Deprivation of virginity: do not be afraid!

The wedding night is an unforgettable event in the life of love. Girls attitude first intercourse is significantly different from that of men. Most of them are facing the fear of first intercourse. They like affection, hugs, kisses, sweet words the man she loved, but the upcoming sexual intercourse is often perceived to slowly-cautiously. Therefore, young people have to face the feelings and experiences of the girls. It must be patiently persistent, gentle and always confident in their abilities. Unwillingness to consider the state of his beloved, and sometimes rude violence can inflict mental, as if she resists, and physical injury are often serious for further intimate life consequences (for example, the development of vaginismus or the formation of a young woman disgust to sexual intercourse). For centuries millions of women lost their virginity in the bosom of nature, but today, in the era of civilization and antiseptics, need more hygiene. In short, the conclusion is simple: the best thing “to do at home.


Sex is in some respects an unpleasant experience that allows you to learn all the new mysteries of sexual love. When partners decide to start having sex, they need to limit foreplay, as they cause the blood flow to the genitals, increasing the possibility of further bleeding and increasing neural excitability, which may lead to discomfort during their first sexual intercourse. It is difficult to expect that a woman, even if it is developed in a sexual relationship, will be able to experience orgasm during first coitus, because pain usually block sexual arousal, although there are, of course, exceptions. Foreplay before the first sexual intercourse should be tender, infused with warmth and love and less focused on the excitement of erotic sensuality.




Choose the correct position during intercourse is set to reduce the pain to a minimum at first sexual contact. In the so-called normal position (lying on your back with straight legs open slightly) buttocks women prohibit couch, opening, especially the upper part of the vagina near the urethra, just below the pubis. Straight legs are not open enough perineal area and interfere with the introduction of the penis into the vagina. Hymen when relaxed muscles of the perineum is not strained, free slack, and have long pushed the penis up until it is maximally stretched, will not be broken. Pressure on stubble causes, as we know, the pain, and in so-called traditional, or normal, position the process is delayed until the strain of this membrane.


Signatureseries, or Stocznia, the hymen can be a obstacle at first sexual intercourse, especially if the partner is inexperienced man (virgin). In those situations where, despite repeated attempts, only more reinforcing in women pain, unable to break the very least, you need to see a doctor, because the increase unpleasant emotions and fear impact very negatively on the mutual relations between the young couple.


This should draw attention to two points. First, during coitus, the man must act with confidence, demonstrating a certain pressure and making decisions not only for themselves but also for the partner. At the same time, a woman should not lose your mind from fear and not alienate partner too vigorously, because in her “heroic” defense lies, as a rule, the cause of pain, as men have to take some effort.




You need to clearly understand that we are talking not about some unbearable pain and terrible bleeding, whose pictures appear in raging imagination, and lightweight, can be a little bit unpleasant, painful sensation that lasts for a second, if we do, its foolish actions will not complicate the situation. And we should not forget that choosing the right pose when coitus and voltage hymen significantly reduce painful moment, reducing the sensation of pain to a minimum.




Before entering into a joint sex life it would be nice to worry about that in gynaecological consultations to get rid of such ailments such as inflammation of the vagina or intensive mucus secretion (whiter) from genital. Often virgins flow inflammatory processes caused by the entry of various infections (Trichomonas, fungus, etc.). Infection with Trichomonas and fungus usually occurs when using a bath or shower, bathing in contaminated swimming pools and t. d. In these cases, redness, burning and unpleasant itching in the genital area. If a woman does not get rid of inflammatory diseases before the beginning of sexual life, the first sexual intercourse can be very painful. On swollen and reddened perineum easily formed inflamed wounds, which causes an unpleasant, painful reaction when trying to break the hymen. That is why, before you marry the girl it is necessary to seem to the gynecologist.




Unpleasant sensations in the first period of sexual life can also deliver small tears hymen to heal which require a certain time. Therefore, if the husband does not rein in his temper and will not show some restraint, you will not have time to heal these small wounds that can become inflamed, pripyati and to bleed at every attempt of sexual intercourse. Daily (sometimes multiple) coitus can contribute to the emergence of the woman's pain for several days or even weeks after the first intercourse for a long time clinging to her desire to fulfill her marital duties.




The iron rule for men should be the resumption of sexual life is not earlier than a few days after the first intercourse, that is, after healing of the hymen tears. The woman in this period may be advisable after pidmyvannya genitals morning and evening to lubricate the crotch glycerin: this measure accelerates the healing process. When the wound is completely healed, then when lubricating glycerin will not feel burning and tingling.




