Purpose and means
There is such a joke. Mother says adult daughter: "when you marry, you will understand what happiness is". "Yes? "Yes, I understand, but it will be too late".
How would a man care, no matter how hard to make life favorite interesting and enjoyable, there are ladies who are always dissatisfied with what should we be happy? Now make an offer, then that will be fine". And to suffer it starts in just a week or two after they met. One of my friends is already on the first date asked the young man: "are you going to marry? " It is easy to imagine the reaction of this man...
The stronger sex is not only afraid of printing in the passport, many of its representatives still secretly believe that a woman has a certain mystical properties: ocratic, drowned in empty talk, you know, as already ringed. So, barely feeling the boost in the direction of the Registrar, the man quickly disappears.
What to do? To relate to the novel not as a "last chance", but as easy adventure. Be happy today, not then, when you hear the March of Mendelssohn. Let events develop in a natural way, go with the flow - rather, it will lead you to his goal than desperate floundering.
"You are my drug! "
Love is such a strong feeling that, compared with him, everything seems bland and uninteresting. And some women hang out in this condition for a long time: at work counted the minutes until the end of the day, throw Hobbies, cease to meet up with friends. HE becomes the only source of emotions - both positive and negative. Not calling panic; rang - a furious joy; not able to meet - tears in the pillow all night; appointed rendezvous - happiness until he lost consciousness. The woman sits down on these bursts of adrenaline that starts to artificially create the problem: come up with rivals, look for signs of a cooling of relations, to imagine the inevitable end of a love affair. And all this only to have received the rebuttal, again rejoice. But it not only destroys the nervous system, but really brings the separation. Not every man will like these "swings".
What to do? Not to dwell on love. Continue to get pleasure from that part of life that is not associated with the beloved. And if you are not very well know how to enjoy every day, then now is the time to learn it. Under "anesthesia" love to do it much easier. To cope with addiction of a loved one, need to work with your fear of losing him and learn to trust life.
"Get this... "
You know what should be your favorite. And for the first time the person with whom you meet will perfectly match your expectations. But once scratched some detail in his behavior, clothing: not rushed to open the door when you were going to get out of his car; put the wrong tie...
Further - more, you notice all the new disadvantages. The response depends on your activity: either you continue to collect dirt on a loved one, each time making sure that this person is not the person you want, or start these deficiencies be corrected. The other path leads to a bad mood, and then to the loss of a loved one.
What to do?
To admit that there is no ideal. With these and other drawbacks you will still need to be considered. The only question is, is it acceptable for you these negative traits of your loved one? Some women, for example, in no way tolerate male niggardliness. While others look at it graciously. Maybe for family life and good, if the husband in every situation to choose the "cheap and cheerful"?
In order not to poison yourself dealing with a loved one, instead of the shortcomings mark of his dignity.
And aerobatics is to learn to admire the fact that at first might seem negative traits. One lady, for example, said: "I am delighted with how bald my friend glitters in the sun! "
Jealousy is not a sin?
Jealousy seems to be a deep, lofty, very dramatic feeling. Some even consider it a measure of love. Actually jealousy consists of these negative components, as resentment, envy, fear. What kind of joy from love if you tear up such a heavy feeling! Also, jealousy can be "hooked" as well as on love, swinging between despair: "he has another" and joy: "I think this time I made a mistake".
What to do? If the behavior of your friend hurts you, talk openly with him about it. If your jealousy has no factual basis, then maybe it's your problem. In this case, when the wave of doubt will be rolled forward at you, repeat to yourself the affirmation: "I trust in life and the man she loved. I give him full freedom, I know, if he chose me, then I'm for it - best".
Under the oppression of the past
When you finally meet a loved one, I want to tell him all about herself. How deceived "former" how hard it is to live one, what you have fragile health. But instead of sympathy you see how he hides his eyes and desperately looking for an opportunity to change the subject. Men do not understand that it is important for us to speak out, to feel that share our feelings. Listening to the confession of a woman with a difficult fate, he thinks: "What she expects from me? What can I do to help her? " And since nothing can be done about it, he feels a sense of awkwardness. And the first date becomes the last.
What to do?
Relax and have fun. Be gentle, calm, positive and easy. Bad memories can only spoil the mood, to poison the impression of love relationships. Then if you can, and tell your loved one how you was bad without it. Until then, just be glad that he is there!
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