Let's think together.
What is unrequited love?
The definition might be: that is the love that the person wishes to receive from the other, but for various reasons this does not happen. Or: unrequited love that person wants to give to another, but to another it is not needed.
Will the metaphor. For example, there is the girl an Apple, she no one shares, and eats itself. Well-fed, happy, everything is going well. But if the young ladies a lot of apples - she wants generously to share, but her answer is not necessary. Then the girl remains with her apples, she cannot share with anyone, she is so much most don't need, but others do not, the overabundance of annoying, apples rot, deteriorate.
Another option: for example, the young man has some apples. Perfect girl, she is also desirable, but the guy does not want to share, and the girl goes with anything, it is not shared. Maybe with another girl, a young man would divide the apples, but not with this. The reasons may be different.
As a rule, quite a young age to think, how to receive love from another person, rather than on how to give yourself. So often unrequited love occurs in aged 14-25 years. Logically, if they just want to fuck and not to share, it is in effect a simple law: all a lot, but love is not enough, so when I feel not enough, to share actually nothing.
Many desire only to get saved all my life, but there is an assumption that, becoming smarter, people think - can with him always to share, if nothing to offer? So comes to useful rule: before to get something, you have something to give. You already understand?
Causes of unrequited love
I think if nobody likes you, not divided by love - then it's your fault. You the reason to look for in other people, thinking: I love them all, and they no me, I hate them all. Possible reasons to look inward, it is more fruitful.
It got rid of a child's habits infinitely to demand and to receive love from others. In my childhood world consisted of loving parents, relatives who loved (better or worse) in the effect of your birth, as your baby. But the adult world is not a good mother, there are other laws. Agree?
- Your interests, lifestyle and what you want to share, is not important for your vote. Why camel wool is not eating? 't want that. It simply is not necessary, because the joy delivers burs.
- You have nothing to offer. Just an empty life, a fascinating case not, themselves look gloomy. What to enjoy? But then, be realistic, like a prosperous, not those who benefit escapes, and those who it attracts. If there is no good, and share nothing.
- The other person does not need, his love is not needed. Need a bright experience, emotion, emotional fluctuations. I want to create a bubble that will beautifully Shine in the light, as something good, but it is empty, after you abandon yourself wet place. Aren't as important as a spiritual holiday, at least for a moment, and the more the better. Then comes the understanding that your bubble is the illusion that nobody is interested. Well if it comes, and if not, then these people go around the circle of unrequited love, while complaining: all men, all women... well, you know.
- Sometimes unrequited love because of simple words - don't like. So often they say: a good man, but not physically like. Look, individual trifles in behavior, the smell. Just accept the fact that you cannot and do not have to please everyone, you are not 100 dollars, to be cherished object of possession.
I think now I understand what is unrequited love, the reasons for its occurrence, but what can you do?
How to do a split?
Decide first for themselves.
- Do you like the state of unrequited love? Maybe it's just a way to create "bubbles" and just watch, enjoy. Then do I need to change something?
You don't like the state of unrequited love. As the ancients said: "seek out the beginning of everything, and you will understand much". Which of the above reasons have led to this result?
- Are you ready to change something? Want? Can? If Yes, then you can expect a challenging and interesting work. For example, start with the fact that you define your aim. Don't like that there? What do you want? As will formulate? That will do in the first place? Make a plan how to stop suffering unrequited love.
- You want to change but don't know how. It's very simple, I don't know - learn! You can read books or listen to my "How to fall in love with? ". Go to the appropriate training. Many turned out, you can do it.
In any case, unrequited love ends when a person grows spiritually, financial, personal. Its always accept with joy and pleasure, strive to share their love, because worthy to invest properly and profitably. You are worthy?
Author:
Pichugin Century
Source:
NLPLife
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