Later, after healing of the rupture of the hymen, sex can be some pain, because it takes time for skin tissue of the vestibule of the vagina and the vagina are accustomed to the pressure of the male penis and mechanical friction. Gradually, it is reasonable dosing sexual intercourse, the young couple will gain experience and appropriate skills.


At the initial stage of sexual life can also recommend regularly lubricate the crotch grease or simply glycerin after pidmyvannya, and just before intercourse, it is advisable to lightly the entrance of the vagina special vaginal lubrication.




Avoid painful coitus woman before the first sexual intercourse should be placed under the buttocks rolled cushion pillow or cushion of the sofa so that the pelvis was slightly elevated. Legs apart and knees bent, the woman should be pressed as close as possible to the chest, because in this position the upper part of the vagina, is located close to the pubis and clitoris. Male penis rises and rests in the hymen to the bottom of the vestibule of the vagina and perineum. When wide apart, knees pressed to his chest, Maidenhead maximally strained at the entrance of the vagina, which facilitates quick break.




Complicates the first sexual intercourse and the protective reaction of the muscles of the perineum of the female partner. When this tense two muscle groups: the first - thigh muscles, seeking to shift the hips tighter to each other, and the second - the muscles of the perineum, sphincter located between the anus and the bottom of the vagina. The muscles of the perineum, powerful and elastic, form a kind of elastic cushion, which, straining, narrows the vagina. These muscles with the ability to be much shorter, put pressure on the penis from the bottom, pushing it up and closer to the pubis, which creates a situation typical for a lying position with straight legs, that is, first of all, there is a danger of damage to the region of the urethra and clitoris. Therefore, in the recommended position, the woman should consciously relax the muscles of the perineum.




Acute pain during sexual intercourse causes, for example, the unusual structure of the bones of the pubis.


Pubic bone in women with the correct shape has the form of a roller with a thickness approximately in the thumb, which curves and forms pubic Eminence. This bone hangs a kind of arch over the entrance of the vagina, edges grow together with the bones of the pelvis, and does not represent obstacles for coitus. For some women, the pubic has the form of a flat saber strips of width 3-4 finger, almost half closing the lumen of the vestibule of the vagina. In this form the pubic bone in her lower edge becomes an obstacle, causing a sharp pain when trying to enter male penis into the vagina. She especially felt when the penis presses on the periosteum and presses the urethra to the sharp edge of the pubic bone. Pain when pressing on the periosteum is very painful and repeated, usually, every time I try to resume sexual intercourse. All this helps keep defensive conditioned reflex and negative attitude of women towards sexual life.




Loss disconnectedly painless coitus with saber structure of the pubis need to find a position in which a wide plate pubic bone, partially closing the entrance of the vagina, could occupy a horizontal position, facilitating the introduction of the penis in advance of the vagina. The most convenient is the following position: the woman puts under buttocks rolled cushion pillow or blanket so that the whole pelvis was raised and the knees are bent and pressed to the chest. The advantage of this posture is that the bones of the pelvis change their position, and the pubic bone is horizontal; a woman can use your fingers to make sure that the sharp edge of the pubic bone climbed up the barrier at the entrance of the vagina removed and painful reactions from finger press is not observed. In short, having this simple experiment, the woman herself will be able to determine whether the unusual structure of the pubic bone the cause of her unhappiness in marriage.




Changing positions during intercourse allows the woman to choose the most convenient and painless. Major role is played here a powerful and tense the muscles of the perineum during coitus. With the reduction of this group of muscles in women with an unusual structure pubic bone penis pressed against the sharp edge of the pubic bone, causing the man discomfort. This protective reflex is a trend to consolidation, and often even after you change poses a strong contraction of the perineum difficult sexual intercourse. Thus, along with the change poses need to pay attention to the muscles of the perineum. A woman should be able to relax them in order to facilitate the free entry of the penis into the vagina.




There are also women, the development of the sexual organs which occurs later than usual, and a slower pace. This woman is in most cases “Matures” during the first years of marriage. Sexual life becomes for her a kind of catalyst, accelerating the full development of the sexual apparatus. Women with underdeveloped uterus and vagina have lower activity of the mucous glands, moistening crotch, and inadequate blood supply to the pelvic organs, which is essential for the preparation of the vulva and vagina for sexual intercourse (more about this will be discussed in the Chapter on the circulation).




