- Please give me some exclusive magic recipe readers. For example, lifting the mood in bad weather.
- I don't like to give advice. This is wrong. Everyone should decide for themselves. No ready-made formulas of life.
- How is it not? Your parable is exactly what the finished formula behaviour in difficult situations.
I'm in my books not wanted anyone to teach. Just talked to myself. But personal experience is very compelling. Maybe that's why my books and popular. In any case, their own life experience is always more important than good advice. If I have something to tell people this: "Be bold".
Ready formulas behavior is a dangerous thing. Using old techniques, you can lose everything. For example, in love. Each love story is unique. If you want something to bring out the old relations in new - you'll ruin your new feeling. I first fell in love when I was 17 years old. It was perfect, although brought me terrible wounds. If I believed that true love must be exactly when I fell in love in 25 years, would not be able to truly experience his new love. Love is always something unexpected. But the problem with most people is that, once faced with the sorrow of love, they are afraid to fall in love. Nobody wants to suffer. But we must not hide from love, we must be open to new experiences.
How to read the signs of his destiny
- You're the one introduced in Russia indiscriminate fashion for signs of destiny... And how these signs to see? Now, if I'm a hypochondriac? Say, brought me a new friend in the movie, where the characters get married, I decided that this was a sign from above, I will marry the first person, and then until the end of days will suffer? How to understand the true character or false?
- Here are all very individually. No language of fate, no benefits, where you might spy a hint. Yes, you can make the mistake of misunderstanding the signal of fate, but sooner or later they will learn on their own experience.
You have to feel. When I was in Spain, went to the bar and asked where to go left or right. I said to the left. I was wrong, because the one who sent me meant left-wing party, thinking that we are talking about politics. And I went left on the street, instead of going in the Basque country. Thus I have created this sign. Usually intuition tells me where to go. The sign is always within you. Sometimes you book open at random and read the answer to your burning question. Or talk with the taxi driver. Or pay attention to the random thing is the answer to the question you were waiting for. We need to listen to him.
On these words Coelho puts his hand on his heart, a gesture showing that important truth can be found.
- I now, by the way, today was pagadala on your new book. Opened a page at random and read: "where we are waiting, we are always just in time". But you never know where we were waiting for! For example, there is the girl heels fans, and all they are waiting for her. And she's torn?
"I can't answer questions that talk about personal decisions. I only know that when there is some kind of a meeting, it means that you somehow needed this man.
- There is a saying: "Fate will come under the bench shall find." (At these words Coelho recovering immediately learns the word "bench", and attempts to play it in Russian. - Ed.) In your opinion, who is stronger: people or circumstances? That is his fate?
- But man - it is his destiny. At least brave and courageous people make their own destiny. Look: if someone has something very much wants, he sooner or later it gets!
"Solzhenitsyn survived - and me too! "
- Read the discussion of your books on the Internet forum. One 15-year-old boy wrote that of all the difficult situations in life it Coelho told him the exit. And you personally, what was a difficult situation?
I really wanted to be a writer. To fulfill his dream, it took me 40 years. When I was a young man, my parents worried about my aspirations, put me in a mental hospital. Then it was very difficult to live and work without a diploma. What I had just not worked! Odd jobs, writing for television. Then I three times I ended up in prison. These were the times of the dictatorship in Brazil, and I then wrote the lyrics for the songs has to be considered disruptive, although I have and love. In General, each person in life, there are hard times.
But I tried not to lose will to fight and win.
We have a person who has been in places not so remote, evil tongues can hang the mark until the end of life...
In Brazil the same thing. But your Solzhenitsyn and Sakharov survived and I survived. I could not allow enemies to take precedence over the other.
"Learn to live, but is ready to "help"
In one interview you said that in recent years people has changed - no longer with each other to talk, avoid eye contact.
- Well, Yes, in recent times people have become more closed. Began to see in the surrounding danger. This is because the other person is an opening. When you meet a stranger, there is always the chance that your destiny will change. But many prefer to stay unhappy, but reliable in the circumstances. It's familiar and safe. And any other person can disrupt this delicate balance. Therefore, many prefer not to enter into new areas. Later it becomes our problem. If a person, such a powerful ship, instead of swimming the seas, chose to sit in a quiet Harbor... Very sad to see this kind of ruined material. And the Warriors of Light - they are always at risk.
- You have a very optimistic theory that anyone can be elected, and to achieve unprecedented heights, it would wish. And what do those dead eyes, they are just life achieved and no longer want?
- This is not a fatal disease. I too have long been extinct eyes. For 40 years, until I began to write. Never too late to learn to enjoy life.
- The question as to the author of the literature of "morality". We have to go catch phrase: "don't teach me how to live better help financially." What do you think, to what point a person needs help with money, until they cease to have value?
In Brazil under my patronage is a boarding school, in which 390 of children. They are from the poorest areas of Rio de Janeiro. In this case, I think, much more important than these children, as you say, "to help financially." Give them food, education, love and attention. Until then, until they learn to get it themselves.
To get the husband is an alcoholic from home
- You are encouraged to follow their dream and move to new goals. But don't you think, here comes the conflict between dream and duty? As, for example, a woman with children will drop everything and go look for yourself?
Men also have different obligations. I think true love never interfere with a person to follow his dream, on the contrary, helps. Of course, in the beginning it may be difficult... As in the case of my parents, who passed me in the crazy house. I don't condemn them: it was an attempt to help me, manifesting their love. They wanted to instruct me on the right track "as they saw it. Wanted I did my duty, not my dream. But actually the dream and duty do not contradict each other.
- Each person has many options to build their lives, but we often live by inertia. Scary, for example, to expel the husband is an alcoholic home, and many of our women are willing to tolerate anything in the house they had a man...
Ha-ha, " laughs Coelho, is you, as I understand, personal, very painful question? I I am not talking about those cases where you just have to make a decision, and about the situations that cause you to have enthusiasm when you hands are itching to make a decision. Enthusiasm - the same thing that cannot be allowed to kill yourself. When it is, you will always feel the moment in which one must make a choice between the life you want to live yourself, and life is far-fetched that you require other people.
The main rule of success
- And if to change the life scary? Suddenly these changes can ruin everything?
All the people afraid. I am also very afraid. Change is always scary. But no one will do it for you your life. You understand what must make a choice, but despite the fear, move forward. This is the main rule of success.
For example, I have written many books and could already there is nothing to prove. But I still fear before each new book. But if I allowed him to paralyze myself, my life would be meaningless. Fear of failure needs to be overcome.
That's the difference between failure and defeat? When I've done nothing to change his life is a failure. When I went, dropped, scratched hands on the stones, was laughing at me, and I again went and fell - this defeat. But temporary. I had the strength and desire to move toward their goal, and now I came to her. The main thing is not to fear. If you do not fill bruises and bumps, nothing in life will not succeed. The secret is to seven times fall but eight times up. And then you have won. It seems that the Russians have a proverb - "it is Better to do and regret than not to do and regret?
P. S. After the interview he told me that he would like to ask your correspondent a few questions. It is a long and exacting asked if I had a dream and a goal, how many children and what I'm going to do with my husband is an alcoholic. I began to torment vague suspicions that Coelho is quite capable to do any interlocutor one of the characters of his novels - after prostitute Mary (Eleven minutes) he made from real women, who met in a brothel...
After questioning, he declared me an obvious Warrior, warmly kissed the top of his head and proudly went to the bookstore - signing autographs.
Source:
Komsomolskaya Pravda
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