Have you ever noticed that as soon as you need help, it is usually there. And the question is not how to get someone today to wash the dishes or cook dinner, but for whose broad back to hide under the verbal assault. The answer here can only be one - have to rely only on themselves, and then "surrender" stronger sex will not look so offensive.
Of course it is best if a situation when we need to stand up for themselves no one would, but if so the circumstances, then follow the following rules.
Limit your language
The first thing to do is to come and take his body to the hands. Try little shake hands, because your mouth may be closed, but the body is just screaming with anger.
Control and self-control are the main principles of information conflict situations to "no". Just look the enemy in the eye and try to understand every word in order to understand what he wants from you.
Speak from myself
Start your protection structures such as "I disagree", "I think", "I don't...". This will allow you to keep the subject of the dispute, will prevent translation of attacks on other people who are not related to this situation.
And in no cases do not apologize, it can be done later, when "cool".
Intonation
Even such pleasant words like "I love you" you say that man will never want you to communicate more. The tone of voice and intonation are of great importance. The voice must not falter, it should not be hysterical notes, it should not be soft and quiet. It is calm talks about your complete self-control and will bring you to "win".
Bring the situation to its logical conclusion
The last word must be for you that is not so difficult to do, if you follow the three previous rules. But the question should not be closed, it is necessary to put an end, for example, by saying "I will not change my point of view, take it or leave it as it is".
Source:
Women's Magazine
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