Such defects of the genital organs will disappear as the continuation of sexual life, but only if the sexual relationship will be really full, that is, if a woman starts to experience orgasm during sexual intercourse. Women with delayed development of the sexual apparatus can be recommended at the initial stage of sexual life to use lubricants (greases) - lightly oiling them the entrance of the vagina. Reducing resistance and friction when you enter in it penis facilitates sexual intercourse, allows you to get sensual pleasure in coitus, thereby promoting blood circulation and rapid “ripening” the infantile genital organs.




In addition, there is another difficulty. The normal reaction of each person in pain is the desire to move away from the source of pain. At first coitus instinctive desire of women to interrupt sex when she feels pain, causes relaxation of Maidenhead, tightening pain. Despite this reflex reaction, when mild pain a woman must consciously make the movement of the pelvis forward, thereby reducing to a fraction of a second duration of pain in the tear film. Following this advice, you can cross the threshold of sexual life is almost painless.




The culprit difficulties during their first sexual intercourse, can be a man. If your partner is shy, nervous, not sure of himself, afraid of being “unmanly” in the eyes of the beloved, and this naturally affects his physical condition, he is unable to achieve full erection of the penis, to maintain throughout sexual intercourse sufficient rigidity and elasticity, delaying premature - before the introduction of the penis into the vagina is the emission of semen, etc., And if the partners have already learned the “taste” of sexual pleasure caused by caresses, accustomed to his nakedness, gentle touches and kisses, usually they are better prepared for any possible “surprises” during their first sexual intercourse and more confidently cope with them.





The man, who managed to ensure that a variety of fondling, kissing or surface physical contact with my partner cause he has a normal erection and ejaculation, does not see a big difference in your feelings when you first have sex. For him, it is essentially the next step on the path of mutual knowledge of the secrets of the body. As for poses for men, it can be in the traditional prone position, in which, easily pushing his knees into the bed, pulling a woman by the shoulders so as not to allow her to move away in the moment of feeling the pain. However, preferable is a position in which the man kneeling between the spread legs of the woman, holding her hands over hips. In this position he can control the situation and not act blindly.




Difficulties with erection and premature ejaculation are gradually fading into the past, exactly the same as the fear of loss of virginity. Signs of the time and current conditions for facilitating the tying of mutual contacts among young people, and we should not turn a blind eye. Nightmare first wedding night is history of morals. The situation when two almost do not know each other people's parents and relatives diligently and reliably safeguard from any intimate contact, suddenly put in the position of, respectively without being prepared for it, when it must silently endure pain, not to demonstrate his virility, hardly needs any compliments.




It should be borne in mind that the cause of rapid ejaculation and weakening of erection in men is excessive sexual tension caused by prolonged sexual abstinence. Sexual fondling prior to the beginning of the joint sex life (petting), counteract excessive accumulation of sexual tension, weak erections and premature ejaculation. Easily excitable men, caressing the partner before the first sexual intercourse, orgasm, accompanied by the emission of seed, resulting in a significant decline in sexual tension. However it is not necessary to worry much, because after a short period of time, the man, resuming caress, feel that the erection of the penis become more sustainable and long. In this situation it is very important to properly behaved young wife. It is well known that the reproaches, irritation partner contribute neurotic fixation of a young person for sexual problems, reinforce his fear of intimacy, and hence the probability of repeated failures with each subsequent attempt to commit a sexual act.




The conception in the first wedding night can hardly recognize the best option, though such cases is not uncommon. When matching the wedding night with menstruation should know that intercourse during this period is undesirable.


Many young wives in the first months after marriage complain of unpleasant dryness in the vagina, which greatly reduces the sensitivity and calling during intercourse - especially in the initial phase - unpleasant sensations. Dryness of the vestibule of the vagina and the vagina is explained by the effect, so to speak, “sexual nerazvijenost” meager foreplay. Such physical contacts prior period as kissing, touching, fondling Breasts, different sexual games, and irritation of the clitoris, promotes a rush of blood to the walls of the vagina, genitals, lips and clitoris. Blood flow to the perineum and vagina causes mucus mucous glands, while interstitial fluid begins to seep through the walls of the vagina in its cavity. As a result of these changes is the hydration of the vestibule of the vagina, and opened small lips, facilitating the introduction of the male penis. Thus, if a man will be able to make her feel the fullness of sexual arousal, that is enough to get rid of vaginal dryness.




In General, there is nothing complicated in the first wedding night there, and at first it seems like there is no need on this subject especially to spread. But let's not forget that the youth would like to explore this issue more deeply, but do not know how and where you can get relevant information. Detailed analysis of the difficulties arising in connection with the decision of the partners to initiate a joint sex life, convinces us that the information in this field is really necessary.

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