5 mistakes in communication

And though you've been together for more than one year, quarrels and scandals in your pair does not stop. You throw out the extremes: all ideal, then the full horror. What's the matter? In communication.



The first mistake. Innuendo


We are afraid to say that we are concerned not to offend people, but forget about the simple truth: nothing, nor where there is taken and there is not going away. This implies that your anger does not go away by itself, and will only grow like a rolling snowball. Also you should pay attention to when your partner something nepokazivaet help him open up and tell you that he doesn't like you.





The second error. Wrong time


The problem for many people that is important for us exactly the right thing, which we do. Of course, you can watch TV - it's not the best time, but this is not to say that it is not necessary to appreciate the leisure of a loved one. Do not look to him talk when he is doing his job. This will only lead to the fact that in the end you slam the door with the words "for you TV is more important than me." Why he should think about what is important to you, and you in turn do not want to think about his desires.





The third error. Bad beginning


There are key phrases that we use when we want to start an important conversation, but they are not always successful. "I wanted to tell you, but it was not the right time", "most Likely, my idea you don't like it..." - can lead your partner into a state of slight confusion, so consider whether to set a favorite a negative way.





Fourth mistake. Long monologue


Leave the background. Of course, you want the best. Want him to understand the essence of the problem and assessed the seriousness of the situation. But people cannot focus on one. Anything boring unnecessary details. The maximum duration of the story that the man is able to listen to three minutes. If your monologue longer - count, you have lost a listener. And do not be offended, it's her fault you didn't take into account the "men of ability".




Fifth mistake. No secrets




Honesty is an important component of strong relationships. But do you really important to know how much he had girls what sex was the best in his life or whether you look fat in that new dress? Such things, of course, not able to put an end to your relationship, but to spoil them they are able. Even if his new sweater he irritates you, it is better to remain silent: your favorite sooner or later he will get bored, and he will throw it into the far corner of the closet.

Source:

Women's Magazine

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