Shyness - how to deal with it?

Very often among moms, you can hear the enthusiastic cheers of the type "Your boy's so quiet and peaceful! " or "He's so shy - you are lucky! ". Just as some children are born too active, and others are born shy. Such restraint in behavior is explained by the peculiarities of temperament, which is inherited, so to deal with it is almost useless - it is easier to accept and try to extract the maximum benefit. But only if the shyness and timidity does not interfere with your child. Sometimes they become a real problem, and the child is experiencing learning difficulties, communication with peers, and in more Mature age advances given him a hard price. So the psychologists come to a common conclusion that to overcome this problem we need to start as early as possible.


Shyness in children is a desire to hide from prying eyes, but not to isolate, and to develop strategies with a stranger. If your baby appears new person, it takes a while to understand how to communicate with him, what can and what cannot. For some children this process occurs within a few minutes, and particularly timid takes more than one day to finally be open to the stranger. If you notice that your shyness of the child leads to the fact that he behaves too shy with other people, and also avoids contact with them, you should pay close attention.




First you need to show your child that you respect his feelings and desires. There is no need to remind him about shyness - this can only further exacerbate the situation, and therefore the kid will complete in itself. We need to show that he is an independent person, and his judgment. If he feels it from loved ones, to make contact with strangers it will be much easier.




Not often forget to praise your child and point out its strengths, to him the more I wanted to open up and show their true colors. In the process praise not want to dilute their presence careful hints at his shyness, but it should be done very carefully and especially not to talk about it in plain text. If you want to point to his indecision, make it descriptive, for example, saying "You're too careful - try to do a little differently." Definitely watch the reaction of the kid - if he took criticism is fine, you can continue to make small steps towards greater self-reliance.




Try to arrange the environment is favorable for communication of the child with other people. For example, often invite guests to attend various cultural events - in short, push the child to communicate. Getting joy from him, the kid won't be so hard to avoid contact with other people. Do not demand perfection from him - you want a perfect child? Of course, every parent dreams that his son had not one disadvantage, however, think about what kind of future awaits this child? Very few people able to be in the company of a man without flaws, because your own too evident. So you condemn your child to a life of loneliness. Therefore, the requirements should be, above all, reasonable aimed at a minor adjustment to shyness, but not its full destruction. It also has the charm, isn't it?

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