Today it's a shame not to experience orgasm, to make love once a month and be old-fashioned monogamous.Even if the person has enough pleasure from touching the body of the partner and its heat, if after a busy day someone wants a good night's sleep, and not to perform the required ritual of love, if the person does not seek to seduce the representatives of the opposite sex (having their own reasons, sometimes intimate nature) - even if all these people are doing quite sincerely - they still may suffer from inconsistencies certain canons.
Unfortunately, we are too poorly know and feel themselves to fully understand the other. And many prejudices and stereotypes do not allow us to see what really men and women differ from each other.
Men and women sexual activity is higher in young age
The desire to have sex depends on the amount of the hormone testosterone, which men once in 10 or even 20 more than the women. Men's peak sexual activity occurs at the age of 20-25 years, and then slow decline. In women, the picture is different: at a young age, they need the love and romance, and to 35-40 years, disappear when the internal prohibitions and taboos, they no longer want to have sex. In this age, many appear of reasons for self-esteem: career, family, children and woman considers herself to be worthy of pleasure.
Men need more sex than women
According to experts, daily ejaculation physiologically a man needs for the proper functioning of the testicles and prostate. The desire of women to a lesser extent, determined by anatomy and more the psyche. French sexologist Alain Erill characterizes this distinction: "the Sexual needs of women are part of her personal development. In this sense, the woman is rather built on the principle of "to be". The man more focused on the competition, at the competition, it is dominated by the desire "to have".
The man is a polygamous being, unlike women
In nature, there are not so many monogamous animals. Their males and females are about the same size, have the same weight and equally divide the care of posterity. In polygamous societies, males are larger, have a bright color, more aggressive and practically do not have parental responsibilities. Ethological theory of conformity "carry" model from the animal world to the people. But such a direct and literal comparison is the next most common stereotype, which extremely simplifies human behavior. People from animals shared a long and great socialization process.
The theory of psychoanalysis argues that both men and women are by nature polygamous, that is able to be attracted to another object, even if you passionately love your partner or partner. The question is, do we go to the action, corresponding to our desires, or find the strength to refrain from them. And here comes into force factor of culture. Long since such a right possessed only a man. But the fact that the man often seeks ties-by-night than a woman, for which sex could be a reason for creating relationships.
Men need sex, women love
Modern research shows that most young men's first sexual experience was driven by curiosity or acute agitation, the girls were entered in the first sexual contact love. For centuries our culture does not allow open sexuality in women without feelings or alleged maternity. Today the situation is changing, and the woman is sexual freedom. But even in the short-term context, it continues to invest emotions and sincere interest in partner. Many men who have a strong Oedipal component of personality (t. e. unconscious Association of tenderness only with the image of the mother), can't connect sex and feelings. This classic model, described by Freud, in which a man shares the woman on the opposite images of "mother" and "whore". Such men in the family have problems: as in sex and relationships. But many modern men by the middle of life still manages to cope with the "disruption" of his sexuality.
Women see the whole, men of the item
According to experts, the man brings the General to the specific. Describing the woman he mentions separately chest, legs or buttocks. Therefore, the majority of fetishists and porno site visitors - men. For centuries in our culture a woman "Packed" on the neck, so men had to whip out the details. In the famous film "the Piano" hero ignited passion, when he saw a small hole in the black stocking is strictly dressed Englishwoman. Women are perceived in General. And not only the partner, but also the sensual atmosphere arising from the meeting. It is important for them completely, holistically "reflected" in the perception of men.
Erogenous zone of the male genital area, women all body
French sexologist Mirey Bonierbale noted that in the toilets and entrances usually draw one phallus instead of men, but women as a whole body. The man from childhood can see and explore their "primary sexual characteristics", focusing on the penis male essence. The girl is deprived of this opportunity, her sensuality and excitement arise rather from the perception of her body other. So, in the words of the Russian sexologist Alexander Paleev, the female body is a continuous erogenous zone, and only our upbringing and repressive culture of its "block".
A man can expand their sensuality, despite the specific neurophysiology (coarser skin is not as sensitive receptors, other blood supply). But for this he needs to own up to partial femininity. Modern culture gives men the opportunity.
Our goal is orgasm
The satisfaction rate for male orgasm. Because they think that women are built exactly the same, especially as the orgasm of the female partner is the "indicator" male success. Theoretically, a woman may experience even multiple orgasms. But only 20% of women happen to this phenomenon. Many are satisfied and one. Sometimes a woman is enough of a sense of closeness, warmth, feeling the growing tension. Female sexual desire varies depending on natural cycles and psychological factors. The way the nymphomaniac spread by MASCOTA, can cause women a false sense of her frigidity. And men's frustration and sense of obmanutoi when they face natural female sexuality.
As for the male orgasm, it is always associated with ejaculation. And ejaculation is not always accompanied by the erection and orgasm. Although according to the French Bonierbale, "in the West continue to confuse the concept of orgasm and ejaculation, and women often get angry if men did not happen ejaculation. Meanwhile, he is able to experience a great orgasm without ejaculation".
Women need foreplay
Desire and arousal are directly dependent on hormonal background. In men, the hormones injected in the blood at any time and in any place. For women the necessary number of psychological factors, which in combination will provide the necessary background. Man, like a gas burner, instantly flashes at full power, but just as quickly extinguished. Women, as the electric plates, the required period for heating, and they are slowly cooled. Minimal man from start to orgasm will need a total of 2, 5 minutes, whereas for women - 13 minutes.
What we want from sex
Men want small - to defuse the tension. Tests show that the man who is experiencing sexual desire is hard of hearing, bad thinking, bad driving, distorted perception of time. After sex men lose weight, they just need sleep to recuperate. The recovery phase may last from 5 minutes before the night is wide limit of normal.
For women the opposite sex - the accumulation of energy, it is necessary for this prelude. After sex blood woman full of hormones, she is ready to embrace the whole world, she wants attention. But this stereotype is sometimes a strong orgasm can "demand" from the women's rest - sleep, however, short-term.
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