High or low, rich or poor, young or not - he is again alone. His previous marriage was unsuccessful. But maybe you are lucky he will smile? The realities of modern life are such that almost every third marriage, alas, ends in divorce, for us, this has its advantages because a divorced man again groom. What he is, what he wants, how to behave with him and hope?
Why he was left alone?
Reasons because of which broke his previous marriage, a huge amount. We do not knowingly let us now consider the cases when a man left a woman for the sake of another. Our conversation about who was thrown out of the divorce, so to speak, in a single voyage. It would be wise not to try in the first days of Dating to make the man a questioning. There is a good chance to get a false answer or be rejected for molestation. But do not fear that beside you inveterate swindler or a loser. His divorce could be due to a rather prosaic circumstances.
Modern families are falling apart, not only because the man is "bad". There are many so-called self-sufficient women who at some point understand that we don't need no man, neither bad nor good. In addition, psychologists have noted low women's adaptation to the partner, bad understanding, unwillingness to endure the difficulties of life together. There is also the problem of sexual incompatibility between the spouses. It may happen that you find yourself from the "breed" of other women. His faults you will not choke, and advantages will seem very remarkable. And you want to create with him what he could not with another woman.
Let's dispense with pity
In any case, divorce is the strongest emotional and mental shock, which does not go unnoticed. In some respects, divorce for men even more painful than for women. At first divorced man wants only one thing: someone to him comforted and said: "Calm down, things will be okay". Of course, it should be pitied. But not you! After all, one of sympathy he still will not be enough, and soon he will meet with anyone, if only not to return to an empty apartment and once more to make sure that women still find him attractive.
In female society, he necessarily a lot and with all the impressive details will talk about his ex-wife. You will be involved in these gossip with "ahs" and "can't be! " need not, because all these revelations be able to destroy the newly established relationship, unfortunately, we often hear how the lady divorced men "secret" tells his friends that "the former he has this bitch was... ". To imitate such a talkative person is not worth it. It will only drop you in the eyes of the elect.
Solely his problem
Perhaps he has nowhere to live, he has financial difficulties, problems at work... don't hurry to consider them as your General, do not take them on their fragile shoulders. In fact, you need it for a very different position. Another unpleasant fact of life divorced. Probably, he is spoiled and health. According to statistics, heart disease is common in divorced twice, and cirrhosis of the liver - seven times more likely than married men. And now psychologists say that in a marriage with a divorced man wise to join two years after his divorce. Let's hope that this time he will improve both mental and physical health. And then divorced in the past and newly married to this man will try to do everything to his second marriage was more successful than the first.
Dangerous types among divorced men
Stuck in childhood
To "chronic" divorce prone man, for some reason delayed emotional development. He for a long time, sometimes forever remain infantile and dependent in relationships with women. A woman is attracted only to the extent that still cares about him and protects him from the hardships and dangers of adult life. Is this care and protection to decrease, for example in connection with the birth of a child, such as the man starts hostile to his wife and eventually provokes her for divorce.
Fatal man
A similar pattern is observed when powerful man looking for a wife. He chooses, and not for the first time, a woman who looks gentle, kind. But it's worth it to take a bit of your will, such as the man begins to feel that she seeks his authority. As such he will not tolerate. It begins to speak not prudence wise unfortunate experience of previous marriages of a man and stubbornness and totalbet. He decides to part with this woman. So, again, divorce and seeking submissive.
Source:
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