Criticize wisely: how not to offend people

Criticism is a delicate matter, reactions which are difficult to predict. Therefore, it is necessary to know the basic principles of criticism, in order not to offend the person and help him "get better".



Be honest


For starters think about it, you criticize because you really want to help or because of resentment, envy. In other words, what you put into criticism? Most importantly to look objectively at the situation.





And to feel you


Selecting words for critics, be as careful as possible. Put yourself in his place and think, what was the reaction of b is normal and what angered you.





If all you understand?


But before you criticize, try to ask a few leading questions that will help you better understand the situation. It is quite possible that you have misunderstood the essence of the matter and made a hasty conclusions.




Rule framing




To start, how to finish it with praise, so your companion will be much easier to perceive said.




The object of criticism




Criticize the actions of the person and not the person. A gross error is that the critic goes with criticism of human actions on the person: "loafer", "idiot", "stupid", "lazy", and so on, Everyone can agree that he was wrong, especially when all the facts are obvious, but no one will agree with the fact that he is a bad man.




How to finish




And finally, since you criticized person, point him the right way to address this situation, otherwise it may give the impression that you are incompetent in this matter, and thus to criticize, in the account are not eligible.




Remember that your goal is to have the person you are expressing criticism, corrected and realized his mistake. You wonder sometime why people take offense to criticism? But because critical is almost always hits the "I" of another person, offends a sense of significance. Therefore, to properly criticize, helping others, not hurting them.

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