Colleagues, we do not choose. So most of the time, whether we like it or not, we have to spend together. In addition to the movement to the "great goal" of the prosperity of the business to us from time to time have to settle conflicts that arise. How to deal with them, so as not to harm themselves or others.The conflict with the boss
In the relationship of the head and an ordinary employee of the inherent conflict, because we are talking about hierarchy and power. One leads, the other is forced to obey. One cares about the interests of the company, other have to think about their own benefit and to do everything so that it is not pressed. And yet both need to find an approach to each other and a common language.
How to train your evil boss: tips.
Many people often imagine the boss in the image of the sort of monster who feeds on the energy of the scandals, like vitamins, and a single day cannot live without showdown with simple workers and reproaches on them. Well, maybe there are, but I can assure you that it is often frightening pictures with people-bosses draws our sick imagination and endless stories about bosses neurotics. In their defense there are a few compelling arguments. First, the boss can afford to be sometimes harsh, because it lies too much responsibility in the management of the company. Secondly, exactly the same as you, he gets a "cap" from senior management. And finally, why have you decided that it just pulls you evil? Be end up with a honest: but can you really did something wrong or the quality of your work leaves much to be desired?
If you called "on the carpet", then tune in to working order, collect thoughts and in no case do not enter the office of the chief, his tail between his legs.
- Listen carefully to criticism. Let the man speak, don't interrupt.
- Respond to questions clearly, not Maglite. You're at work, but because of pursing resentment lip and do not take the posture of a fretful child.
- Understand the claims of the head to you and respond constructively, essentially. If you think the charges to your address undeserved, explain why, and firmly try to defend their interests.
- Do not interfere in the conversation emotions. Crocodile tears and spectacular slamming doors conflict will not solve, but rather make the relationship more strained. Conflict with colleagues
In a dispute born truth, and therefore constructive disagreements with colleagues is very useful. So new ideas and unexpected solutions to problems. The success of the daily work side by side directly affects the result of a common cause. Therefore, the conflict among colleagues in no case should not turn into personal, which is very common among co-workers, because, working every day next to you, they know your pain point and nuances of your work, so if you want to use this fact against you and to strike more painfully.
Criticism from one person you miss a deaf ear to the opinion of another listen and the comments of the third will cause you anger. The same action performed by different people, can cause you to have a different reaction. To stop so badly to be the comment will learn how to present them in the form of facts - some of the bare information that remains regardless of the person saying it. Also, be generous with yourself and your actions. According to psychologists, all incorrect responses and statements to your address must be for you the impetus for self-improvement.
Anger can also cause colleagues or partners who do not cope with their responsibilities in life, tend to think long and slow to make decisions. It is not surprising that any mistake can put you out of yourself. The main advice in this situation: get ready for the next miss from such a person, because you know what he can do. In order not to be angry with him, in advance POSTROUTING - once again recall the meeting, if you know that he was able to forget her, and do not trust him too important assignment.
How to make gossip work for you?
The cause of the irritation, it may become necessary to change their point of view or to abandon their beliefs. For example, in a dispute with a colleague, he was able to convince you, but admit it you want, insisting his or her opinion to the last. To you it was easier to agree with his position, spend a little psychological experiment. Take the thesis, which do you think is undeniable, and try to refute whatever it was. This will teach you how to look at problems from several sides.
Simple ways to control anger
To transmit the negative energy extremely unpleasant. Therefore, in order to learn to control myself, it is important to understand that the immediate difficulty is not the end of the world, and to look at things and problems easier useful to all.
- Delay response. When you feel you are already unable to contain the anger, hold your breath and mentally tell yourself "STOP" or some other word, stop the dispute for 10 seconds - this will help you calm down.
- Catch your breath. An angry man is breathing much more calm. Make a series of deep breaths, which will restore the rhythm of the heart.
- Use humor. One of the most effective techniques is to submit your opponent sitting on the toilet or naked. It will certainly amuse you and will bring a smile that will help you to avoid scandal.
- Put yourself in the place of the offender. Suppose you had the choice in public transport. Think about why people did that? He may have problems in the family or at work, and he did it unconsciously.
- Be polite. Have you ever seen yourself in moments of anger? I assure you that the person becomes so skewed that even look scary. If you feel that you boil and keep the anger does not work, then simply retire to another room for a few minutes.
- Listen to the interlocutor. To come to a decision you can only listened to another and vygovarival themselves. Examine what annoys you and talking about it, without affecting the other, otherwise you will leave the substance of the conversation.
And the most important thing. After the conflict, no matter what the result you came, you have to admit that the situation is over and you need to move on.
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Women's information and entertainment portal WDay.ru
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