Gnome-confirmed
So, this happened: your angel three or four years came from the kindergarten and with a sly smile came out with something unprintable. There he stands, waiting for your response - checks to cool his parents or not. In kindergarten friends he was tipped off that the word is dangerous, and can strap to get, and the teacher cursed somehow. What is so special about the word... or...? Will check on my mom and dad!
Your wrong response:
- You heartily laugh at the kid, and even touched: really funny to hear tabuirovan words from the mouth of such crumbs. The child is satisfied: mom funny, mean, good words, and even if you are going to say then, so we can't tell you, you wouldn't believe. Next time kid, wanting to lift your spirits, will utter the same words, and perhaps new.
- Don't you laugh, and greatly curse and threaten all possible punishments: to flog, to sew up your mouth, spread the language of mustard. Or promise that little confirmed will turn black lips, and instead of bad words out will fall out snakes and frogs. Scary as! But not for long. Any normal child at heart is a great researcher and experimenter. He, of course, will try again, without witnesses, to speak the terrible words, and understand that you have deceived: neither the serpent nor the black language is not observed.
Your correct steps:
- Panic! That the child brought home a few bad words meant nothing. Nor that you are bad parents or that it is surrounded by the wrong people, or even that it is urgently necessary to take decisive action. Perhaps you are worried that the baby will ever bring shame on themselves and you in a decent society? Will I disgrace! Any moms with experience there are a couple of stories about how my poor child somewhere in the theater, on the Playground or at the party (and the worst part is visiting his grandmother) loudly expressed their attitude to what is happening. As in the joke: "my dad is the pilot! - My dad's chauffeur! And my dad PI...Yuk! " So if you care about public opinion, a little POSTROUTING (Oh, that word seems too materinem! ).
- Do not punish your child immediately, he is innocent, just have a good memory. Show that you are a little upset after hearing a bad word, and ask your child no longer speech. Explain that these words you do not need that they are ugly and they usually say angry or drunk people.
- If you see that the child perceives the Mat as something normal, for example, the girl scolds her doll: "Oh, you...and such! ", - cut in this game and tell me how you can talk to the doll, in other words.
- Be patient and not srevices: baby Mat is very fast, if not focusing on it. Do not do the forbidden fruit too sweet!
Carefully track what your child hears every day, where he expands vocabulary: children's memory illegible and catches everything. Of course, to read good stories, sing a lullaby, watch funny cartoons - it's all fine for the proper development of the baby. But with the same success kid will remember the words of the criminal series, which looks at dad, and it eternally drunken housemate.
Teen vulgaris (common)
The second "coming" of obscene language in a child's life there at that time, when he starts to feel a part of society, at eleven-thirteen years. Simply put, to be a "normal kid", you must be able to communicate in pacunski. For children of illiterate troubled families such speech, saturated Mat and jargon, it is becoming common, and a few favorite marsinah words replace all the richness of the Russian language. For boys and girls from decent families Mat is a way to curl about his adulthood, to gain insight into another world. And here the parents have to take certain measures. You want to hardcode that in your house mate will never and under no circumstances. These words offensive for you, and you have the right to respect. It is desirable that it is the father explained to his son that it is impossible to curse at girls and women. Even in the most hilarious girls should behave like a man.
Explain that in some situations the Mat is justified and even necessary - but this is a very tragic situation. For example, when during the great Patriotic or any other modern war our soldiers went into battle, they shouted more often than not "For the Motherland! "and quite another word, put all the hatred of the enemy and their fear of death. But just to say matermania words - why? Show on literary examples that only appropriate marsinah words really brightens it is a means of expression. Kids just knocks you out when they know that both Pushkin and Leo Tolstoy, and Bunin, and Mayakovsky could sometimes wrap materka". But, incidentally, very rarely imagined it was possible, unlike some modern writers, who are unlikely to learn in school. Don't be self-righteous and hypocrites, confess that you are well acquainted with the Russian language and know how to use it. If the teenager still have not heard from you any alarm words, he will be amazed by this recognition and, perhaps, make the right conclusions. Most importantly - explain reasonably why a normal, decent people are embarrassed to say mate, why is it that in our society it is taboo. Give historical examples, and if you don't know them, read at least the Wikipedia. Just deny something to a teenager is like waving a red rag before a bull. "Diogenes beat parent, if the son was cursed..." If parents regularly and openly embraced the swearing, they may not require the child of clean speech, explaining that they are adults, they can all. So after all this and achieves a teenager is more likely to become adults...
A few words about the ideal children
Yes, they are perfect for boys or girls, who never in his life did not say bad words. Maybe because lack of communication with peers or too busy studying. But they are going to live in a society where, unfortunately, the Mat is not unusual. And these children must be ready to meet the "dark side" of the Russian language. Dear parents, you are obliged to help them, because otherwise your good boys and Princess may be in the unfortunate position:
they will not understand what they say to their peers, and will become an object of ridicule;
they will not understand the meaning of many jokes, as well as their sense of humor in the company of friends will appreciate the very low;
they will not be able to resist Hamam, recognizing only the force harsh words;
they will not be able to fully communicate in the Internet, where Mat and euphemisms (it sounds better substitutes) are part of the network culture.
I am not saying to hire a tutor for math, but teenagers should have at least a theoretical knowledge on this issue, the task of parents - to limit their "language practice". And the last one. If your family peace, mutual respect and love, if you are sincere with your children and give them enough time, teenage passion Mat will pass quickly and without health consequences. It's like chicken pox - sick almost all, but complications are only a few of them... Be patient and not srevices: baby Mat is very fast, if not to draw attention to it.
Source:
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