In modern culture it is customary to hide and suppress their emotions, not to Express their true feelings. Instead, you're supposed to wear a mask, and better all the time to smile (keep smiling).
Child raising restrictions on the expression of emotions: "don't cry", "don't cry", "don't run", "leave", "sit quietly", "not gramatnicai"; prohibit "show" anger, rage, and aggression in General.
Any emotion is energy, and energy conservation law, it does not disappear.
Therefore, it is possible to suppress the expression of emotions, but not to destroy it. It remains to live deep in the human being unmanifest, and does not disappear until then, until it is expressed outwardly.
Emotions
What is the "emotion"? The word emotio requires an action (the pretext e - "outside, outside", motio - "motion" ), and in this sense, e-mothia ("outward movement") is a universal manifestation of all life forms. Back in 1872. Charles Darwin in his book "the Expression of the emotions in man and animals" wrote: "the Expressive movements of the face and body is very important for our well-being".
Later, Sigmund Freud discovered that the therapeutic effect is achieved only when you experience emotions.
Every emotion, in its own way, is experienced by our body. Joy - "bursting Breasts", from the resentment in the breast of all shrank, from disgust - "the stomach turns", shame - want to "burn" (pain in the diaphragm), and from fear "stomach cramps".
Emotion always requires expressions facial expressions (facial muscles), gestures (mainly the muscles of the arms and shoulder girdle), movements of the body (whole body).
But for the expression of emotions required and energy, provide a deep breath. Therefore, for the normal expression of emotions required free, plastic condition of the muscles of the face and body, free, easy and deep breathing. (read more about breathing we will discuss in the next release).
The inhibitions
If we restrain the outward expression of our emotions, hiding them from people that do this, only blocking their expression of their own muscles. Interfere with the normal operation of its own body blocking the movements of the muscles. If you feel something very strongly, and we have long and his long pent - formed muscle blocks, which, in turn, break all the relevant segment of the body, not only the expression of a particular feeling.
Suppressed the expression of emotions by muscle tension and blocking body segments corresponding to a given emotion.
In many cases blocked not only the expression of a particular emotion, but the emotion in General, by reducing the energy requirements of the body - weakening respiration depth. It is often accompanied by a predisposition to colds. Based blocking breathing lies unconscious fear to get such a flow of energy that breaks all the muscle blocks, and emotions will come out.
The consequences of deterrence emotions
What happens to us when suppression, the limitation in the expression of feelings and emotions?
Unbeknownst to us, this leads to:
- formed neurosis,
- there is a painful feeling that I do not live my life
- do what you want,
suffer, saying the supposedly "all the way live", "nothing can be done", etc.
- our loved ones receive from us the love and tenderness that we simply do not know how to Express
- "take offense" instead of repel, etc.
Blocked energy circulates inside our body in search of an exit.
The person continues to feel the pulses of unexpressed emotions, but fighting with them. In the body, rather than to bring joy and pleasure brings pain and suffering, "earns" illness (psychosomatic medicine). Man turns away from his own body betraying him (one of the books known psychotherapist A. Loewen called "Betrayal of the body - the Betrayal of the body" ). That in addition to the harm it can bring a man to disregard his mind of his own body?
Our bodies reflect our experiences
Example. Resentment "squeezes" chest regardless, shows people her resentment to people or no-shows. After some time, if, being unexpressed resentment fails, you may experience pain in the back between the shoulder blades. You can go to a massage therapist, but the procedure will bring only temporary relief. He can even put the wrong diagnosis of osteochondrosis of a thoracal Department". But as long as it does not remove the breast unit and will not give your offense, will not spin...
Example. Increased control of the mind over the emotions leads to the formation of the neck block. "Sandwiched" neck, in turn, leads to stoop, neck pain, upper respiratory tract diseases, chronic colds. (That happens with voice, we'll explain later). Can help the therapist? Again there will be an erroneous diagnosis of low back pain", but now "the cervical spine". But this man can learn to Express their emotions, and stop to hold my screaming, crying ("lump in the throat" )...
Where I live the emotions
So where do you live emotions? The Lowen allocates 9 "basic" emotions:
Basic emotion Where the Sensation caused in this area
Joy in breast enlargement, uplift, disclosure
Sadness in my chest compression, reducing
Resentment in the breast reduction, compression
Tenderness in the breast pleasant warmth, expansion, "spill"
The anger in his chest. goes from the pelvis, passes up through the whole body "pain", the extension
Shame the aperture area (between the chest and the abdomen) burning
Disgust upper abdominal compression, flipping, inversion
Fear the abdomen compression, compression, reduction
Sexual arousal in the pelvic area is a pleasant extension, "spill"
Perhaps this list seems too short. There are no many well-known emotions and feelings: anger, sadness, guilt, etc. Because it is about basic emotions. Other emotions are "surface", i.e., "cover" base. Under the "surface" emotion always have a base. The base is always more authentic and has much more energy than any surface. Therefore, when all the possible variety of feelings and emotions, Lowen recommends therapeutic purposes is always to identify the underlying emotion.
What do the TOP?
Understanding the unity of the psyche and the body allows the body-oriented psychotherapy not only to diagnose psychological causes bodily diseases, but also to eliminate them. Because muscle unit can be removed and you can teach people to be held to them his own feelings and emotions.
You cannot do the movements are graceful, just lying on the couch or sitting in a chair and talking about their experiences. This conversation is necessary and useful, but with chronic muscle tension, which accompanies the loss of grace, we must fight in motion.
"All the emotions belong to the body, the mind only recognizes." D. Lawrence.
Scared to show people their true emotions, right? And even himself to admit it is scary. If the answer is "Yes", then take a look at the table - where there is a fear? And get started!
Exercise
Studying his face.
Come to the mirror. Look at the years-long facial features. What emotion they Express? Raised eyebrows? Surprise or fright? Maybe shifted? Rage? The corners of the mouth down? In sorrow? Or smile for years froze on his lips? And smile it then eyes? Or just the lip? And maybe eyes wide open? In fright? Lip turned outward? From disgust? Or tensely drawn into a thin line? Anger? Cheeks are inflated? As a child who must be crying now? Or face was drawn and haggard and muscles tensed? Pain and suffering? Look...It's the expression of someone who wants to Okolitsa? And maybe cry? We will be attentive to yourself.
"Every person, in order to maintain mental health, should make faces at her reflection in the mirror is not less than 3 minutes a day. Not able make faces only idiots and Imbeciles".
Author:
Yanov A., psychologist
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