However, to rely on a sharp turn of fate, alas, is often a waste of time. Therefore, in order to reinforce their faith in a new love, you should look for sudden changes in views on life and the men in your life.
To search or not to search?
My old friend - confident woman never fails to call the man first, even if see on phone 10 missed calls from him. Why? Because of such, in my opinion, unreasonable and several child stubborn you can add and install that haunts her throughout life: "to Call a man is beneath my dignity. This was said to my grandmother, mother, aunt and many women.
Question: surely every man that will see a missed call from her on his phone will come to the conclusion that for him upadult? And why he, a man must continue to care for the woman who does not even deign to call back, explaining your phone "ignore"?
Answer: a man should not possess the gift of clairvoyance in dealing with woman. He can't feel every string of her delicate soul and always the first to give or offer a compromise. Yes, he heard a lot of stories about female logic, but, nevertheless, he will never be able to fully understand a woman - her desires, behaviors, and hints.
Conclusion: most women, even with the most that neither is a modern Outlook on life usually are not looking for men. Why? First, due to inflated self-assessments. These ladies believe that efforts in search of the men below their dignity. Secondly, because of too low self-esteem. This category of women is confident that unlovable and hardly any man can it, "unworthy", to fall in love.
Alas, as arrogant and insecure ladies are very mistaken. Because such "grandma" reasoning is just the stereotypes that need as soon as possible to destroy. It is much easier to get rid of the imposed stereotypes and attitudes, than a long time alone to spend the evening, leading internal monologue and listening to the advice of its "medieval" pride.
To choose or not to choose?
Now, settled down passive waiting for the Prince on a white horse. We will use the method if not active, moderate search of the second half.
Question: what are the criteria to choose a man to understand that it is my happiness finally found?
Answer: first, we must not man-hero of the women's novel, guided by the principle of attraction of opposites. After all, in the life of the happy endings in relations between the two radically different people, alas, are rare. You are a neat - he's a slut, you love to have fun - he loves to lie in front of the TV you love champagne - he drinks mineral water without gas, you frequently update your wardrobe - it saves for every little thing, you are doing career - he lives today. This antagonistic list goes on and on, but I think the conclusion for itself.
Conclusion: looking for a man with whom you have much in common - in character, behavior, attitudes, and similar lifestyle. Not cherish false hopes about what, for example, a man-slut to become meticulous. Such transformations are only in books or in Hollywood melodramas.
To give or not to give?
Who among us does not dream about a beautiful love-story where a woman would worship until the end of life? Moreover, in this story of love a man should give all their feelings, asking in return only a tender glance and approval of their incredibly romantic actions. But such stories are often found in fictional scenarios and books.
Question: why a fictional tale of Sleeping Beauty cannot become a reality?
Answer: because many of us are actually not Sleeping Beauties, who are required only to Wake up from a gentle kiss. Modern princes want at least to get the return for the magical "kiss" and be rewarded for their love.
Conclusion: if you want to be truly loved - learn how to pay for the feelings of men in the same manner: do not skimp on tender words, care, attention, affection, and, oddly enough, deeds. And it is not necessary to present the man as a gift a bouquet of flowers, and, for example, a romantic dinner, cooked his own hands and... sex on their own initiative, but (! ) in his script.
And let all surprised your internal changes, new Outlook on life and men in particular. Let friends do not share your point of view in the Affairs of the heart. The main thing that you have let go of all the imposed stereotypes, have identified a potential choice and realized that we are willing to give in return all the things that we were not able myself as a confident, feminine and open to new love. Good luck!
Author: Natalia Borisevich, psychologist
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