To the editor of one of the Ukrainian women's magazines received a letter 32-year-old Galina
In my childhood I masturbated occasionally - when the two get, for example, or with a friend quarrels. Once doing this I caught mom. She said that doing only spoiled children and they die early. Thanks for the warning, mommy! "Thanks to him, I had developed a terrible complex - I felt guilt, fear, hopelessness and indifference to everything besides, I just entered the age when I want to do everything contrary: Ah, Masturbation is bad, and I don't care! And masturbated to the pain, to the point of exhaustion.
Then I learned that it's not dying. Was glad, because the visits in the secret garden of desires (so poetically I called their classes) become a habit. I consoled myself: now will get married and everything will change. But there it was! My first husband thought only about their own pleasure. Lover, which I started in search of thrills, too, did not give me desired. I decided: it's all about the love. And what...
My current husband Sergey I love, but it's just nice, not more. It turned out that I am very hard to please because I had mastered the art of self-satisfaction! I convincingly imitated orgasm, and learned in a few minutes - until Sergei bathroom to finish started.
But every secret ever becomes apparent. Once Sergei saw me masturbating immediately after intimacy with him. He said nothing, just put his hands on top of mine... this life-affirming note could finish my story, but...
I continue to Masturbation. Now all the children's complexes behind, no need to hide. By the way, Sergey likes it when I masturbate in his presence - he says it is his insanely sexy. Although I am convinced: stroll through the secret garden of delights not suffer witnesses.
There sexologists say about Masturbation? It's a lot chronically unsatisfied persons? So, my experience will enrich medicine new fact: I get a full discharge from sexual intercourse with her husband, and Masturbation is my hobby. I don't need to know a lot of men to understand: none of them are unable to bring me to the peak of pleasure - even the most gentle man enough feels female body. Only I know exactly where are treasured the "strings" of my orgasm and how they "play". To teach that man cannot - I will not enter his mind to lead the body. Yes, he can find the right place, but intuitively unlikely to feel when you need to speed up the movement, and when not to move. You can, of course, to suggest, but it distracts. I find it easier to meet the man and get the average orgasm, and then, slowly, incrementally, to bring themselves up to the highest point, to die and be resurrected updated.
Perhaps I am selfish in sex itself does not need to look for a partner, take into account his wishes. But I really very important own feelings. I dissolve in them, as if moving into another dimension, where there is only me and the ocean of pleasure.
Commented on the letter, doctor of medical Sciences, sexologist Nikolay Boyko:
Teens and Masturbation in the consciousness of the average citizen are two inseparable concepts. It is believed that teenagers I masturbate to release sexual "pairs". The statement is absolutely true, but only for boys. They increase in the transition consumed violent sexual desires, fantasies, and Masturbation is a kind of "substitution therapy".
Girls growing up happens more gently, more Platonic, and masturbate for them - a kind of game at the level of intuition. The future of women mastering the art of give myself pleasure giving skills sexual intercourse with the opposite sex. The word Masturbation is not burdened by guilt, fear, and not of the host Intrusive forms, not only not harmful, but useful.
The "adult" Masturbation is a slightly different nature. Considered to be: a Mature man and woman who have full sex, no need for Masturbation. And yet the situation described in the letter, is not exclusive and extraordinary. It's the nature of female sexuality.
The subject of female orgasm - mysteriously elusive and changeable - so hard being discussed by experts that men have long had to feel slightly inferior. However, the facts remain facts: the woman sensations from sexual intercourse can be radically different from orgasmic experiences during oral sex and have nothing to do with orgasm achieved through Masturbation.
There is therefore nothing surprising in the fact that approximately half of the women are happily married, after "main Goodies" - intimacy with her husband can't indulge in the "dessert" - Masturbation. Besides, most women experience orgasm only during stimulation of the clitoris, and during intercourse this area often remains unused.
Sex with man and Masturbation are two parallel worlds, which sometimes have a point of contact. By the way, Masturbation on the "background" partner no longer actually masturbate, and becomes one of the faces of erotic communication. While Masturbation remains the element of love games, this is only for the benefit. There is nothing wrong in "solo voyage" - because not all couples have this breadth of vision to bring themselves to orgasm in the presence of each other.
As for Masturbation, accompanied by thoughts about the uniqueness and originality of their feelings, it threatens to escalate into autoerotism - selfish focusing on herself.
Sometimes a woman so focusing on your own feelings, even during intimacy with a man gets pleasure only from how he admires her beauty, erotic skill and so on. Such narcissism in some cases can even lead to the abandonment of normal sex life, saying, why me man, if I can do everything myself and do it better?
By the way, in vain you think that men do not lend themselves to erotic education. Among them there are very capable. You can spend a little time learning, and then life will enjoy the results! "
Source:
Lady.ru
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