Breastfeeding has a negative impact

Perhaps no one would argue with the assertion that the manner of communication of a mother and a child (especially in the first years of life) imposes a very strong imprint on the character of the kid. After birth the umbilical cord is cut, but the invisible, but very powerful mental connection remains. "We eat, we signed" is a typical phrase young mothers often cut the ear of those who have their children yet.


Freud was convinced that the child whose mother foresaw all his desires, will grow dependent on others, and life will seek the approval of others.




In the period of breast-feeding is the main source of pleasure for crumbs - mother's breast. And many mothers believe is a healthy pleasure. Because children who are fed breast milk, smarter (their IQ is higher by 7-10 points), healthier (less sick), better hear, see and have a more beautiful smile. And it is evident what is called "on the spot" - school age.




About the hidden dangers of this symbiosis, which lasts longer than two years, we usually don't think. But they face family psychologists, to whom the advice comes already adult children who grew up in families where affection for each other is so strong that it is unclear where the end of the feelings of one person and begin the experience of the other.




Too close emotional ties within the family often play a cruel joke. If separation of the child from the parents does not occur, in adult life, such a person will be very difficult.




First, because he is unlikely to learn to distinguish feelings from facts and will make vital decisions based on the current emotions.




Secondly, the meaning of his life will be a search for love and approval, rather than the achievement of specific goals (he even formulate will not be able, the most that you can hear is the phrase - "I Want to be happy").




Thirdly, his life energy more than anything is not enough.




Fourth, personal boundaries can be blurred.




But that's not all. The main problem of these people is their dependence on their parents. If parents cannot, as a rule, begins search for similar relationships and partner with whom you can merge in a single whole. If he does not succeed, then one emotional "crutch" is often replaced by another - there are problems with alcohol and drugs.

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