4 justify treason

Betrayal inevitably entails problems. Before or after the fact. The reason is the feeling of guilt before the "wronged" party. And we start coming up with excuses. And sometimes we get in a situation when coming up with excuses to the one who had changed. The most interesting - in both cases the text is approximately the same.



Biological justification


Comparison with the world of animals is a universal justification of male adultery. Any male simply performs the task set before him Paul nature. If female conservative, and its task is to preserve the best characteristics of the species, the male is aimed at finding new, more successful evolutionary directions. And to do it only one way - by passing on their genes to the maximum number of females. So a male infidelity and female constancy instilled in us by nature. If this explanation sickens you, then you have at least one solution is to declare that the evolutionary theory is obsolete.





Excuse the incompleteness


Rarely talk about treason without searching for its definition: "the Fact that I was in love with him 122 days is considered to be adultery? " or "but who cares, I dragged her to peregovory, but I love something I love! ". What is considered a betrayal - a private matter.




But the fact that both sexes under the treason understand different things, to adopt a must.




For illustration - a simple experiment conducted by David bass at the University of Michigan. He set on the body of the tested sensors and began to ask men and women who are married, to present the colors at first, your partner in love with someone else, and then - partner in bed with someone else.




In the end, the men had become very nervous, sweat and grimace when he presented bed scene involving his wife. And women - on the contrary, began to react exactly on the hypothetical love her husband.




From the point of view of nature's plan it is simple: love is largely serve the purpose of man and woman stay together while raising offspring. So love men are much more dangerous for couples than a fleeting sex on the side. But women's physical betrayal threatens the fact that a man can raise someone else's child.




Psychological justification




To a more or less regular walking left inclined people, insecure and its significance to others. They can explain their own adventures on the side of desire diversity, the oversaturation of family life or the desire for new. But a little deeper hidden thought: "Surely life will be held, and in addition to this thawalama wife (this stupid husband) I have no will? " But somehow, as in all serious, such spouses do not think that they can lose even this foolish wives (good-for-nothing husband) and not acquiring anything in return.





Paradoxical justification


Fans of paradoxes argue that "good leftist strengthens marriage." And even provide evidence of this: they say, changed the partner under the influence of guilt is attentive, caring and affectionate with unhappy husband (or wife). As the aggrieved party, especially if she understands about the adventures, subconsciously strive to clean the feathers, to freshen up and find its attractiveness.




Actually, starting to change, it is foolish to expect that the second half now immediately pohorosheet, the house will be cleaner, and the soup will be thick. The inclination to self-improvement will Wake up only 12 to 13 percent of the cheated spouse. In other cases, you may get a terrible offense, family scandal, for divorce, or simply face. And sometimes all at once.

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