It's time to take matters into their own hands! Because:
1. According to statistics, after 2, 5 years civil marriage, formal marriage is NOT registered in 89% of cases.
2. Man, even the most caring and loving, live in a civil marriage in the hope to meet the woman of his dreams.
3. Learn partner before marriage in a domestic relationship is useful. But over time, the loss of sharpness in the relationship. Why get married?
There are many different tips, type: Rich dowry as bait, residence in exchange for a stamp in the passport, wedding presents from rich relatives of the bride. It certainly works in some cases. However, not all brides are rich, and not all want to get husbands Alphonse, who at the first opportunity and will find someone richer (it's you so it will bring up).
Another tip: to marry the beloved, "a bird of passage is also effective, but not very good for family life. Beloved, if you put pressure on him in the open, you can bring up the fact that he will silently hate, and worse yet, subconsciously blame the kid. And it may eventually lead to rupture.
All of the above methods is too open, the pressure and violence of clean water. And the man can't stand it. You have to act so that no one suspected your participation, so the man was sure that it was HIS decision.
So, begin to manipulate the man.
To achieve its goal, as in any other endeavor, requiring mind, we need to understand who is in front of us.
Psycho No. 1. "Sissy".
A first step. To study the mother. To do this accidentally show favorite photo of your family, tell us about each that I would like to extort about HIS mother. This is a psychological trick. "And my mom loves it and so." In response you will hear interesting facts about marocchini biography. Later, write them down, review.
A second step. Meet the parents. There are severe cases, when a little afraid or for some reason does not want to tell you about. Come up with an excuse to come to his home, copy some marocchini habits on the basis of their records. Do not overdo it, let it all looks natural. For example, this may be the way you dress or talk. Not geosites to emulate her gestures, it works. Remember, you're on your way to the cherished goal!
The third step. When talking with my mother, praise (unobtrusive) her son. Say, for example, "he told me that in College you were a beauty Queen" or "divinely prepared". These manipulations mother in the presence of the son will get to the point. Measure the success of your troops in the family of the future spouse will be that the mother will start to tell you about the merits of his child. The main thing here is to assent to, and enhance the positive characteristics of your partner.
The fourth step.
Vividly ask your loved one what he was saying about you mom. Try to get mom's eyes more often, manipulate the image. And wait. If you did everything correctly, the mother will encourage your loved one to marry. You will only have to say "Yes" and prepare for marriage.
Psycho No. 2. "Ambitious".
It is known that careerists are getting married later and for the most part reluctantly. Here we need to get creative. Again analyze your man.
type 2 careerists.
What is it, when it comes to work? The same hard and strong, or Vice versa, crossing the threshold of the apartment, becomes weak, reveals the soul and needs affection.
If the hard and strong, the proposal to marry must come from you.
Moreover, it must be not just a proposal of marriage, and proposal, including a business plan. It should be constructive and clearly thought out. The main thing - that it was voiced your concern about the advancement on the career of your choice. It is important to emphasize that the change of status of the employee will immediately raise him in the eyes of the founders of the company. Supposedly, the ring on the hand is a symbol of what man is a pillar of reliability, and then the promotion can not be avoided.
Create a verbal model of the business plan your painting: we will stipulate that all can be carried out without additional spending on limousines, Banquet and ball gown (because for you the important end goal, not the wedding itself).
In the case of a partner's consent, you should know the answer to the question, when, where and how much to apply, and what it will take to standing in queues.
If your ambitious house not the one in the office, it often says that he trusts you, and that's a good sign. This also means that home with you him warmly, he wants to relax. Then no business plans, as in the first case. Turn into soft kitty, surround heat, cook homemade meals. Kiss often and hug, listen to his complaints, discipline yourself. The main thing is not to hurry up. Give him time strongly attached to you. Check the degree of attachment as follows: will be late for work without explanation. Calling half an hour after your late home. Well, it means that, without you, he already feels discomfort. If within 3 months of the suggestions from him will not be, apply decisive blow. Urgently go to the mother (friend, sister) under the pretense of helping her do anything. Promise to come back in 3 days. If during your absence he calls you at least 2 times a day, great! You are on the right path. He lonely without you (no one will cook coffee, will not listen to a story about the hardships of working in the office). Linger for a few days. If you just calculate the time, the proposal must be received on the day of your arrival.
Psycho No. 3. "Child".
He still doesn't feel able to bear the whole burden of responsibility that he feels will fall on him at the time of marriage. If he really loves you, you might be afraid that you will be disappointed in him if he will not do it. Although all this he can cleverly hide, and even pose as a "real man". Your not an easy task to recognize his fears, what he fears. Only by understanding the cause, you can gradually introduce him to the Registrar. If still the case in fear of responsibility, carefully and gently start to give him a small Commission on agriculture (to pay the bills, take out the trash), gradually download his works. For these cases it is necessary to praise, Pat on the back, and most importantly, to say "you're the best" or "Hey, maybe I wouldn't get to do so." Confidence in yourself and your own abilities, you planted in his soul, through the time (don't rush it) will germinate. Then you will need only to hint, and he will make you an offer.
Psycho No. 4. "Uncertain".
Behind the bravado often hides a man unsure of himself. Again, the fears of "what say friends? ""how will parents react? ", "the horror, I would have married, but I'm afraid the wedding".
A first step. To recognize the fears and insecurities. Afraid of the opinions of friends, parents or the wedding itself?
A second step. It is difficult always to manipulate alone. Use his friends, after all, have to manipulate that. First of all, they. Find married friends, join with them in friendship. And the best tour or try to find to visit a family friend with your loved ones and there swargate with his wife super dish that would like first of all to the other. Hold appropriate jokes that will appeal it to a friend. Be sure if you will like him, he is sure to mention in conversation with your partner.
The third step.
You can (you should feel whether you actually), to talk with his friend from the heart. To say what a great guy your favorite, and how wonderful it would be to be friends with families. Perhaps even openly asked to put in a good word for you a word in favor of marriage.
If you suddenly find that your man is scared to death of a white dress, a bunch of relatives and creepy toast with cries bitterly, and do not marry only therefore, strongly suggest to him that you really can't stand spree and waste of money, and that when you are married, would prefer a trip to Bali collective Bender. He will see you through the eyes of others, will feel a kindred spirit. Perhaps after a little talk and all will be solved in the same evening.
If your "insecure" not sure that you are THE SAME, this is a difficult case, but fixable, and we need to act tough. Suddenly out of nowhere should see an old friend. He really need your advice (he broke up with a girl, and wants her to return). It seems to be jealous of something for nothing, sit with him in a cafe, then again. In the evening, at dinner, tell your loved how you empathize with the other. May not show, but inside rage is scary. He is tired, and one day he will forbid you to meet. Listen to it carefully, tell me what the reason for jealousy THERE, but in the end quietly add that you are free, yet the girl. One reaction is the decision to marry you. Of course, the probability is not 100%, but the idea that you may not be the same, will disappear.
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