In everyday troubles and worries we rarely think about its security. Typically, we begin to be "baptized" and "provide a cushion when the thunder had already burst, when to retreat is not in a prepared position, and into the unknown, into nowhere.
Often it begins to seem that into the abyss. In the famous song has the words "...love comes suddenly, and every evening will immediately become surprisingly good". And if trouble comes suddenly? The sun fades, the land falls away from under his feet, and it seems that nobody and nothing will save, will not help, will not come to help.
In his unhappiness, the person becomes vulnerable, and troubles begin to literally "stick" to it. "Trouble never comes alone", they say in such cases. Two native Russian question facing confused person and begin to lament: "What to do? " and "Who is to blame? ". Rather, on the contrary: "Who is to blame? " And then - "What to do? ". Most of us still starts the analysis of the search for the culprit in her misfortune, and not with any constructive thoughts and steps.
Now, the first rule, which taught me life, don't look for blame, forgive all who want to blame, and yourself first. Forces will need to search for, to fight, to exit, to restore.
Of course, you can blame the whole white light, to hide in a corner and wait for the situation to resolve itself. Do all children. They never try to solve it confronted the problem, and try to "forget" them, to put their minds at the backyard in anticipation of a successful outcome, the wizard in the blue helicopter or miracle. Anything good from such a position does not. That's why parents need to form trusting relationships with children, to always be aware of their problems and come in time to help, by showing a way out of difficult situations. And not to take action in the form of penalties and other sanctions.
So, get yourself together. Gather your. Analyze the situation. Call for help anyone who could. And don't think that your problems are indifferent to people close to you. They love you and will help and advice and specific actions. It is very important that a number of people on whom you can rely. But it happens not always.
"Ask, and it shall be given you" - remember? Ask not only family, friends, and acquaintances. First of all, ask and pray about the Lord and his highest patrons. Find your temple, if you don't have one. Bypass if possible, all that is nearby and somewhere you will want to stay.
And maybe, just find the place about the closest your soul icons in a single about your home Church. It is definitely a place there, and the soul will tell, will speak to him. The main thing - go and ask. Ask for forgiveness, help, protection, protection. Read prayers or affirmations, if you are an atheist) instead to delve into the sad Duma or to be discouraged. In other words, control your thoughts. Can't think of something productive - I read prayers, and gradually the mind will become clear and will come to mind right decisions, ideas, assumptions, hopes.
Learn to relax emotionally and physically. Do some meditation. To achieve relaxation in different ways. You can concentrate
- firstly, on your breathing;
- secondly, on the relaxation of his body (the First is the tension of all muscles, and then relax. This is done gradually, starting with the feet and ending with the muscles of the neck and face.);
- thirdly, any sight or sound (This may be the way of the sea waves lapping on the beach or singing some sound "OOM", "AAA". In the book Robin Sharma the Monk who sold his Ferrari" is a description of the equipment "admiring the rose").
If desired, and the current capabilities of the Internet such techniques, you can find some - what like more than others, and on the stop. Yoga is a very good help, regardless of whether you are doing at home or in a special club. Pick a few exercises and perform them under the pleasant music, and there are entries for relaxation with sounds of nature: forest, sea.
And still water. Ordinary water. Rather, water treatment. Various bath - relaxing, soothing, sea, pine, aromatic oils, and so on, Sauna or steam room. A feast for the body will bring relief and your soul. Pool. Swim yourself, like a fish, and after a muscle strain nerves and thoughts come up. Perfusion. Shower.
The walks. If there is a companion, the companion is good. If this will not be a - okay, go for a walk alone. Only desirable rate of movement to choose medium or fast, depending on your fitness, and to return with a small physical fatigue. Great if your route will be held on the banks of the river, the Park, quiet quiet streets.
Very good effect on our mental state care garden plants: planting, transplanting, weeding and all sorts of other trouble. Open their books-catalogues and atlases on gardening, look through them and see the beauty of nature.
Another method to distract your thoughts from a difficult and unpleasant situation is viewing movies, reading books, which has been a great pleasure.
If you have been accumulated health problems, and to deal with them was not possible - now is the time. Start prophylactic treatment of his degenerative disc disease, gastritis, migraine. Even if there is no exacerbation. As it often happens in stressful situations in the presence of chronic diseases, and then the treatment should not be postponed.
There is another good way of dealing with stress, which is accompanied by difficult life circumstances, he has proven himself, especially among women, but men should help: shopping. In other words - shop till you drop, find, have long dreamed of (unique crochet hook or fishing), or buy yourself a gift spontaneously.
Here liked something right now - buy it and enjoy. Diamond earrings, silver ring, beautiful dress, tie, machine or... toy. Pamper yourself. And if absolutely no desire does not arise - that of a loved one, child, any person.
Fulfill the dream of intangible plan. For a long time dreamed to jump with a parachute, take a ride on the water bus, walk on water, to say the neighbor a kind word, to plant a tree, throw a boring service, to stand on your head, learn the melody for piano and orchestra, kitten or puppy, visit Paris or in the village? Proceed.
The main thing - do not get stuck on the problem, not to go into it with your head, and realize the opportunity to get my thoughts and feelings and to begin to analyze and to take reasonable steps to resolve the situation or to realize the necessity of existence in the new circumstances.
And during prayer, meditation, walking, swimming, garden, during, watching movies your consciousness gradually bring you to the right path. Earlier adverse circumstances will turn the other party will be joyful and necessary event for you. In your life will begin to change for the better, there will be new opportunities and chances for success.
With God's help, with the participation of loved ones and their own calm and positive attitude you will open the Door, which some time ago you had no idea.
And will this Door not only Exit from a difficult situation, but the Entrance into a new, beautiful, huge and happy Life.
Source:
School of life
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