Each of us has ever been in a situation when the soul was furious with righteous anger, was eager to restore justice or, at worst, without any special tricks to spoil.Revenge romantic and sweet. It is scary to think how many films would not have seen the world, lysis world cinema - especially Indian - this plot.
The question of revenge is one of the most controversial. Sincerely respond to it very difficult. A well known fact that often Kara is not commensurate with the offense is unfairly harsh or overly "velvet".
But let us leave aside the things of the beyond, let them engage the criminal Code. Disappointment, cursed honor, devoted to the ideals and incorrect beloved - all this also becomes a cause of revenge, and household revenge is not so harmless.
Revenge and retribution are different things. Revenge is petty, fussy, low. Her motive is, "may you be worse than me." When retribution punishment is delegated to the higher powers. And here the meaning of the other justice. However, revenge is often pretends to be a retribution - so convenient, and the avenging people willingly represents that he is authorized to make retribution. But is it true?
Revenge is a dish cold. But some like it hot
The desire for revenge is quite understandable as dictated it nothing but the instinct of self-preservation is the most powerful instincts. This kind of investment in future security. If you crush a bee at the hive, swarm together nakalyaetsya on the enemy. The same thing happens in flocks of monkeys. What drives animals? Certainly not a sense of justice.
A famous example from the animal world, when crow flock stalking predator, beating his companion - living or dead. Crows can easily draw the enemy to flight, or even to peck him. It is difficult to reason about moral motives in the behavior of crows. The purpose of this action is to suppress, intimidate the enemy, in order, ultimately, to survive.
However, human society is also often difficult to distinguish from voronja flocks. But if the nature of revenge, as a rule, rational, people in their desire for revenge often do things that cannot be explained neither by logic nor common sense.
And then such aggression from the way of self-preservation becomes a way of self-destruction.
Two eyes for one
Any unsightly thing we tend to justify the high and noble motives, including the desire for revenge.
However, vengeance is difficult to ascribe to the human virtues. What drives a man, obsessed by the idea of revenge? The love of justice? Hardly... maybe jealousy, anger, possessiveness, desire to assert themselves? The idea is to punish captures so much so that a simple question - "why?.." in his head it didn't come. In severe cases, revenge becomes the meaning of life. As mentioned above, the aggression is accumulated and multiplied - "I was hurting, and I'll do ten times more painful". What justice can we talk? But when, finally, the goal has been achieved, and the person considers himself to avenge, after a brief euphoria piled severe depression and emptiness, often with a real prospect of suicide.
Why is this happening? Because revenge is deeply destructive, and, first of all, it destroys the avenger.
"Arsenic in food, cyanide hot"
In revenge of the few sane and rational. Perhaps the most obvious manifestation of this is evident in the situation of divorce. The keynote about this: "He is a scoundrel and a villain. I hate him, but divorce he will not get. If I bad - why it must be good? "
I wonder how much joy to live with the bastard under one roof, in an atmosphere of hate, harassing each other? Why not let the person - especially scoundrel and villain? Often under the guise of a thirst for revenge is a sadomasochistic nature, which is happy to torment yourself, and along with the others.
Moreover, if witnessed ugly scenes become the children can guess what strategy they will adopt. Will they be happy in marriage? It is unlikely.
It is difficult to say who is more inclined to take revenge on women or men. If the scale of global tragedies still possible to understand and to justify the desire for revenge, the revenge of the household - not that other, as mental weakness and immaturity. Remember the crazed face of his girlfriend Svetki, when quite by accident, a few months after her breakup with former lover, she found that almost all the stuffing her luxurious computer secretly was replaced. Of course, for the worse. This happened within the division of jointly acquired property.
How revenge can be both primitive and sophisticated. On one of these "original" ways I came across in the Internet and bring as close as possible to the original:
Some Yuri manage to sleep with a witness from the bride right on the wedding day. He did it in the back of the restaurant, during the Banquet. A couple caught.
The young wife found out about the incident two weeks, but meekly said nothing.
Fool-Yuri bragged about it invaluable Zhenya's quality in front of each counter. But only in the course of the year. Because at the celebration of your wedding anniversary in a close circle Grinich friends and relatives of his wife, taking the floor, quietly smiling and holding a glass of champagne, and told everyone that "gift" made by her husband on their wedding day, she remembered for a lifetime. Wherefore, as the symmetric countermeasures in the past year, slept with all the men who now sit at the holiday table. A divorce takes immediately, and you all be damned. Arsenic in food, cyanide hot. And withdrew.
And since she is not a bit exaggerated about all those men, it is easy to imagine that began there.
Self-control this woman can only envy. But how the hell was her life for years! Yes, it was revenge. But... is happier? Hardly.
Going to retaliate - Roy two graves
Deciding on revenge, we take on the role of judge and executioner at the same time. Not too much there? And who gave us this right to judge anyone? Therefore, to explain, to whom is the second grave, I think not.
Even if we reject the reasoning of the high morality and forgiveness, revenge senseless and simply unprofitable. It can be easily installed by simple calculations: visits in all the salons of magic (well same here without them! ), expensive treatment effects of a nervous breakdown and depression, endless phone conversations on the topic "What is the cattle! "all this considerable material costs. In the end, the same grave - pleasure is not cheap, and not only in Moscow prices.
And why? Just because you do not have enough sense to poke its nose just above the water line, so as not to choke. Life will put everything in its place, and no need to disturb her. It would be nice just to step aside, to muster the courage to live on. In spite of everything. And more - to share responsibility for what happened.
... Nemesis, the Greek goddess of retribution, were older sisters - erynie, demons of revenge. The sight was far from glamorous: creepy crazy old woman, with dangling strands, in which pottered about poisonous snakes. One of them, incidentally, was the name of the Doctor.
Nemesis us not happen by definition. So is it worth to be megarama?..
Author:
Svetlova E.
Source:
Леди@mail.ru
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