She stood and watched silently as he collects suitcases. 20 years of family life in the film spun in my head. "She was beautiful? " - moved his lips wife. "He dispassionately corrected spouse... "The woman, whom her husband had left due to a more youthful and attractive person, there is a consolation to her features hundreds of tips psychologists. But how can you be that her husband left for... other? Many will say that this does not happen. Male homosexuals will never tie the knot for life with a woman. Alas. It happens. And more often than we would like.
Homosexuality is in essence a rejection of innate and not acquired. According to experts, the desire of man to the members of their own sex happens on a subconscious level. Someone addicted to their "tribe" is expressed more, some less, some can control their passions, and some aren't.
In these days of non-traditional sexual orientation is widely promoted. Why not be like everyone else, is a great way to stand out from the crowd. And it's much easier than opening a new star.
In fairness I must say that homosexuals are many truly talented and bright individuals who have proved themselves both in culture and in science. Yes, modern society is more tolerant towards sexual minorities than, say, 20 years ago. Not to mention those times when for such a "propensity" to the person threatened a real life in places not so remote. But still...
Why does he have a family?
In most cases, the answer is simple - it should be so. It "should be", as a rule, imposed by society: if you are a man, you must marry. And on the plan: to build a house, plant a tree and raise a son. Despite the fact that, in General, homosexual couples now take a more tolerant attitude to the "netradicionala" in everyday life remains negative. Add here the pressure from loved ones who usually do not even guess about the true state of things. So we have a man to overstep myself... He, in fact, there is no need in this marriage.
On the other hand, the traditional family is a sort of cover from possible attacks. Even if someone became suspicious, you can always say: we have, say, free marriage, my wife does not see anything wrong in the affair on the side, and even where and with whom - sorry, none of your business.
Sometimes, creating a family, male homosexuals trying to escape from himself. After all, he from birth it is known that such "otherness" is a vicious disease, which need to be ashamed and shunned. So he tries to "cure" himself, believing that having regular sexual relations with a woman will deliver him from the attraction to their own gender.
By the way, in the traditional marriage of those who in gay couples remains in the role of men. He who in such relationships is positioning itself as a woman, never (even for visibility! ) does not create a family.
Why is he leaving?
Such unions or disintegrate in the first years of marriage, or last as the most common. And even quite likely that the couple in the circle of children, relatives and friends will celebrate the silver wedding. But the reasons for departure from the traditional family after many years of marriage to her beloved directly depends on why the man was married with a woman.
The main pretext - the disappearance of the factor that kept him in marriage. This may be the death of loved ones whose opinion was crucial. Or reaching a certain threshold in a career or profession, when business colleagues is only interested in professional quality and potential of the employee and they are willing to close their eyes to his intimate relations.
40-45 years everyone begins to analyze the life and to summarize the results. It may well be that the next partner will seem to man the passion "on-all-remaining-life". And here the question arises: why can't I even now to do what I need? It's coming... the Children are adults, they have their own life. The wife, in General, never really was interested in. There was only the appearance of a more or less prosperous family. Yes and with a "friend" want to be there 24 hours a day, because he understands like no other. In the end, these thoughts quickly lead to the collapse of the family.
Those men who by marriage had tried to get rid of his internal problems, suddenly come to the conclusion that same-sex relationships are much more and more multifaceted. And decide, as they say, not to resist nature. In the result, go to where it's better and don't need the endless struggle with them.
How to get it?
Typically, when you divorce women kick yourself two questions: "why did this happen to me? " and "what to do? ". If a second response psychologists clear - do not make the tragedy, because life goes on, with the first situation is not so simple.
When it turns out that the man she had eaten a bushel of salt teaspoons, used you as a shield, the situation becomes different meaning. Usually the woman is experiencing due to the fact of the divorce, while parting with her husband is gay she thinks, like me has managed to marry such a one as I did not see it before?!
Not worth it to kill myself and blame carelessness. No one could notice the "heterodox" - after all, in everyday life this is the most common men, the same as a "normal" couple of your girlfriends. Unfortunately, there is no take-beacons, which could have alerted. Well, except that regular visits to their sites "blue" theme. Although it is obvious that the man who created the family to cover, in no way will give rise to suspicion, and on the contrary, it will support and strengthen the image of man-naturale. Irregular sexual life can not be a reason for suspicion, after all, for anybody not a secret that nowadays the majority of the representatives of the stronger sex the maximum spread at work, so that in the evenings they often only enough to kiss his wife in the nose and say: "I lov..." and the famous male friendship have not been canceled. It is foolish to suspect the wife, who went to traditional fishing with bosom buddies.
Not harassing themselves in vain, because such families are the exception rather than the rule. How desirable it would be to say right now: "according to statistics, marriages between men-gay men and women are...". But such data is not there. None of those who have fallen into such a situation, does not recognize this, and furthermore will not name the official reason for the divorce, nontraditional orientation wife. The mentality we have another. Culture too. It's there, in the far West, it is fashionable to be his wife Gaia. And we all are so conservative that even trouble no one will share. Have to cope with stress alone.
The magazine "Prevention", March 2008 g
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