Virtually every abandoned woman after 30, and even after 40 or 50 years and even more so, feels doomed. And all because to premature aging and loneliness, it condemns itself to our modern society. Indeed, almost everywhere from magazine covers, TV screens, billboards - looks shamelessly triumphant youth, which likely indicates: know your place, woman! The woman just told that after a certain age, she did not Shine, and she must humbly come to terms with their sad share and not "stick out". Babi age of forty years," the brutal proverb, so the best thing that you can do a lonely middle-aged lady to dress up in something simple a La grandma" and together with the faithful girlfriend to swallow bitter tears, eating their sweet cake. All this activity must be under the motto "we lost our shape, we now it's all the same". Do another script may not be?
After all, the man under 60, no one will call the old man and the little woman for fifty to baptize a woman - easily. Whence came this age discrimination? Because women and health stronger, and live longer than men! But it's not just age. No wonder the man in a divorce is called "free" and "groom", and a woman after divorce - "residency" and "brokenly". So why are those that yesterday was reputed to be the first beauties, recklessly flirted with colleagues and ogle boss, today, after a divorce, faded, suddenly aged and worse since then? Let's try to explore the origins of these metamorphoses.
Whom I now need?
After a divorce, as they say, all jointly acquired property as dearly loved children (dad-they why? ), old apartment (if you're lucky) and a gift for a wedding service, as a rule, remains his wife. Well, the car (my wife and rights) and new apartment (she had never completes! of course, there is the ex-husband. And ex-wife begins to pound in the old walls with it chworowsky kids, trying to keep from them easily breakable wedding gift. What matter is it to think about themselves, about what to wear to look as charming presenter, or whatever the show today to go?
Where do come from this terrible phrase, "to whom I now need"? Yes everyone needs! Children first of all. But not grey tatty mouse, with a quiet rustle of moving around the apartment, and still mommy: cheerful, beautiful, healthy, fashionable, playful, flying - that's what. To their classmates spoke with admiration: "what a mother you - just class! ". And to a young chemistry teacher suspiciously often caused her to school.
Yes and elderly parents need to think. Because his eternally miserable appearance and eyes wet place their daughter literally breaks their hearts. And if old mom and dad will be able to see my daughter smiling and cheerful, it will prolong their years. As friends and colleagues? About them, too, to forget the sin. Because they are so long been dreaming to come back to them their sociable friend-laugh. It is not surprising that they began to call less - well they have no more words of comfort and strength for sympathy either.
Yes, divorce is a painful process. And not the next day Wake up happy and pretend that nothing happened. But where did such a doom? Why woman like a wounded bearer, which is the last effort to cling regimental banner, just frantically grabs the cross itself on himself and set? Because if you don't get out of this quagmire, it can get bogged down. As you know, desperate women who have lost all hope, psychological age ahead biological 15-20 years. And this is no good.
Divorce is not the end of life. According to statistics, one out of six divorced women getting married for the second time. Not too comforting figures? Don't worry, it isn't all the information. Maybe you will calm the fact that out of four divorced men one too soon married again (and, given that the number of divorces in large cities increases, the inflow of potential suitors is quite significant). Are you still skeptical? Stop. Let's think, where are three unmarried brother this happy young? They are also in search of! Is there a reason for optimism? Therefore, we direct the war paint wear fashionable dress and go on the hunt! However, the same statistics warns that a strong half with great caution marries again - afraid to make a mistake again. That means we need to be smarter - such a "beast" with bare hands will not take. But the experience of working for us!
Again married unbearable
Men online marriage a second time to lure hard. They are very cautious. But women are not afraid and ran, as in the pool, as the same with children took! Dear, do you?
Women in General, and even after the divorce, especially, should feel the mistress of the situation. For such a strong, smart and experienced, men have to compete. By the way, let's find out what it is, a divorced woman? No, it's not plain with sparse tail and stretched turtleneck and elegant lady with a mysterious smile and a bit tired eyes which manifest the experience and insight: Oh, how much she knows about you, treacherous men.
And in General: it is time to decide on priorities. Why, in fact, need a husband? For sex, financial security, leisure, driving nails, prestige, or so that it just was? It is important to decide on all this, but the main thing is to find a role.
Let these words fill you on edge, but nevertheless start the morning of the next day in a different way. Looking at myself in the mirror, tell your reflection: life is beautiful, I am beautiful, I have the most wonderful children in the world, and I'm sure will be happy and everything will be Ho-ro-sho. And rest assured: you will meet him, her Prince, though not on a white horse, and the black jeep or even on foot. And let it be not in a tuxedo and wearing jeans, but he is sure to be generous, smart and reliable, because it simply does not have the right to be different because you waited so long.
Seasoned advice
If the first attempt marriage failed, it is necessary to extract maximum lessons not to repeat mistakes. The main thing is not to find a husband, but to build a strong family with him and good relations.
1. Analyze his failed first marriage. Be honest with yourself the question, who is to blame.
2. As reduce the outstanding features of the chosen one, so you do not discover that the generous - this is the usual ILO and comrade-in-arms - just ham, etc.
3. Do not rush things just because you already"...". Think that you just "more". Because in a hurry instead of a harmonious Union, you can get secondary divorce and cardiac injury.
4. Immediately, select the role in the family. Because then that change will be very difficult.
5. Get your illusions. Your house must create it yourself, together, of course, if you have love. The presence of love compensates for virtually any disadvantages to both. Otherwise may not be family.
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