Pedantic British invented "the rule of three meetings, following which supposedly you can save the respect and interest of men and at the same time effectively to entice him. Is this true?
In the first and second fascitis!
"The rule of three visits" is elementary. Do not go to bed with a man before a third meeting with him. No matter where you met, how you spend your time and how much you are for each other pulls. Let him feel like a predator chasing prey, romantic seducer and heartthrob, let trembles and loses mind from passions, and there, staring, and love happens. Yes and you will have the opportunity to Express themselves in the best light, and at the same time and same do you need this man, or better escape before it's too late.
First date is the actual acquaintance. He sat down beside you on the beach or walked in the supermarket, you have been asked to raise the ladder heavy suitcase, you brought a friend, you were in correspondence online and finally decided to meet.
You ask questions, look, listen, shyly trying to flirt or frankly to seduce each other. First date is a test of interest, a mutual attraction and sexual attraction.
Carefully watch his eyes - perhaps having made the decision to tempt you to act, to the second date he will turn into a chaste gentleman, but if you wanted, greedy gaze of his will. But do not get carried away on the first date permitted only seductive teasing.
To touch the shoulder, away from the jacket non-existent fluff. Goodbye you can afford one kiss on the cheek. No more.
While there is no certainty that you will meet, it is better to pay for themselves, or at least offer it. If after a date he does not call or write, you can once get in touch to make sure that he is alive, healthy and have not lost your coordinates.
Second date
- the first romantic for you. You can go to the restaurant, theatre, cinema, Museum, dance or just walk around the city. And he, and you have a chance to correct the first impression, if the last meeting was spoiled by force majeure.
Last time you understood, would in principle to meet with this man, now you both pass the test for mutual compatibility. Do you have any topics of conversation that there are no repulsive habits or global differences in views on life. Nice if you smell your buddy, the timbre of his voice, the pace of the steps, the technique of kissing... yeah, on second date kiss is already possible. How else will you understand, I want you love with this man or not?
Can go under the handle or holding hands, and allow him to hug your shoulders or userexit hair, snuggle up to him, accidentally poshatnuvsheesya on the heels, but still no sex. At least in order to add romantic memories in the collection, unfortunately, not every man sleeping with a woman continues her take care of nicely.
You still share all costs in half. With calls and text messages is also better not to hurry. Maybe you didn't like it, but he doesn't know how to say this, so as not to offend.
The third date
- decisive. In the sense that you'll decide whether to take the risk and try to make a two-headed and four-footed beast," as was stated by one of the fiction writer, or an intimate acquaintance is postponed indefinitely.
Inviting the holder to your home or accepting his invitation, be prepared for the fact that you at least offer sex, and the maximum - will try to insist on the continuation of the relationship. First sex, first fuck, is unlikely to be perfect - both of you will be in a hurry to be ashamed of, it will take time to establish contact. But as you already know, it will be easier to avoid the psychological barriers and to inform each other of their desire. Including "no, I don't want sex" - but Hey, don't be offended if he says it first.
If you don't want to meet on or prepared solely for Platonic relationships - it's time to put the knight in popularity. You learned about each other enough to understand whether you you. In principle, if you want to stir up passion, set aside the first affinity up to the fourth or fifth date, but not longer.
You can allow him to pay for itself. You can send in the morning instant message-type the whole, you were great". A further initiative meetings for some time belongs to the man. Does not call or write, does not appoint meetings - alas. You're a wise woman, and yourself know everything... including that of any rule there are exceptions.
The pros and cons of sex on the first date
Pros:
Is the lightning. The man with whom you have slipped spark, not in your social circle, tomorrow he flies to Paris, completing a tour or going to the army. Another chance with him sex will not be, as long affair in your plans do not include.
- It passionately. You entail to each other desire, and desire. You didn't know this person yesterday and forget it tomorrow, so triggered "rule of the hitcher" - most likely people open before the neighbors in a train compartment or aircraft seat. You will be candid in sex and he too.
- It is beautiful. Almost like in the movies. You have one night and one night, and you both realize this. Therefore, strive to put in hours and minutes that would be invested in the months and years of a close relationship, work hard to complete, leaving nothing for later.
Cons:
- It is dangerous. There is no guarantee that the man will not be physically or mentally ill, will cost you roughly, pulls out a wallet.
- It's risky. You don't know nothing about the man except what he wants and is willing to jump into bed after a couple hours of dancing and talking. It is not excluded that he had problems with potency or strange erotic cravings. To explain unfamiliar uncle that you are not interested in "Golden showers" or anal sex while being with him in bed - not the most pleasant experience.
Is hopeless. With high probability the man will go in search of new prey.
The pros and cons of chaste relationship
Pros:
Is romantic. Incredibly romantic as teenagers to go by the handle, to tremble because of accidental touching, hugging goodbye and sit for hours in the stairwell, unable to separate. Chastity raises feelings at an incredible height: the main thing - not to stumble.
- This is reasonable. You get to know each other, to understand how you each other interesting, to learn how to negotiate and find compromises. And come to sex as a natural result of intimacy, not boosting events.
- It is safe. Within a few months of Dating before the first sex, you will have time to negotiate protection and measures in case of pregnancy, make sure that you are both healthy, and learn about the sexual preferences of your partner.
Cons:
Is suspicious. If a healthy man for a few months meetings have never been made you have sex, maybe he's impotent. Or homosexual. Or, more likely, it tends to make you fall in yourself and have sex all the time involved with another woman.
- It's boring. Relationships can grow in brotherly and friendly, bypassing the phase of active sex. Or the man switches to some random sex kitten.
- It "is a bit of rhythm". First a man wants you, and you refused. Then he comes to terms with your waiver and moves away, and you begin to dream about sex... and relationships fall into the opposite, failing to properly begin.
Summarizing, we can say that is a reasonable distance between the first contact and the first sex is beneficial relationship with a man. Petropulos without special reason, you run the risk of losing it, putting the proximity of life without having risk to push the knight more amenable to the lady.
"The rule of three visits" is a good safety net against possible errors. So "three times, measure twice, once in bed," said English.
Can we call them boring. And it is possible - wise.
Author:
Bathan Century
Source:
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