Get rid of these 10 behaviors, and immediately get rid of many problems caused by each of them:
Do not make hasty conclusions. This habit can make life difficult in two ways. First, we believe we know what will happen, so disable your attention, and begin to act on the basis of this assumption. People - bad prophets. Most of their assumptions wrong, and it is wrong and their actions. The other side of this habit - we think you are, know how to read thoughts, and seems to know why other people do what they do, or what they think. Again, wrong, and wrong. It is this stupidity destroys relationships like no other.
Not aromatiziruet. Many inflate deadly catastrophe of small failures, and react accordingly. A habit to make mountains out of molehills generates anxiety, which either does not exist or is so small as not to worry about it.
Do not invent rules. A huge part of all of these "must" and "should" with which you run, probably useless. All they give you is nervousness and guilt. Why? Following these imaginary rules, you score the brain of unnecessary obstacles and childish orders. And when you try to transfer these rules to turn into a scary, tedious whiner or arrogant fanatic.
Avoid stereotypes and labels. The words you use, you can substitute. The language of negativity and criticism engenders the same kind of thinking. Trying to cram things in certain categories, you cease to see their real value, thereby limiting their thinking to the absolute uselessness. Look what's there. Do not hang labels. You will be surprised at what you see.
Don't be a perfectionist. Life is not only "black or white" or "all or nothing". In most cases, "enough" means just enough. If you are searching for the perfect job, then you most likely will never find it. With all other work will seem worse than they really are. Will be looking for an ideal relationship, and probably spend all his life in solitude. Perfectionism is a mental illness that will not allow you to enjoy, and each time will send you in search of what is not.
Wrong wrong wrong. One or two failures is not yet a sign of a permanent failure. And the occasional triumph does not make you a genius. Single event - good or bad - or even two or three events are not always indicate a prolonged trend. As a rule, things being what they are, and nothing more.
Do not take to heart. Most people, even your friends and colleagues, do not speak, do not think or care about you 99% of the time. People from your organization, or living next door even, perhaps, never about you and not heard. Yes, actually, and doesn't want to hear. Life's UPS and downs, the warmth and the indifference of other people don't have to you personally in any way. If they are going to pretend it will only make you feel more miserable than necessary.
Don't believe the emotions. What you feel is not always a true indicator of what's really going on. Just because you feel it, doesn't mean it's true. Sometimes the source of emotions can serve as fatigue, hunger, anger, or just a runny nose. Do you feel good or bad, the future will not change. Feelings may be true, but they are not the truth.
Do not give in to apathy. Train to be an optimist. If you expect bad things in life and at work, you will find them. Negative attitude - it's the same thing that to look at the world through the distorted, dirty glasses. You'll notice only disadvantages, ignoring or not noticing anything else. It's amazing how you can see something there, if only to start looking. And, of course, if you begin to look for positive things, you will find them too.
Don't live in the past. This tip is the most important of all: forget and live on. Most of all anger, frustration, unhappiness and despair in this world comes from people holding past grievances and problems. The more you scroll through them in his mind, the larger they will seem, and the worse you will feel. Don't fight unhappiness. Forget and live on. Do this, and thereby deprive him of the power to hurt you.
Source:
Encyclopedia of women's life
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