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Should the man pay for the lady? If Yes, in what cases?



Who will pay?



A rule of etiquette: The restaurant bill is paid by the initiator of the meeting.


Actually:

This rule is quite hard and only applies to work or colorback relations. If we are talking about a date, it is preferable to allow a man to pay the bill. Even if you are better off than your companion. Now you're just a man and a woman. Let him be a gentleman.



Comment psychologist: Pay attention to how your partner behaves paying account. Most likely, it retains a similar manner in all areas of life (even intimate). But don't jump to conclusions, if the gentleman noticeably worried, getting a credit card. Or - God forbid! - defiantly counts banknotes, as if to imply that the bill was rather big. Do not criticize him. Just a note to myself, loved his demeanor or not. In the end, to be or not to be a second date - you decide.



How much?



A rule of etiquette: A gift worth more than 800 - 1000 UAH requires a response or gifts. Otherwise, take it.



Actually: Actually, this rule of etiquette comes to business. In personal relationships, every woman (and man, by the way) determines the size of the "binding" amount individually. Think of how much you are willing to spend at the man, not waiting for the return of "courtesies". This amount is your barrier "obligations".



Comment psychologist: Before you accept from cavalier expensive a gift for you, decide for yourself: what will be the consequences and whether they are in your plans. If you are not sure, nothing prevents tactfully or humor to ask the donor motives of this "act of unprecedented generosity. If the goals of men coincide with yours, take the gift with a clear conscience. Otherwise, politely but firmly explain why you cannot accept the gift. But the phrase, so common in business circles: "It's too expensive for me", in the context of personal relationships is better not to say. Oddly enough, these words have the opposite effect, and man for himself understands that "buy you" can. It's just a matter of price.



Talk about this?



A rule of etiquette: After payment or awarding of the present discussion on the topic of compensation is invalid.



Actually: It is not so. There is something to talk about, but not in the restaurant or shop in order not to attract the attention of others. Should I try to compensate "damage" immediately after you have left public place? Only if you intend to hurt the pride of man, to hurt him, or you're a rare boring. Otherwise, just let them know that the topic is not closed.



Comment psychologist: To return to this issue in different ways. Next time invite the gentleman in the restaurant at your own expense or send him a card along with the invested amount of money he spent on you. Either deliver a return gift. Explain that your gift is not that other, as compensation expenses men. Or he can accept your gift as a return token. But if you were sure you would, then that's another story...

Source:

Women's information and entertainment portal WDay.ru

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