Guide for abandoned

So you have broken up. The period of tears and bezuteshnoi behind us, but still there are things that make you shudder, and for no apparent reason again to plunge into the abyss of despair. Let's look at why this happens and how to overcome this period.


Almost all women who have gone through separation or divorce, are at heart the Treasury of the so-called anchors, which are divided into two types.




The anchors of the first type include any details of a past life: where were together, his favorite movies, your music. What before your heart gently trembled, now only causes pain and, seemingly bygone hysteria.



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If you found several of these anchors, then try to get rid of them. Heard on the radio a song that you made love? Immediately turn off the radio. Not peresmatrivat your pictures, don't look romantic films, which previously reminded you of your own love story. Generally try to hide away all that you can to remind the former favorite. It will take some time (months, maybe a year), and you'll be able to walk to the restaurants, where you had dinner together and even see photos of a joint vacation. Until then, give yourself time to calm down.




The anchors of the second type are those things that are relevant to that painful gap that you had to endure. For example, did you know that your husband left you for a woman who works as a news announcer. There would be nothing surprising in the fact that for a long time you will be nervous any news programs, you may not be able to watch the channel that runs the razluchnitsa.




In short, we are talking about those anchors who constantly remind you of the gap and its own insolvency. Be prepared for the fact that if your man chose you a resident of London, the name of this city will meet you annoyingly often. You will catch this name in any reports, weather forecasts and even dialogues bystanders. You will feel that everything conspired every hour to remind you that you threw the man.




To deal with such anchors is difficult, but possible. The secret is that they just need to be set. For example, in the case of razluchnitsa from London, you'd save some money and made herself go in this city. No, not to pull her hair, and to gain positive experiences and to associate London with something pleasant. Your husband went to a girl named Irene, and now you flinch whenever I hear this name? Get yourself a girlfriend Irina, and over time this combination of sounds will cease to upset you. In short, try to change the emotional vector and transform what gives you pain, something joyful and pleasant.

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Ivona

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