For example, beating up another child.
Let's imagine the situation.
You and your baby's age, for example, from one to two years came to visit a friend. And she is also a mother, and she also has a baby. About the same with your kids in years.
Or the friend you came with your wonderful child.
In General, everything is wonderful, beautiful, amazing. The kids dressed up in stylish, fashionable suits, housewife shows off elegant home outfit, the kitchen smells good coffee and cake.
And now you put small angels on the soft carpet against each other, said, "don't get hurt, kids! "and with the calm in my soul was distracted by coffee, cake and chat. Of course, about them, about dear geishecker. Of course, your children are the kindest, most sensitive, most affectionate.
- And my PETERKA, present, yesterday ran up and hugged! I nearly cried!
- And my Masha learned how to say mom, I love you! Of course, it is difficult to disassemble, but I understand!
- And my Petenka...
- What are you?!
As frustrating when your inspired conversation is broken suspicious mess and screams. What happened?
And this podroikina Masha pounding your Petenko toy tucked under child's arm. Or Vice versa, your Petenka grabbed Masha teeth in the leg and hangs, like a tick. God, what a horror. Beautiful suit was crumpled, the bow with Masha flew, Petenka disheveled, as if stuffed, faces both in tears. And how to treat it? And who is to blame? And most importantly: what should we do?
Life incident of little angels:
Anya (1, 5) came to visit Janecke(2 years old). More precisely, this mother came to each other's homes; Anya and Yana actually saw each other for the first time, and was somehow not ready for secular chatter. Therefore, when Yana tried to shoot with Anna's bow, Anya, though younger, he showed himself a true Amazon: knocked Janocko on the floor and began to wail. Mom straightened up, but the situation was, frankly, a surprise to both sides.
Any negative behavior of the child is a cry for help. This particularly applies to very young children who can't just normal words, as adults, to call what happens to them. And, incidentally, outbursts of aggression can be caused by any feeling of discomfort, even hunger, fatigue or stress. The word aggressio in translation from Latin means "attack". Babies aggression occurs as active expressions of emotions of anger, which manifests itself through damage to person or object.
Your child simply shows emotion. He expresses protest: the child was frightened by the unfamiliar surroundings, the alien aunt, another child. Because before the baby never with such amazing things not seen before. And all unfamiliar to young children, as a rule, is frightening. The child is confused, he does not know what will end this terrible "new"... and then there's another kid grabs his toys. Or touch handles. Rather, rather, to defend! Until IT took all the toys, home and mom!!!
Or rather to defend until "it" has not taken a bow... and all mom. You never know what the "this" in mind.
Life incident of little angels:
After a few days already Yana came to visit Anna. This time mothers were wary. When Janocko stripped and spent in the room, she saw her terrified and hid behind my mother's leg. "Yana, what are you, what are you afraid of? "her mother asked. And Yana pointed a finger at Ann and said, "THIS! "
If your kids got into a fight, you often two problems: how to calm your child, and how to calm a different mother. Because different moms are. There are, for example, such as this mother of the LiveJournal community "Kids": "there were cases only speak about what to do with my child: he hit another child on the head with a wooden horse, has closed another girl in the toilet was an incident when my child and the other boy pulled at each other for a causal space in the toilet, being left there alone. Educator obviously can't keep track of children.
Immediately, I note that my child is absolutely not aggressive, very friendly, active, but impulsive, he often does not know how to Express their feelings and emotions"
See how this mom's all just? The teacher can't cope. And my - my, no, you, my not at all aggressive. And the knight's move on the head - it's fatal accident!
If your girlfriend is one of those klusek who is hard not to notice problems and prefer to blame everything on others, for God's sake, take your child and try to keep your children no longer overlap. It's not the last conflict. And each time will be guilty - who? Properly, your child! Conflicts will arise again and again. You look, and you will one day fight.
If you encounter a situation: to quarrel with a friend or indicative shaming own child - what will you choose?
All children sometimes fight with each other, this is normal. They are not able to control their emotions and negative too! When your kid ran to you and hugged - it's the same spontaneity with which he cracked nasty and strange boy in the sandbox. You must understand that you may not like the actions of a child, but in any case not the child himself! And these notorious comparison: "Look what a good boy Eugene, he's not fighting, and you? "is completely wrong in communicating with your baby.
Even if the other mother clearly wants these words to hear from you. After all, if Jane is a good boy, and I'm poor, so my parents love him and don't love me". It's a tough injury for crumbs, because their parents at this age - the most beloved, the most important people in the world. Not to hurt the psyche of her child for the sake of someone else's stupidity. Moreover, what is it you wanted to talk with my friend and boast child. The child is nothing like you have not been asked.
Well, what to do?
If your girlfriend is an adequate man, and understands that it is necessary to solve the problem together, let each one of you will explain specifically the child, that fight is not necessary. Perhaps a child that didn't know?
Find out what was the subject of the argument: if it was a toy, take it away from her eyes.
In any case, without showing preference, do not evaluate if the children the situation, "you're right - you're wrong." Your children are still small, "debriefing" is for the older children. Godovikov and dochodowego you just need to pilfer, and let every mother will calm and comfort your baby. Tell your kid that he made another painful: suddenly the baby and does not know?
Please be aware that a very young child is not capable adult to assess and understand their actions. For this purpose you need. The mother should be watchful shepherd. So you and your friend for a long time does not Shine a quiet chat. You know that little baby is a huge responsibility?
Now. It is her. Take some time and you will be distracted by the chatter and female friendship. They can send their kid to kindergarten: let the teacher a headache, how to occupy the kids so they tore each other curls and bows. But now watch, mom.
As kids, of course, interested in other kids. Everything is getting better, when the situation becomes familiar, and not stressful. And then the "competitor" already and not a competitor at all, and fellowship with him - an exciting adventure and a new round in the knowledge of the world.
And to understand each other, who is to blame, and whose child first began - a thankless task, and, frankly, useless.
Life incident of little angels:
Anya and Yana met again.
They already knew each other. In the end, they survived so much together! The meeting was held in a most friendly atmosphere.
Anya took off the top of your beautiful bow, and handed Janecke. And Yana gave Anya your favorite big machine. And then they two hours quietly played together on the soft carpet.
Here they are, kids. Just fluff and feathers flew and here we are already reconciled, something lookout each other, share toys. Communicate. Reect on them not for what they are not adults. It's you, great aunties, within five minutes talking to each other through clenched teeth, and now I suspect that to blame the "other child". Leave it alone. In the disassembly little angels is to blame. And to no other unpleasant situations and conflicts, it is necessary simply to keep track of children.
And not so distracted by coffee.
Author:
Kirichenko N.
Source:
Леди@mail.ru
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