When a loved one gets too close, understandable and predictable, he loses his sex appeal in our eyes. And what if you look at it in a new way? To be free from prejudices and to revise his ideas about him and about myself.
How many pairs for hormonal explosion of passion followed by a period of estrangement and conflict, so when the temptation to give up on the relationship at hand. For those who have passed this test, begins a new stage: the partners have to keep the love and loyalty and not to give intimacy, trust, unconditional acceptance of each other to suppress sexual desire. It is hard - especially because our desire is inherently contradictory. When a partner gets too close, too predictable, his erotic aura dissipates and the relationship of lovers turn into a fraternal or parent.
Associates and accomplices
Does this mean that to save the relationship will have to accept the inevitable and accept as fact the extinction of the fire of our desire? No, there is, for example, a few clear rules that help to save it. Not to get closer excessively, to maintain personal space, but not require a partner, and absolute openness. No sex meet all their fantasies - excessive expectations reduce libido.
If the family has children, spouses should try once a week to leave for the day out of the house together, so as not to fall in child-centrism. Another important point: in the modern marriage partners fulfill many roles. Everyone is trying to be another relative, friend, father or mother, lover. The attraction is difficult to survive in such conditions. One way to return the desire - not at the time from other roles, to remain only lover.
The power of touch
Taoists believe that to achieve sexual harmony, you can use touch: it's not just the physical contact and the exchange of energy that awakens in the partner desire.
Energy and sensual touch must be light as a feather and slide on the surface of a partner's body, stimulating the nerve endings and attracting energy - teaches the ancient Taoist tradition. In order to "Wake up" a woman to touch a man must remember that in the female body, sexual energy moves to the sexual organs of the extremities, head and heart. So he should start with the hands and feet and slowly move his hands and legs to the torso. Then go to the woman's head and torso down to the sexual organs.
According to Taoist metaphor, the Yin energy is like water: it descends through the hills and valleys of the female body in the lower end of the vagina. To arouse sexual desire men, we must remember that he has a sexual energy that is born in the penis and spreads throughout the body. Therefore, the woman should start with a penis, but only with a light touch, and not with the intense stimulation. Then it may direct the sexual energy of men from his genital organs to the extremities, and then through the torso to the head. The outflow of energy from the penis will give him the opportunity to better manage your arousal and orgasm the entire body. When sexual energy is distributed throughout the body and reaches the heart, then he begins to perceive the love of a woman.
To share emotions
We should not hope that the desire will come back if we are not ready to talk with your partner about your feelings, to share emotions and experiences - intellectual, aesthetic or sensual. To discuss, to argue, or simply looked at one another knowingly... The couple must be living together in different circumstances and situations. They should talk about yourself, not allowing, however, full nudity. And of course, the couple should be the overall picture is a positive future - the nearest and distant.
Far and close
To update the desire not to give it to fade helps clear idea of what we give to the partner (attention, respect, sexual interest) and that would get in response. Indeed, the purpose is not to bring back old love, but to a new way of falling in love with a man with whom we do not first year living together. Routine no power over us until we look at life as a journey. Morning everyone leaves the house in a new day, as the sailor goes to sea and return in the evening to catch home. If we understand how important it is (and should be) the distance that divides us, we will better be able to appreciate the beautiful moments of intimacy. Without intimacy there is no tenderness, and no distance there is no novelty.
When our view of the close person changes in relationships begins a new stage. Sometimes forces us to Wake up someone else's interested look on your partner, and sometimes we do it by an effort of will. "It can be solved by changing roles, format or design of communication, and it is not necessary to economize time and effort," added Anna Varga. Once we begin to be interested in a partner, ask him questions about his tastes, plans and desires, and in return share their intimate, we bring into a relationship is something new. Thus, the 43-year-old Nina for a joke turned to her husband, 45-year-old Dmitry, "you", as when we first met. And in their relationship came something exciting, new game. Sometimes you need so little to surprise each other.
Save desire: five priorities
Good to know yourself and your partner, to share emotions, ideas and fantasies, to respect the differences of two - all this will help to awaken desire.
Consider a couple living creature
No matter how many years we lived together, the partner does not become our immutable domain and relations do not remain unchanged. When we cease to revise their opinions and views, when habits take us over, in the relationship settles boredom, and the desire to fall asleep. Moving forward is always UPS and downs, and sometimes crises. But still paired, as in the Universe, the movement is synonymous with development and life itself.
To recognize differences
"I am not he (not she)". "I have another story, another life experience"... If we will regularly remind yourself of these simple truths, they will save us from toxic projections and charges and in addition will keep the desire. Because a loved one we are most attracted to what is missing for us.
Communicate sincerely
Don't be afraid to talk about themselves - to Express in an open conversation about their expectations, difficulties, doubts... easy communication not only brings, but also dispels misunderstandings, grievances and reasons for conflict.
To build collaborative plans
The scale can be any. The main thing is that everyone felt when they perform their importance and independence.
To establish contact
Bodily intimacy in all its various guises - tenderness, sensuality, sex is the basis for intimacy in relationships. It has its own ebb and flow, we are moving away from each other, then close again. And always physical contact helps to maintain a close and trusting relationship, which extinguishes the fire of desire.
Author:
E. Shevchenko
Source:
PSYCHOLOGIES
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