in 10 minutes, combing with 5 minutes to go "just in case" - 5 minutes. This is not to carry out any actions that do not fit into the allotted time. During training it is possible to forgo the luxury of a try before going the whole closet, experiences that have nothing to wear, calls, friends, etc. When you have the opportunity to put the case in a certain period of time, will have an understanding of, for example, that for 15 minutes before going head to wash too late.
If this happened, you know, the hardest thing to come.
Self-control, the new behavior often causes discomfort, therefore, the habit does not occur and everything is back to normal. Although difficult, but it is important to encourage the absence of delays. At least the man should show emotions of delight and joy that young lady turned out! For example, not to be late for an hour, and only 15 minutes, the progress is obvious, but there is room to grow. Meet her at the moment of success with flowers, candy, ice cream, fall into a swoon from her outstanding achievements in the ability to not be late.
Reinforcement of positive behavior, emotions, Goodies, compliments will allow her to develop the habit. Yes, this supports the behavior of man will come in handy later, when the baby is born, you the same way it is easy to accustom him to the potty.
It is useful to think of the punishment
For example, for a delay of the punishment may be purely symbolic, bite her ear. Just kidding, although in every joke...
Agree on punishment. If it will be a fun and joyful for both, then, with one hand - a reminder that it was too late, with the other men's attention and good emotions, mood. The tooltip will not write, let your creative thinking knows no boundaries, but within reasonable limits, light, good.
It is useful to remember that any communication, whether just talking or teaching each other new skills, skills, better to do it with love and attention. Then there is a chance that the girl will no longer be late, and the relationship will be stronger. Success!
Author:
Pichugin Century
Source:
NLPLife
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