In the world of women's professions our ambitions became closely. We learned how to climb the career ladder at the tall "stiletto", turned suits in the trend, and competitive we have adopted means much more serious shooting eyes.But what if on the way to the peaks you were in the men's team? And what you need to know to win serious contenders?
Domostroy, kitchen and pirates
Your ideas are dissolved in the air, the initiative of ridicule, and any constructive suggestions you may receive an instant response in the spirit: "Woman, your place is in the kitchen" - in the best traditions of Domostroy.
What to do? Do not despair, domostroika arguments like those men who have nothing for you to present, in addition to its far-fetched sexual superiority. Go away with your head and not notice any raised eyebrows and oblique views, while your hard work does not justify itself.
Tired? Want to give up? When will be unbearable, you may remember one of the most beautiful women in Irish history. Mary Ann Blyde was the pirates, kept under the heel of the entire American fleet and led by the most fearsome pirate of his time. After that, the conceit of some Manager Nicholas seems sheer folly unworthy of your attention.
Kindergarten, pants with straps
"And today I was locked in the toilet". So begins the post in the blog of a former classmate who now works surrounded by a dozen men. The entire men's Department in a construction company, and among boys aged from 25 to 55 she feels or teacher, whether strict aunt in the blue uniform of the police children's room.
Jokes are good-natured and completely innocent: well, locked in the toilet and turned off the light, well, laughed then, a week and even months remembered. Well, read for fun chat in ICQ with my girlfriend and enthusiastically quoted here are some extracts: "Oleg sales like bald Einstein, but Slavik nothing". They don't want to hurt you. You simply do not take seriously, and the emergence of women in their close company is a very funny thing.
What to do? You see the teacher? Unpleasant, but not fatal. Here she is and stay within reasonable limits. Do not lose your temper, not polygraphite, and gradually the fun will come to naught.
Mating in the workplace
"Taken! " - and then sighed chief of the "Queen of the gas station". The woman nestled in male company, "taken" very quickly, and if married unbearable, then this is the most reliable way. That's only what to do, if your life successfully developed outside the office or the sounds of daily "corporate food" much nicer waltz Mendelssohn?
And men not to explain. They have every day, the eighth of March, all the talk about the work they are silent when you are prompted, and any discussion of the current project that you start, ends with the phrase interlocutor: "Ah, come on, how about dinner on Friday night? "
What to do? If the next six months in your work schedule there will be no place for a honeymoon, feel free to reduce the degrees of sexuality. No harmless flirting and skirts out of the closet Comedy secretaries. Experience shared one friend: the number of fans halved when on the ring finger appeared bought herself a thin ring.
And don't forget, adult boys scary like their male games, and persevering courtship from all sides resemblance to what you were the subject of dispute. Keep the feelings under control, do not fall into euphoria from increased attention and treat the situation with humor.
Welcome to Mars!
You first sit down at your Desk, turn on the laptop and smiling timidly. Around you if you do not vacuum, then at least his premonition. So live: men on Mars, you are on Venus, intersect at the meetings and talk only about the Euro. Next to your colleagues uncomfortable - had to remove from the screen saver of the computer slide show of the girls from "Playboy". No football once again to discuss in persons, no feet on the table to throw. You're just a stranger, you are the alien.
What to do? Do not comment on the subject of conversations in the Smoking room, not artificially create situations in which colleagues will feel rough mailname, and you yourself Princess. This is exactly the case when saves teambuilding and collaboration bowling after work. And, in the end, why not discuss with them the last football match?
The rules of the dress code
What can be the women's dress code in the men's team? Pants or a skirt - what to choose?
Trousers more comfortable physically and psychologically. They are excellent save from excessive attention, help at the right time "to become my boyfriend." Shoot a question about your levity and add a couple of points to the "seriousness".
In a skirt you will be able freely to exercise their female advantage: you are unlikely to negrobeat, you are unlikely to be perceived as a dangerous enemy. You put emphasis on your feminine nature, and it helps you to seem weaker than you really are.
But there is another point. If you will be able to keep up a high respect for his personality, not going down no in step with the female pedestal, you will now be on the shoulder any task.
The storming of the career ladder in terms of unequal battle
In the women's handbag concealed a lot of taps - use her feminine position. But the weaknesses it's worth the time to cover. Keep yourself in hand, and do not display their emotions openly, adequately take criticism and podsmatrivala for a response to the difficult situation of their male colleagues.
A woman in the men's team often valued for the fact that she is the Keeper of a positive attitude, she knows how to defuse the situation and temper boiling passion. If you want to join the company, it's a win-win way.
But the other extreme should be avoided. At some point it may seem that your men need care and attention. The office needs new curtains for lunch all be happy with homemade pies, and coffee cups is best to wash itself, because boys are bad. Office moms always will be loved by everyone, but this way is akin to the housewife in the service. You just dreamed about it?
- Take advantage of a few psychological tricks. Replace the phrase "I feel" to "I think". From time to time Supplement the costume items of clothing and ties, strong shoes "men's" style, etc.
- Stay a woman. Curious sociologists have conducted a survey among the men working under female leadership. And proved the obvious: the greatest respect in the world of men's business ladies are competent, disciplined, knowledgeable and irresistible. Still, the charm is the best competitive advantage.
Author:
Pechorin D.
Source:
Леди@mail.ru
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